Is it really true that in "LOVE , AGE DOESN' T MATTER???"
By brenda_canes
@brenda_canes (9)
Philippines
November 23, 2009 3:50pm CST
Hello everyone, this is a general question , Do you believe that in love Age doesn't MATTER?
To start all this, i have a lady friend , i been known this woman since childhood and i witness almost everything about her as in we're like sisters, we grown up ,got married,and i know also her ups and downs , her marriage, kids, and how she suffered her marriage life, despite of she has gifted the amazing beauty , still she couldn't find happiness...At her golden age at present, she still possess the beauty that every woman aspires of to become , i forgot to mention she is now separated with her husband which is not her choice but it was a prearranged marriage..now she met somebody which of very much younger to her , a 25 year old guy, matured in thinking, responsible, adorable, everything that my friend longings for a man she found in HIM, only the age gap that makes barriers... why because the man thinks , they are of the same age as my friend looks only a newly bloomed lady.... so much so the guy falls in love with her,, even though how my friend tell her real age to the guy ,still no avail ... so they are now engaged,, but then still she has a problem,, due to their age gap and often she ask me what to do?she even planned to make a break up though she told me its so painful because this the first time she falls in love . a true love to the man of her dreams... just the age GAP that makes her so much worry...
What you think ? Are they end up happy or not? As for me , i am looking and after her happiness because she is my friend, but i preferred a man of her age... whew11111111 Now i realized that staying young and beautiful is not only for advantages, it is of great disadvantage too....BEING IN LOVE WITH A MAN OF NOT YOUR AGE... JUST LIKE HER SON'S AGE... i don't know i am confused too
22 responses
@ishme4nowz (679)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I believe that it really depends on your friend. If she really thinks that age matters, she should do what she thinks is best, but for the most part, if she really loves him and she truly truly adores him and he feels the same way, regardless of the age, it should only matter that they care deeply for each other. For some people such as myself, though I understand that love is #1 is relationships, I can't help but think about the age factor. The thing is that it really depends on whether you want to go with your heart, or go with your head; go with what you feel or go with what you think should be. It's a choice to be made by her.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
24 Nov 09
First, I think she should be honest. Let him know her true age. But age, is just a number. Love is hard enough to find. I hope they can be happy together. If she can't be honest, that should be a hint. A person cannot build a life with someone on a lie.
@entrepinoy (709)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
For me age does not matter when love is the issue since love conquers all and as long as the man and the girl loves each other, that will be fine because I know some people who have age gaps of almost 10 years and yet, they live a happy and harmonious relationship.
For me, what matters is you learn to respect and love each other and respect the person for what he is and for who he is and not for what you want that person to be because there is no ideal man/girl.
@nitinshukla (278)
• United Kingdom
24 Nov 09
Well age doesn't matter in love for sure,there's absolutely no doubt about it.The only problem is,you never know if it is really love.Yes,it could be infatuation or mere physical attraction.Now the issue is that you don't realize whether its love or not until you have actually spent some time together.Since your friend is attractive,guys could fall for her but whether the person in concern really loves her,only the two of them can answer or maybe none of them can answer until they have spent some time together.In such relationships,where the age gap is large the problem arises when the older partner grows still older and isn't strong and attractive enough.It is then,he begins to lose his charm and the younger one starts doubting his/her decision.Generally,females are more accommodating so they endure discomforts of incompatibilities for longer periods as compared to males.But this is only a hypothesis and no one can establish its accuracy.What does one do in a situation like this??Well,I would say,people shouldn't rush into getting married so soon,they should take all their time until both of them are absolutely sure about it.Its better to take a hard decision if the need arises rather than taking the wrong one!!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Nov 09
Love is a universal emotion. It is something felt by people all over the world. It transcends everything else in existence. When you feel the power of love, age should never matter. Love is a blessing that should be embraced no matter how old or young we are.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Nov 09
I think it doesn't matter. As we all know that there are many people who married just a lot younger than himself. I think it just OK. For if they are falling in love with each other, and they can have a happy and comfortable life. If they do not have a good life ,obviously they will not get married. Happy mylot.
