Did you sometimes found it's hard to do something that make others peoples think that you are a good person?

Indonesia
November 24, 2009 4:03am CST
Well...it hapend to me many times. I tend to hold my self to do something that make someone think that I'm a good person. Not that I don't like it, it's just...when I feel someone watching me to help those who in need, I'm afraid that that person will think of me as a show over and think that I did it because I want others peoples think of me as a good person. So sometimes I just ignore those who in need for help, and in the end...I always regret my self for not helping. What about u guys? Did you feel the same way?
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6 responses
@MJay101 (710)
24 Nov 09
I would always try to help people, in as modest and humble a fashion as possible, because I think that it's the right thing to do. Other people are generally w*nkers, so let them think what they like. If they see that you're always helping people out, and not making a big song-and-dance about it, then I don't see that they can have any cause to complain!
• Indonesia
24 Nov 09
I don't like showing up or making a song about it. Even when someone prise me for helping people in need, I still found it quite amusing. Thanks for your respon.
@anniege (202)
• China
25 Nov 09
You are right. It is the right thing to do.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
24 Nov 09
Truth be told, I could care less if ppl think I'm a good person or not..I KNOW I am..my KIDS KNOW I am and thats all that matters..Everyone else is irrelivent as far as I'm concerned.. So sometimes I just ignore those who in need for help, and in the end...I always regret my self for not helping I couldnt do that...I've NEVER (since I was a young kid) been one to turn my back on someone in need....When I help ppl I dont think about what others may or may not think...it doesnt matter to me like I said..what I think about is how the person needs help and if I dont do it how horrible would I feel if I had the opportunity to help them but didnt and neither did anyone else...What I think about is how it feels to need a helping hand and not have any there for you..Been there, its a horrible feeling...i couldnt do that to anyone..Its just not how i am
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• Indonesia
24 Nov 09
Not everyone can be like that. I'm not the kind of person who can cheer someone with my word, it also put me in a hard position where I should begin to help them, plush I can't stand when someone watching me. I do love helping those who in need. But for now, I still can't help with that kind of situation. Maybe I'm just a coward. But that's all I can do for now. I always told my self, when the next time I meet someone who need Help, I'll do it no mater what. But when That time come, I just standing there, doing nothing. Thinking but can't decide what to do. I just hope that one day I have a courage to do what I wanna do. Thanks for responding.
@balasri (26537)
• India
25 Nov 09
It all happens in one time or other in the early ages of a person’s life. But I have crossed that level and become level headed and so sure of myself to do whatever I please and whatever I feel that will make my heart peaceful and content. The world is full of cynics and fault finders and it is impossible to please everyone with whatever you wish to do out of your own conscience within the legal limit. So I do not care anymore about anyone who has not got any business with my private and personal likings.
• Indonesia
25 Nov 09
Well...I'm 30 years old now. And I don't feel any improvement, it's getting worse. Maybe I ignore those who in need to much wich make me geting use to it. Thanks for responding.
@mohan89 (240)
• India
24 Nov 09
Hi penyarikan!! Even i feel the same when ever i do some thing called public service and makes me feel very shy facing people. But later i realized ven we are doing some good work or helping others why should i feel shy facing people and they should feel facing me coz they didn't help when they actually can . Later onwards I Do What I feel is right to me... After all its my life why should i behave good for others when actually i am good.
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• Indonesia
24 Nov 09
Hi mohan, well it's good if you can think that way. Maybe I should ignore what Others people think about me and start to act the way I wanna be. After all...it's better if we geting use to help people in need than geting use to ignore them. Thanks for responding to this discussion.
• Indonesia
25 Nov 09
Well i don't really care what other think of me if i help some one. If i want to help i simply do it, and it doesn't matter what people think of me. The problem is, some time, i feel too lazy to help other. Some time people mad at me because when i could easily help other, some time i just not do it, because i simply don't felt like helping. And yes, i don't care what they think about me.
• Indonesia
26 Nov 09
Yes, it is far too easy to said than done. Helping other, if we don't have the mood to do it, or don't have the "want" to do it, then we might end up being on the way than helping. So i think if i don't feel like helping, i better not do that since i might screw thing up. Thanks.
• Indonesia
25 Nov 09
Hi lord caocao, thanks for responding to this discussion. Talking about help, I remember what zidane said in ff 9, he said"we need no reason to help others". I always try to remember that word, and try to act like that. But I think it's to much easier to said than done. I'm still wandering if there's any chance for us to be able helping without reason.
@gx7001lm (63)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 09
most of my friends will always think that i would ask for a favor after each time i help them most of the time i just want to help others who are in need i realize that they don't understand or experience the joy of helping others in need how i wish everyone would feel the same way i do then in world would be a better place
• Indonesia
25 Nov 09
Maybe basicaly all people feel that way. But by the flow of time, they somehow changes. Some become better and help people even more. But some become the oposite. It's true...it's a great joy if we can help someone,but some peoples realy forget about that. Thanks for responding.