Love marriage or arrange marriages Which is better

Love marriage or arrange marriage - Marriages
India
November 27, 2009 8:07am CST
Hi Friends Well this is a not a new topic but still i want to hear from you people, Which is better a love marriage or a arranged marriage. In our home they tell in arranged marriages the relationship stays for a life time. Come on friends come out with your opininons.
23 responses
@vathsala30 (3728)
• India
2 Dec 09
Hi deepa Generally arrange marriage has got its own benefits esp. support from both the families. In love marriage, especially the eloped ones, i am afraid, if the parents of both the partners agrees for this marriages, then they may support or the partners will have to face their own problems.
• United States
29 Nov 09
I would rather be in love and get married then someone arrange my own marriage for me. In some countries marriages are arranged for there kids. I wouldn't do that to my kids. I think it is wise to pick your own and get to know them for a while and you will know inside your heart if you love that person.
@maximax8 (30121)
• United Kingdom
28 Nov 09
In India it is common for people to have arranged marriages and almost all of these couples stay together for the rest of their lives. In England love marriages are common and about one third of these couples stay together for the rest of their lives. Divorce in England is what happens to some couples. Couples living together is popular in England but it is not heard of in India. I can't imagine the upset of some parents choosing a man that the lady didn't like. She would get married to a man she didn't love. It might make her feel unhappy. If she was happy with her parent's choice of man that would be much better. If a couple get together in marriage because they are in love they might find out they are not compatible. In India a lady might be married at age 20 years old. In England a lady might get married when she is 29 years old. She might have had five different boyfriends before meeting her Mr Right. She might not try hard at staying married. I think that arranged marriages are often more successful than love marriages.
@LynnoO (14)
• China
28 Nov 09
In my opininon,I think there is no better.Both are great while both are bad.Because we can't konw what will happen in the future,we can't imagine!we don't know the one we choose will fit us forever,or the one who is arranged will not the best one!So ,there is no better!
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
love marriage is what i prefer.. marriage is for a lifetime and i think the relationship would really work if you really know your partner from the start.. to keep the relationship going.. you need to be really attracted to each other.. and you both need to know each other's likes and dislikes.. i am on a happy marriage now.. i married the man i love and we know each other very well. in arranged marriages, you don't know the person and there is a tendency that you will not like each other.. as a result the marriage won't work and your lives might be miserable.. it's nice to wake up every morning and feel happy that beside you is the one you love and you are happy to be with him each single day..
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I have heard already of some arrange marriage from my schoolmates before. But I myself is not. I am married and it is a choice by my heart. i am not really sure with what are the feelings of the people involve in that so called arrange marriage, they have just seen each other on that day and haven't even known each other yet. But they still marry each other since they were being betrothed. In my opinion a marriage born out of love is still much something special.
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I go for love marriage. At least in love marriage we can be sure that both sides are happy and not compelled to marry. If they tell that arranged marriage the relationship stays for a life time, well I dont know if Im going to believe this but maybe or maybe not. We cant really tell when is the relationship ending it depends on couple how they handle their life. If the marriage is meant ending it will really happen wether it is love marriage or arranged marriage.
@agv0419 (3027)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Arranged marriage always been a failure but I think it case to case basis. I think it much better of if you love both each other because the relationship going to last longer and you are at ease with each other compare if you are force to marry someone you don't love. Here in the Philippines it is very seldom but if I were going to marry someday I want the person I love. I don't want other people going to dictate me who I'm going to love because it is my personal life.
• India
28 Nov 09
according to me arranged marriage is some what better than the love marriage.. let it be arranged marriage or love marriage life proceeds smoothly only with proper understanding.carelessness creates a break in life which cannot be joined again..
