How do u feel when your parents set target scores for you to meet in school?

Kenya
November 25, 2009 5:18pm CST
Setting targets for me is really not a bad idea but when it is done in the wrong way is what i dont like. I mean setting targets without motivation.
7 responses
28 Nov 09
My parents used that method. I turned out OK. Not a bad idea. Although it was stressful a bit becuase you are pressured, but it helped me a lot in my studies. Although they had set target scores, they also make considerations. They are not that monster parents who take away fun in a child, lol!
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
hey slimade.. in my opinion, setting goals is a stupid idea.. coz your parents force you to get these targets and if you dont they will be very disappointed of you.. so what if you cant attain these goals that are set?? and what if you did not lift up to their expectations?? will they be mad?? its not your fault that you cant attain what they want for you.. and also its what they want to see but then they dont want to see the real picture that you cannot attain it.. i think they should just motivate their kids instead of setting score limits.. its not right.. target scores or not we would still do our best in our studies so i think they should just settle with what grade and score we get.. :) have a nice day man
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hi. When I was still studying, my father believed that my intelligence level was above average. He kept on discussing his expectations with me. I felt like he wasn't happy about my school performance. I felt like he wanted me to become the excellent student I wasn't am. But that was until we had a heart-to-heart talk. He changed his approach. Instead of doing his usual lecture-type way of encouragement, he did it in a discussion/open-forum approach. On a daily basis, he would ask me how I performed in school. He praised/rewarded me for my small successes and helped me improve on difficult aspects/subjects. Also, he would always ask who were my classmates who have excelled in school aside from me. He would normally ask me what positive attitudes I have noticed from these classmates which I believe have helped them excel. One by one, we discussed/praised those positive qualities. Without really imposing anything, I have improved significantly. Indirectly, my father taught me how to emulate the good qualities or effective study habits of my best performing classmates.
@saizo6 (2208)
• United States
26 Nov 09
I guess it's a good way to motivate us to do good in school if there was a type of incentive to go with that standard set by the parents. I remember my parents giving up some money if my siblings and I were able to get straight A's on our report card. It was something we worked hard for because we knew that we were going to get something for all of our efforts. However, it can also have a negative effect too. A student might feel pressurized if their parents set a standard that is too high. They'll feel like they are some kind of failure of something if they are unable to meet it. So, it works both ways. Overall, I think it's okay for parents to set target scores as long as it is a reasonable one. Parents should know what their kids are capable of so they should set a score that they know their kids can achieve instead of something that is way out there.
@happy6162 (3009)
• United States
26 Nov 09
When I was growing up my parents would pay us if we got an A or B on our report card. Even though I knew I was getting paid for good grade I still did not get all As and Bs because there were some classes I had to take that I just did not like and just wanted to pass so I would not have to retake it. Parents set target scores so their children will get good grade and be able to further their education in good colleges not to be mean to their children.
@bucketkid (239)
• Australia
26 Nov 09
my parents never did. my mother used to be more critical of my schooling but my dad was proud of me no matter what i got. saying that, i did end up in the top 3% in my school. i dont think parents should say, you have to get this mark. i also dont think they should punish a child for getting a bad mark as long as they know the child is trying. what i think is acceptable is a reward scheme - a small reward for getting an above average mark and a bigger reward for getting a really good mark.
@Fulltank (2894)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
Parents setting up targets with their children are not bad as long as their should be a motivation about it. I for example sets a standard like when my kids got a five consecutive perfect score in quizzes for a particular subject, then it would mean a trip to the restaurant or buying them stuffs that they like. When they got an A+ on their report card, that would mean extra money for me to spend for them. Any motivations I proposed on my kids just to have them good grades would do. But for parents who set standards and scores without any motivation would have a devastating effect on the student.