What Matters Most In Friendship?
By keshlois143
@keshlois143 (713)
Philippines
November 26, 2009 7:19pm CST
What do you think is the things that matter most in friendship? Giving what the friends need or giving what they want? I do love being in a friendship but it has been a struggle to me whether I should give the needs or wants to them. Many want to get something over what they really need. At times, I do not want to let them feel annoyed that I am restrained to share something that I believe they need but they are not pleased to have it. So, sometimes, I do compromise so I would please them but still I feel bad that I am not giving what I supposed they need. I really wonder what really matters in friendship!
3 responses
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
29 Nov 09
Hello. To me, in any relationship, sincerety and honesty come first and are most important. Those are the basis of true relationship, true friendship. If one is insincere, and if one cheats and lies to the other person, the relationship will not last very long. And, one needs to understand and respect the other person's position and value.
@keshlois143 (713)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Hi! sincerity and honesty? If I will be honest to them that I am not supposed to agree to them but I just cannot help so I reluctantly agree, I might hurt them. Anyway, thanks but I will try to be brave enough to really look sincere.
@chriswolf (360)
• China
27 Nov 09
What matters most in friendship?
Maybe it is the caring.
you need to care your friend.
and you could be there when others need you.
there is a proverb saying a friend in need is a friend indeed.
so that is it.
@soledadclickz (1106)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
Hi. Maybe they weren't really your friends. I believe that companionship and communication are the most important matters in friendship.
In my personal experience, a person becomes my friend because we could get along very well. We may not agree on the same things/opinions at all times, but we could still be respectful of one another. Also, I noticed that real friends could have lots of arguments yet value and enjoy the friendship.
I hope that you could also find real friends in the future. Those who would treasure you even if they could get nothing from your friendship but companionship.