@abhaijith (2962)
• India
28 Nov 09
Hi Deepa, I think, love marriage is better. Because we should have a mutual understanding before entering to a new life style. It doesn't mean love a person and live with him/her without the permission parents, and thats now a common trend in our countrsy nowadays. So better is a love and arranged marriage. What you saying on this? Happy to see this discussion in top discussions. Good day friend.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
It depends upon your stand if you want to marry the person you love or you want to marry the person arrange for you love can be learned easily if you will just open your heart. But it doesn't necessarily mean that their is really an assurance for arrange marriage to last forever if the two of you are not happy with each other anymore & you feel like you are living in hell then better to give up the relationship. Everything is only up to you on how you want it to be.
@airasheila (5456)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
With regard to your question, a marriage with love is really much better rather than to have a marriage without a feeling of love at all. Its quite hard to run a marriage relationship if you dont feel anything that will bind you as husband & wife. Aside from that, its not that easy to be with someone if you dont feel the love because there will come a time that you will argue on your differences and yet no love can conquer that conflict. And to think it further, a marriage without love can be blown easily due to the empty feeling that you feel inside your heart.
@snafushe (794)
• Canada
28 Nov 09
Is this actually a serious discussion topic? WOW. Obviously I am going to go with the love marriage, because even in the love marriages people find it hard to make it work. Arranged marriages are old fashioned,inhumane, and just down right cruel. Imagine being made to marry someone you've never even met .. what do you do when it turns out you hate each others guts and have NOTHING in common. Arranged marriages should be illegal in all countries as it is pretty much slavery.
• India
28 Nov 09
Well i think in these day i really does not matter much that you done love or arrange marriages .I think in depend on what kind of person you are that is the most important .If you are a loving and caring person then i become lot easier.But i personally prefer love marriages.
• India
28 Nov 09
it depends ya...sme say arranged better sme say luv is better...my choice would be luv marriage..i want to knw the person i am gng to get get married to...understand her...be the better someone for her
@morcu5 (20)
• United States
28 Nov 09
a wise person once said that love is a fickle thing, so love could go away with time. an arranged marriage is for economic reasons, and they usually end up enjoying their marriage anyway, so it is your choice, which is better?
@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Of course marriage based on love is the best thing that could happen to anyone as that is what supposed to be marriages are. Arranged marriages are made out of convenience to suit a family's interests and don't really take into consideration the feeling of the couple. The couple on the other are forced to accept the other person against his or her own will. It's just like your sharing a roof with a stranger and you're forced to do and share things not because you want to but because you have to. I don't believe that you can teach yourself to love someone but in the case of arranged marriages the couple do forced themselves to love the other person because they have no choice and just to have a little peace of mind when you sleep beside the other person and waking up without that disgusting feeling of waking up with a stranger beside you. Cheers!
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
27 Nov 09
I think it depends on the individual. In western countries every body is going for love marriage, but in our country it is not so, though it is becoming very common these days. If you have the maturity of mind and intelligence to choose your partner, then it is better to go for love marriage. Id you are not that good and if your parents are better in doing it, well you leave it to them, BTW are you married? If married, is it a love marriage?
• United States
27 Nov 09
I say love marriage is the way to go because if it's an arrange marriage then you don't love eachother. Because you are forced to get married and you could hate that person but be stuck with him or her for the rest of your life. At least with a love marriage its your decision weather or not you want to marry that person.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
27 Nov 09
hi,Deepa,people can know which type of marriage is the best when financial crises ..when misunderstandings..when social security need..when we want few people behind us...when we require few consoling words..when our children need some affectionate care takers..LONG LIST...then people realize that arranged marriages are the best when compare to love marriages... Love marriages can be successful when we mature perfectly..when we settle financially..WHEN PARENTS OF BOTH AGREES.. Then there will not be mo chance for Divorces because wife made food too spicy...husband won't purchase lipstick...or one proverb-among couple,who already got divorced with other partner and married once again... "You children and my children quarrelling with our children".. Love is God given gift,it may occur at any stage,among anybody.. But teenage love is very danger...as many knew..72 hours pills... I crossed my limits in responding this,sorry..