How can I succeed with no parents backing me up?

I could not afford to pay for my girls college education and my parents could not pay for mine. I did not go to college. I got married and had kids young. I did take some courses on my own. I raised my girls alone. My oldest daughter is very successful in the banking industry. She worked her way up, taking classes as she went. My 2nd daughter is in insurance and working her way up. They will pay for classes for her as she goes. I have felt bad about NOT being able to afford to buy them new cars when they first get their license. I have felt bad about NOT being able to afford college. As a parent, I've always wanted to give my girls everything. I can't and it makes me feel horrible. Still...my girls have done well. They are good, responsible people. They work hard and have good morals and well...I've somehow managed to give society 4 really good people. I watched my brother struggle and go into deep debt to put my nephew thru college and he partied and flunked out even though he is a very intelligent kid. He now works at a wood factory. It pays his bills and he's a great kid but he totally did not appreciate his education. I'm sure if he had to work and earn it that it would have meant more to him. I suggest that you work and build your credit so that you can get some student loans. If you really really want this education....you will find a way and you will do great because you worked so hard to get it.

I know you don't appreciate it now, but kudos to your parents. They are trying to make you stand on your own two feet and let you grow up. That's the hardest thing a parent has to do. Most parents cave and give their children the financial aid they need. You may have to work a little harder than the other kids, but you will be able to say you did it on your own. You can do it. Another reason they might not be financially supporting you right now is either they don't have the money or they are afraid you will change your mind and all that money will have gone down the drain. Have you changed your mind a lot in the past? Maybe you know in your heart why they are not supporting you. Maybe they don't want you to leave their home? It's one of those situations where you have to ask them. You can make it on your own though. If the highschool didn't supply you with information call the college and talk with the people in financial aide. Maybe they can help you.

Your parents have nothing to do with it. If you want it, it's up to you to get it. When I was your age (from your profile), I was married, a mom, working full time and going to school full time. I paid for some of my schooling - I got a great scholarship because I was able to keep my grades up. Later in life, when I went back to school, I found a job that had a tuition reimbursement program and they paid for like 90% of my education. There are plenty of things you can do to get your education, it's up to you to do it though. It's not easy and it might take away from some "fun" stuff, but if you're serious about school then you need to let nothing get in your way. A couple of the best things you can do are: Work as much as you can to pay for college Fill out every scholarship form you think you might remotely be eligible for - you'd be amazed how a few $1,000 scholarships can add up and help Good luck!

I do not know what to say actually, but i will try my best to comprehend with your problem. You know, you can still succeed and achieve your goals even without them. There are lots of people, who become multimillionaire starting from scratch and with no help from others. We have hands, we have feet, we know how to think and most of all we have the heart. Now how can we use those, to be a successful individual. Think of Bill Gates. He have hands, Don't you have hands? He have feet, don't you have feet? He knows how to think and decide for himself. Can't you decide for your own and think for your own? He have the heart to be a successful individual, look where he is now? I am sure you also have a heart and courage to face the future. If he can do it, you can also do it, he is only a human just like you do. All people have different abilities. That is why we needed to use those abilities in order for us to be successful. I have lots of friends who are more unfortunate than you, but where are they now? Since birth they do not have a parent to guide them. They are left behind the shadows of hatred and sadness, but still, they become successful. If only we people know how to use our own, c2, then all of us will be a successful individual. Do you know what c3 means? It means Capability and Commitment. You are a human there for you are capable enough to be a successful individual, but of course, you also need to put a commitment in all the things that you will do. If there is a will, there is a way, No pain, No gain. Don't get frustrated, i am sure you can do better if you will just try. Maybe you are not being supported by your parents, but it's ok, they are not the one to give you your future. Who do you think will shape your future? Who do you think will be the one to create your future? Do you think you can be a working student? Think of it this way, even a blind person can become successful. Look where Stevy Wonder is now? There are handicap people here in our country who become successful. We have a very famous national artist but he doesn't have hands at all. You know what he uses? He uses his feet and mouth to paint things and make it a masterpiece. Do you have difficulties? I mean do you have disabilities just like the people that ive mentioned? If there is, what is it? If you do not have, then what do you think, you can do? Why do you think those people reached their goals? Because.... they Exerted enough effort onto it, even much more effort exerted. Now with all the things that i have said, What do you think you can do? What do you think is the right thing to do? IF those people become successful, do you think you cannot? or you can? Why being dependent with the help of others if you can become successful all by yourself? If a handicapped people can do it, do you think a normal individual with a good physical condition cannot do it? How much time do you have? Who command your body when you are eating? Is it other people or you? Who tells your body to walk? Is it other people? or you? Now try going in front of a mirror and ask yourself... What are the things that i am capable of? Can i do it? If they can do it of course i can do it! Now, there are lots of things that people can do in order for them to be a successful one. People are psychologically blind of what they are capable of and what are the tings that will make them rich. Here is my real question... Who are you? What are you? Are you stupid or are you not? Do you know how to use your freewill? Are you a handicap? Can you think? Can you decide? Do you know your place? Do you know how to walk? Do you know how to write? Do you know how to speak? You can go to different places right? Specially when having a good time, i am sure you can also go to places where can give you work and will allow you to be a working student. Do you have c2? I know you do! Do you think you can handle being a working student? Do not be shy, being a working student, at least you are doing your best to reach your goal. what do you think will happen if you start to move right now? And what are the first moves that you need to do? What do you think will happen if you will just sit there and sensationalize your problem at present? Do you think it can do good to you? Don't you want to see yourself marching during the graduation? Don't you want to see your self the way you want it to be? Those are my questions, i know you know the answers, you just cant think much right now, because you are thinking too much of your problem. Go cry, it is ok,it is a way of releasing your anger, hatred and sadness. After that, think, and move. IF you will just decide freely and properly, you will be a successful individual in the future. Who knows you may become one of the richest person in your country. Do not take your problems as problems literally, but take them as a challenge that will bring you on top of the line. Now.. What do you think is the best thing to do? And What do you think will happen if you will move and decide properly? What do you think will happen in your future, if you choose to take the challenges of life? That's all for now, sorry for that, i really cannot think much right now... If you still have questions, just message me. I am always here to help people like you. Hope it helps. Have a nice day! -Wilson-

