Can Men and Women Really Be Just Friends?

United States
November 27, 2009 6:29am CST
This is a question that I have been pondering for years. I would like to know what you think about this question. What have you learned in your experiences in life? Can men and women just be friends or will it always go beyond that?
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22 responses
@hunieby (207)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I think a man and woman can be just friends. I have had a lot of guy friends since I was a student and they have remained my friends til this day. Some of them are married now and I am godmother to their children. Ofcourse there are some guy friends who become attracted to me or I to them but not all of them have an intense attraction.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
You are right. Man and woman can remain friends. It can happen to be that way and not beyond friendship. I don't feel any slight romantic feeling with any of my male friends. We all just have our laughs and get together. Our children have known each other, too because we get to see their families on some important occasions.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I think it'll depend on the situation. It's up for the guy or the girl whether they'll become best friends or more than friends. It's always up to what they feel. It's just what I thought! Good day to everyone!
@mikeysmom (2091)
• United States
28 Nov 09
i guess it is possible but not in my experience. someone always has more feelings for the other. i am capable of being friends with guys but it always backfires on me and in the past they have wanted more than friendship. it is funny though because some of the guys i wanted to just be friends with now in my later life are actually my friends again on facebook or via email and such. one ex-boyfriend has become a source of comfort at times over the itnernet so you never know.
• Malawi
28 Nov 09
There is nothing strange in that kind of relationship. They can be good friends without people doubting. this all depends on how you handle your relationship
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Why can't they? I have male friends who are just as close as the women friends that I have. They are two of the closest male friends that I have. They are the husbands of my closest female friends. I have known them even when they were still singles and were just sweethearts with their present wives. Through thick and thin, they were all there for me and my children.
@allknowing (85963)
• India
28 Nov 09
Platonic friendship is very difficult to maintain as with time man is bound to get attracted to the woman he is friends with and it will not stay there. Two lady friends could go on holidays and share the same room but can that be done with a man friend? My answer is no!
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I believe that men and women could be friends. Men friends could help women in some issues, and the other way around. "Friends don't have to be lovers, but lovers have to be friends."
• China
28 Nov 09
I think it's not so strange that Men and Women can really be just friends. I'm only 17 and study in a high school,having mang "girl" friends, But they are not my real fiancee .They only treat my as a girl. So ,I think it is possible that Men and Women being good friends!
• Malaysia
28 Nov 09
Hi, Canesfan! Based on my experience, yes, there is no problem with men and women being just friends. In fact, I have a number of friends who are men and we worked and sometimes went out together without any attachment even before I got married. One of my best friends is also a man. So, when a woman befriends a man, she just sees him like any of her girl friends unless they have feelings for each other before they are friends. I hope you get what I mean and stop pondering because there is always a fine line between a woman and a man when they are friends. It doesn't always has to be something special going to happen between them.
@airasheila (5456)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Men and women are born to have a purpose in life. In some, maybe they are called to be friends but for others, they are destined to be in a relationship. It depends upon on their calling. Its hard for both to jump off into conclusion if they will go beyond friendship. Maybe it best to look and ask for some sign if they are meant to be in a relationship beyond friendship. Since they are already friends it will be quite easy for them to go on the next level of relationship. Nevertheless, not to set aside the consequence if they got hurt.
@ajaraine (74)
• India
28 Nov 09
It all depends on your feelings. If you feel that you consider her as a friend and you and have no feelings of love(relationship), then it is okay. I myself have been friends with a girl for very long and we don't even think about realtionships. Instead she and i help each other and counsil each other concerning our love lives. According to me, MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE FRIENDS. AFTER ALL, BOTH ARE HUMAN BEINGS RIGHT?
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Can men and women just be friends or go beyond. For me, i have this girl best friend of mine. We met way back in high school and until now we are still friends and a good one. Even now that shes married i still visit her house and get along with her husband. We hang-out together as family. as to go beyond, yah for others. we cannot deny the fact that it really happen but if you knw your limitation i guess you will not encountered problem concerning about the status of your friendship.
@lindiebiz (1013)
• Canada
28 Nov 09
it can happen, men and women can be friends and not go beyond that. It depends on thier decision. I have had several platonic relationships with guys and in fact if I have slept with all the guys that are my friends I would be a w****.
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
Most of my closest friends are guys and my best friend is also a guy. but sometimes in your circle of friends its inevitable that you will like someone more than the others and that someone may like you too, but sometimes, you just settle as being friends because you think, that it would be best for both of you. So it just depends on how you can talk openly about it for the sake of your friendship, because sometimes its not worth to risk your friendship for a relationship that will only last for a while. But friends may last for a lifetime.
• Singapore
27 Nov 09
The point is what is the meaning of the words "go beyond that"? Being a lover you mean? If "Yes" it should be a normal case. Man and women shouldn't be any closer each other by only being friend. If one of them get a date, don't you understand the word "jelous"... And you should consider what will people think about you two... Cheers!
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
I guess it depends upon the person itself... well based on my life's experience... yes it could be... i have a lot of friends who are guys... they are my very good buddies and friends... until now.. we remain friends.. we value our friendship.. we also have our own life now.. still the friendship is always around. maybe people should just know their limitations... =)
@dodo19 (39007)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Nov 09
Yes, of course, men and women can just be friends. I have male friends, who are just that. Just friends. It is possible for some men and women to only be friends and nothing more than that. It may not be the case for everyone, or every situation, but it does happen.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
27 Nov 09
I have several friends who also happen to be men, one going back almost 40 years. So I'd say yes, a man and a women can be friends, as long as each remembers that they are friends, not prospective lovers. My second husband started off as a good friend, and we later fell in love after our respective marriages ended. Our friendship wasn't a factor in our marriage breakup, and if I thought a male friend was getting ideas about taking our relationship a step further, I'd gently dissuade him, but it hasn't happened as yet.
@babshish (1389)
• India
27 Nov 09
Hi, Yes it is very much possible that there are many examples in my life where I have seen that man and women can be good friends. Does not necessarily required to be a boy friend or girl friend. In fact I believe that the friend from opposite gender can understand you more better if they know you well and can guide you as well. Because it might be possible that friends from same gender might think in same line, but if the friend is from other gender they might think in some different way as well. So all depends on individuals. I have many friends who are girls and we share a very good relationship.
• India
27 Nov 09
half part of the answer goes to man and half to women.man comes forward first to acompany women.Their intensions could not be just friendship,because if it was so then men would not cared about to make such approach to women.so its ageneralsaying that "men and women can never be a friend".