Why does Drink do this and A Friend
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
November 29, 2009 2:18pm CST
A Friend is someone you trust
Someone who gets drunk in a Pub and then talks about you behind you because she does not
agree with something..... is not a Friend
A Friend is someone who you have differences with and sort them out like Adults
Someone who sits in a Pub drunk with her Drinking Buddies and tells them that she has a friend who is useless
and Stupid because she won't do as this Person tells her to do .....is not a Friend
A Friend is someone that stands by you no matter what
Someone who sits in the Pub drunk, telling People what a fool her Friend is for not listening
to her what she tells her to do .......is not a Friend
This is only a few examples but yes I have been kicked in the Teeth again, I am
so glad I am a Private Person as such or my Life would be round the Village every time she gets drunk
Not that I have anything to hide but I rather People just know what I want them to know
Well after being informed tonight about this incident and the Person saying, she only means well
Gabs, sorry no she has no right to sit in the Village Pub and tell People I am stupid and useless
for not listening to her, so I am sorry but enough is enough now
The Words stupid and useless have come up once to often now, so no more, I will build the wall up again
and just say Hello to People and that is it for me I have heard those words most of my Life
I am not willing to keep hearing them just because someone thinks they have the right to judge me
and think that I am forced to listen to them and do as I am told
I could call her these things, I could tell stories about her but I don't as it is no ones business
Why does drink turn People so much?
I mean my Stepfather was an Alcoholic and he used to be abusive
My Ex Husband loved his drink and had a High Social Life, no matter what time he would eventually come home
even if it was at 10am the next Day, he was nasty, vicious and just plain Abusive
Friends I knew, when they had a few to many, would get hurtful
Some of the Ex Husbands Friends when they where drunk, thought they had the right to touch me
no matter how many times I would say no, for Reasons it scared me to Death when that happened
So what is it about Drink, that turns People like this
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8 responses
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
30 Nov 09
It is my personal opinion that Drink does NOT make people think differently. It may assist them in having poor judgment, but the words they use are their own...what they think but have too much sense to say when sober. This person is NOT your friend. You might be her friend, but she is NOT yours!!! You really should stay away from this woman. I'd tell her NOTHING from here on out as she CANNOT be trusted!!!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Nov 09
Hi LadyM
She was going on about me still smoking and having this Illness for 10 years, I have told her to get of my Back about it that I will do it my way and do not need someone having a go at me all the time so she blurts it out in the Pub but she was told to mind her own Business by someone there
I will be keeping my distance I just can not be doing with all this cr*p lol
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Hi Ms Gabs...
I can understand why she might be concerned for your health!!! However, as your friend, she should respect your decisions!!! She should NEVER put your chit on the street!!! As I said before, you may be here friend, but she most definitely is NOT your friend!!!
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I know you wouldn't put her chit on the streets!!! If she was much of a friend, she would buy the e-Cig for you!!! I have one of those friends who knows exactly how I should live my life even though she can't live her own. Only difference is she knows better than to put MY chit out there for everybody to stomp on!!! Drinking is as bad for the liver as smoking is for the lungs. Your friend should step very lightly!!!
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
30 Nov 09
ya got me on that one.
She was never a friend to have done this and I dont blame you for dropping her.
I do know your story and you dont need any more of this kid of abuse!.
We have talked on linewhen I was well in my cups.
BUt I would never talk about you in that way as you helped me thru a very hard time in my life and I guess I helped you too in some small way.
BUt we stico togetner and enjoy each other and true friends dont bash one another hugssssssssssssssssssssss and blessing
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Nov 09
Yes Joan we have chatted when you have had a few and it never affected your Personality you where still my wonderful Joan in so much pain and needing her Friend
You have helped me more then a bit, needing me like you did at the time was the key to break through for me I knew that I was still needed and illness or not I was still the Person I had always been, you helped me a lot and we will always stick together no matter what as I love you and you are a very special Friend to me
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
1 Dec 09
I don't stay friends with people like that, if all they can do is talk bad about someone and it doesn't even have to be me, I would rather not associate with them.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
29 Nov 09
Hi Gabs,
You should put that woman out of your life as she is always upsetting you, she cannot keep her mouth shut about anything and fancy telling eveyone about you and saying what you should do, well she shoud look at her own life but you know inthe end saying all these things while she is drunk will back fire and she will made a fool, just stay away from her hun, you'd only get upset. Love and hugs.
Tamara
xxxx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Nov 09
Sweetie I will be doing as I don't need it
It upset me very much
She asked me today why I have not been round so I told her I just want to be at home at the moment I was not going to tell her as she would have known who told me and also I can't be doing with the Trouble it would cause
Big Hugs xxxxx
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
30 Nov 09
A person who is truly nice on the "inside" is still nice when drunk, but if another hides a mean spirit, drink lowers all inhibitions and out comes that meaness. I would walk away (or run) from such people.
Karen2 people like this
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
30 Nov 09
I am sorry for everything tats happening to you nd i think that you should leave her atleast for her sick words and you shouldn't let her continue this.
I always hated user friendly people and their true colours can be seen when they are drunk coz they cant stop themselves except telling the truth.
Many take drinking as a fascination and they get over drunk and never care for the feelings about the person they are speaking about or the deeds they are involved in.
One day when they would be in your place then they get to understand how hard it is to take these kind of words or to be on the receiving side always.
gud day.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
30 Nov 09
gabs dear, I've heard numerous times that when people drink and their mouths start to carry on, they're telling exactly how the feel. Now I don't know how much truth is in that but in any case, this "thing" of a friend is not a friend at all. Don't close us, who are your real friends, out just because of one bad apple. She isn't spoiling the rest of us because we're stronger than that. Let her go to find someone else to dog and down but don't drop us because we wouldn't do that to you! HUGS!!
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Hi gaby,
First of all, are you and gissi warm still? I'm sorry you had to hear that persons rude and ugly remarks. You don't have to take that kind of crap. If this woman feels better about herself by talking badly about you, then she is no friend. But Gaby, not everyone is like that. It would be a shame for you to isolate yourself from the posibility of meeting a true friend. I used to enjoy drinking and on occasion I would have a few too many, but it didn't change my personality like it does to some people. In reality, those that turn on their friends just proves that sober or drunk they say what they really think. These kind of people don't know how to be friends. My twin sister treats me like that as well. She not only tells me what I should or shouldn't do but she talks about me behind my back when she is drinking also. She has never experienced any real trauma in her life but she sure knows all about why I'm going through all the bad things that I have been struggling to live through. Of course it's all because of mistakes I've made. Whatever they may be.
Be strong Gaby and just forget about this person.
Hugss
Leenie
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Nov 09
Hi Leenie
That is bad that you Sister is like that to you she should be happy that she has her Health and be more supportive to you that is just awful and I am so sorry she is like that
I will not be seeing much of her Any More I have had enough
I have found Peace after so many years of abuse I will not let anyone ruin it for me
I just wish you could get your Peace to as you do not need all this you need love and understanding, not grieve
We are warm still lol the electric has stayed on, but I do have an after effect unfortunately lol, never mind I will mend again we always do don't we Leenie
Much love to you and big Hugs to you