in my case i have my parents support me financially. but i have a lot of friends who went to school paying their own tuition fee in school. i am a filipino as you know Philippines is one of the poor country in the whole world, but i'm proud to say we have a rich heart which dedicated to work for a brighter future. so you can do that without your parents.

To tell honestly before i thought people can't survive without their parents. And sad to say I'm one of them actually. But since i started working on my own i can say that it doesn't matter if your parents backing you up for your success. Many people experience a great effort to survive their own needs and if you do that you must be one of them. and that is one of the reasons you can be proud of yourself. In my case my parents give me all the things that i need before but as the time goes by i can say I still say to my self I'm not proud of my self. what I did I work and bought my own motorcycle. That motorcycle is the sum of all the work that i did, you can do it of course. Just try until you succeed. Always bare in mind if there's will there's a way.

I thought that I was not going to be able to attend school because I have poor credit, and not a lot of money. I applied for several grants online, and filled out the FAFSA form which made me eligible for money from the state. There are many different grants out there to help you pay for schooling. There are ways of going to college without your parents. I thankfully have the support of my parents, and my husband. But without self motivation, and self confidence you will never achieve your goals. Also evaluate your expenses. Is the school possibly to expensive for you? What other expenses do you have? Tust me though you CAN do this. If there is a will there is a way. Have you tried contacting the school to see if there are other options to help finance or pay your tuition. I go to school online, and my financial aid officer was very helpful in helping me apply for grants, and to fill out the necessary loan papers. The best loan company I have found for tuition is citi-bank. Just believe in yourself and you will succeed. Good luck!

I know its really difficult to continue education without the support of parents. There are people though in their own way was able to succeed by supporting themselves. Some have applied for scholarships and some have worked part time to earn for school tuition. I think you have to find which option is best for you. When I was in college, I know that my parents could not afford the expenses. Luckily, my godfather handled my expenses and help me all the way.

Well if there is no way that they can help you then you need to check to see if you qualify for and financial aid. There is some financial aid that you can get no matter how much your parents make or you make. Are you trying to get your own student loans or are you going through the college you want to go too?