@arkin79 (26)
•
24 Nov 09
Hi Brenda. I agree that in love, age does'nt really matter. Actually I am married with a man who's older than me. Our age gap is 15 years, we are married for 10 years and we havent got a problem with our realationship. With regards to your friend, she is lucky to find her true love despite of what happened in her previours relationship. but I would like to suggest that she must tell the truth to her boyfriend. if she really wants to avoid the problems that might arise of not telling the truth. Being honest to your partner is the most important thing to for a relationship to last. If the guy give up on her just because of her age, this only means that this guy is not the right person. If thsi happens, she must let go of the guy. Who knows, there's someone out there who's waiting for her. happy mylotting!
@Norah0804 (165)
• China
24 Nov 09
If i am a 16-year-old girl, i would tell you that age gap isn't a problem at all. But i am 20 now, i think age gap is really exist and it will emerge later in their life.
A friend got married at the age of 22 and her husband is 11 years older than her. She told me that controversy always exist and their idea is quite different. I think the basic problem isn't the age, but their different personalities and controversy caused by the age gap.
@freeze386 (73)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
age doesn't matter? well, i always ask the same question to my self. Is it really possible to fall to someone who is younger or older that you? will i guess, it is possible because if you really love the person truely them why not. just go for it, just as long both parties are okey with it, then just follow the heart. what important is the LOVE love love.
@shijingbs (7)
• China
24 Nov 09
although most of the people believe that age doesn't matter in love,there will be still several problems.you can image when you are still a young woman,you hubby's been an older man.you want to climb mountains,play balls,or sing for all night,but he can't afford that. your son or daughter have to go to school,while your hubby has exceed the age can drive a can .there're much similar difficulties.
@rhocky999 (3)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
uhm!!! i think generally almost people believe on that saying that love doesn't matter,, and I think I'm also one of them, however may be these could be more excited for the one who had experience it! but as long as Love is concern and that is more on emotion i believe there could be less problem,however i thinks problems arises in the external factors that people always criticize with regards to age gap!@ but of course that how Love could be measured!!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
welcome to the wonderful world of mylot. this is funny, engaged but the guy does not know the real age of your friend? age does not matter specially if the person involved knows how old or how young you are. honesty is always the best policy. now if the guy knows your friends real age then there is not problem to that. as long as they are making their relationship work then that is fine. i dont see any problem with age when it comes to love. the problem only will ome if the guy does not know then he might be shock. but if the guy truly loves your friend then i still dont think that there would be a problem.
@dimsumz (143)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 09
I think it depends on each individuals. If the couples feel comfortable with each other, i don't see a reason why they shouldn't be together. Unless of course if the male figure is one who looks to have children or something, then maybe he should consider age matter. But other than that, it's not strange one falls in love with somebody with large age gap. Besides, how can we know if your friend can get another guy that she loves in the future, and vice versa. It may be a "one time chance" to start over with a new guy right?
Hope this helps. Good luck for your friend, may she find the best partner for her life.
@birdlady41465 (223)
• United States
24 Nov 09
Age really does not matter that is for sure. My husband is 16 yrs older then me and we are soul mates for sure. His daughter is 3 years younger then me and she first had feelings of hate but through time she now knows I truly love her dad and would do anything for him and her. We now have 5 children together and his oldest girl is having fun getting to know them all since we are now back in the same state as her. Let them date marry and whatever and love while they can before one may leave this world life is to short leap and go for it.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
If you really are in love with that person everything doesn't matter not just age but also his background family status or everything bad about him you are accepting everything with open arms, heart & soul because you love that person. Its more like your one reason for living your life & don't even damn care about what other people says as long as you are both in love with each other.
@loricz (15)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
It is true that in love, age doesn't matter. I am in a relationship with someone who is 8 years older than me but to my surprise I even think more matured than her. She likes the way I treat her as a baby for me to take care. But it cannot be denied that she knows more on some things that is why there are also many times that she takes care of almost everything on my behalf. Actually, its also a nice combination to be of different age levels so you can update of each others awareness on how that age bracket behaves. In our relationship, I felt that we are taking care of each other very well and one factor that greatly contributes to that is our age gap, that is why we dont see it as a barrier but an asset to our relationship.