Others have already said about finding out what other help you might be entitled to or other ways to finance the semester. What I wanted to add is that I know _exactly_ where you are coming from about having parents who are not supportive. My parents, particularly my mother, did not understand about my wanting to go on to further education. She fully expected me to leave school at 16 and start working which is what I had to do because it was a case of that or starve! To be honest, she had no understanding of anything other than the blue collar world and came from a time when anybody leaving school _could_ walk into a reasonable job without even having any qualifications. She even made my oldest sister leave school BEFORE taking CSEs - at that time the most basic qualifications you could get in the UK - because my Aunt found her a job. For want of a few weeks extra at school my sister had a life of manual work. I managed the basic exams but I suspect that this was because my sister and I gave her the impression I HAD to take them before I could leave and get a job. Back then there was no help with staying in school between 16-18 it was assumed that your parents would support you. I think it is very difficult for people who have supportive parents to understand what it is like when you don't. It's one thing when they _can't_ pay - at least then you might qualify for some other help, but it is very soul-destroying when they just _won't_. Good luck, I hope you manage to continue with your education.

Hi, maezee. I feel for you. Don't worry, it is not the end of the world yet, lol. I know we differ in this aspect. In the Philippines, parents have the responsibility to send their children to school until they get their degrees. It is because they live with us till they marry and have families of their own. I know of children of very poor people who have succeeded in their own fields. Some of the successful businessmen and high ranking government officials here were not born rich and they worked their way up. My cousin was a working student in the same school that he went. Us his relatives helped him. Look at some possibilities of working and studying at the same time. Maybe the school can help you out and they can offer opportunities for you.

Hi maezee,Well,as i know most of the parents are working hard to bring their children to school and to finish college course.It is the parents who encourage th eir children to study hard.I cant believe that your parents did not do their obligations.Anyway ,You can do it,Do your best to find a job or apply sholarship,many universities are offering now a days. There are some students that are studying as self supporting. as the saying says,Poverty is not a hindrance to success.You must have strong determination to finish your goals.Good Luck,God Bless!

always believe in yourselves.. it will motivate you and held you strong against the hardship of life..

hi, Maezee. My parent have support me but not much and I don't want to ask money from them, they are old and not have much saving. I believe you are an independent person, you know what to do. For me, first I cut off my expenses like take less meat at outside, I cook my self in my hostel, less go out with friend and so on. By the way find some extra money from part time job, and make some extra money online. Hard time you need to take now will be paid in future, I possible finish you study as fast as you can. Life is beauty when full of challenges. Good luck to you.

Sure you can make it! My son did not have his mother and I to support him financially! We divorced, and had problems of our own! From the time he was in high school, until he graduated from college, he worked full-time jobs, supporting himself through college! The more college he got, the better part-time jobs he got! By the time he graduated, he was already making top money in the field that he was studying in college! He studied finance, he studied computers, he studied everything, and worked at them while going to college! It's possible, it can be done, but you have to believe, 'where there's a will, there is a way' !. In our family we call him the 'rich one' because he is the only one of us that makes a six figure income!

I was pretty poor by the time my daughter hit college, no savings, no eal financial assets or anything. FOrtuneatley though she had done a lot of ground work her last year in highschool. she had signed up with some program through the school that got her funding for her sat's and other pre college expenses. this same program also guided her step by stepo in applying for financial aid and such. She wound up qualifying for full grants on al of it. If it wasn't for this, she'd be deep out of luck, there was just no way I could help her and it killed me that I couldn't I wish I had some words of wisdom to offer. But you do seem like a pretty intelligent and resourcefull young lady and all I can say is keep digging untill your nails come off and then dig some more. Nothing worth while is easy, it is often seemingly impossible. Ifeel for you and sincerely hope something comes up in the way of a solution. Maybe check with your local office of employment secuiry, Sometimes they work with educational insitutions and such. Perhaps they could point you to some resources.

Belive it or not, you're not alone. A lot of parents or people in general don't always have the support they need. You're in for hard times. I won't lie to you. It can be depressing difficult and you will more than likely want to rip your hair out. But, you just have to keep going. Your parents cut the apern strings. And, there are a lot of people who have to do things on their own and they do. It is almost always a struggle but anything worth doing is worth fighting for. You may have to revulate your plan a bit, apply for grands, scholerships and fincal aid. Its out there you just have to be willing to look for it. Find someone who you trust to talk to. Speak with your school guidence counclor either at your high school or hell even the college you hope to attend. Its their job to assist with stuff like this. They can set you up in the right dirrection, but you have to do the work. Always apply for more then you think you might need. Just like college entrances and jobs, you can always be rejected. Try not to allow it to discourage you. If you don't have one right now try to get a job. If you do try for a second. Consider becoming a part-time student so that way you can make any money you may get streach. Good luck I hope you do well.