Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive!

@cynthiann (18612)
Jamaica
November 30, 2009 3:11pm CST
Daughter's fiancee arranged a surprise Birthday party for my daughter at his parent's house and I was told not to spill the beans. Daughter had been in NC and Tennessee for a week. Rachel had told me that she would come to my home on Monday when she came in late Saturday night. We live about 2 and a half hours away from the city. And no, it is not a straight road but up hills and down valleys. So # 1 son and I went in together and the jokes were flying - at one time he had to park on the side of the road because we were laughing so much that he could not drive. Like me, he laughs until he cries. Then daughter calls and asks what I was doing. I said that we were going out to lunch as neither of us felt like cooking and I made the conversation short because she can be a sly little witch who may ask a lot of hard questions. She then phones her fiancee and says that something is not right so she is going to drive to me to find out what is wrong. He panicked and the told her to come to his parents house first and he would drive her to me. He then phones us to find out which way we were driving into town. But the worse thing was that four hours earlier, as he needed her to be out of the way, he had asked his friends to ask my daughter for tutoring as she knew that the husband had an exam coming up and he needed help. What my daughter did not know was that the friend had already taken the exam whilst she was off the Island but they needed a convincing excuse to get her out of the house. Later, when all of this ( and plenty more) emerged during the party. The husband said that every time he made an excuse and left Rachel and went to the bathroom or kitchen his wife would say, "Go back in there and study. We have to keep Rachel for a longer time." It was a great party and she was so happy to see us both. His parents are so loving and kind to my daughter she is so blessed. So tell me, would you have studied on a Sunday for 4 hours to keep the surprise Birthday party a secret?
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Wow! What fun that had to have been. No, I probably would have come up with another plan, like have some of her friends take her out or something. When I was pregnant with my first son, I was still in school and still lived home with my mother. My mother had recently lost her eye sight and we were awaiting her first disability check, which takes a very long time to come. Well I'd planned to have a baby shower, and made all the arrangements before my mother's check arrived... planning on using the check to throw the party. It never came and I ended up having to cancel the whole thing, which was very upsetting. One of my friends, who ended up becoming my son's Godmother, offered to take me to lunch the day the party was supposed to be held, and do a bit of shopping afterwards. I agreed, and spent half the day waiting for her to come pick me up. She was over half an hour late! And back then not everyone carried a cell phone, so I could not reach her. She finally came to get me, and we drove to the other side of town to go to a restaurant. Why on earth we had to drive way over there when there were perfectly good restaurants near me, I had no idea.. and it never dawned on me. We walk into the restaurant, we don't bother to wait to be seated, we just walk in... and there at a table was almost all the girls I'd invited to my baby shower and a whole mess of gifts for me and the baby. And of course we still went shopping afterwards for more baby stuff!
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Nov 09
hi katsmeow what a lovely surprise shower and they really did surprise you too. what fun. the nursing staff did that for me when I was about seven months p regnant and wondering where the money was going to come from for all the things the new baby would need. all of a sudden after I had just signed out one of the staff pulled me into a side room. told me some silly storyabout how I needed to fill out some paper work for my matenrity leave. meanwhile all the staff had gathered in the staff room, I mean all the staff, and then the head nurse ushered me into the staff room. there was food and beverage and piles of gifts. I was overwhelmed and in tears and was so grateful for all tjhe love from my coworkers. I knew I might not come back and felt bad abo ut that. but a baby came first.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
@Kat: That is a wonderful story and it shows how much they both respected and loved you. Your heart must have been so full of love to your friends too. The human spirit endures and people are basically good. You must tell this story to your son when you feel that the time is right. Many thanks for sharing
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
@ Hatley: It must have affected you so much as you relate the story so vividly. I am so happy that they did this for you. Wonderful human beings.
• United States
1 Dec 09
Wow, what a very entertaining story =D To answer your question, I personally would study in order to keep the surprise party a secret. I believe it was all in good clean fun to throw a nice little surprise birthday party for a friend. I think it was worth it to go through all those little obstacles of trying to set Rachel up, because that's what made the party something to remember and I'm sure later on in the future when you're looking back on all of this, you'll be laughing (and crying) just trying to explain everything that happened "behind-the-scenes."
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
It was clean fun but i do not think that I could have studied for 4 hours for an exam that I had already taken.
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• Australia
1 Dec 09
So, was the surprise a complete surprise? If so, and everything turned out so happily, I guess I could study or do whatever was necessary. I've only ever had one birthday party in my life and that was when the young people in my study group gave me a surprise "golden" party for my 50th birthday. I don't know how they managed it, but I had no inkling whatsoever. Talk about surprise!
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• Australia
3 Dec 09
Well, one of the duties of those organising it would be to make sure you were looking your best by rigging an excuse of some sort - a different "activity" which turned out to be just for you.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
I love to hear stories like this. I have never had a surprise arty. Not too sure if I would want one as I would want to have my hair looking good - no roots showing
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Never! But if need be I would be up to the task! LOL....and if it were stamping I could keep them here for hours on end...probably until the party was over! Ooops! I get lost when I am doing something I love!
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
That is cute - they would not let you miss the party!
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Well Seeing as if I do ever go back to school it will be for a passion, then I would say yes I'd study. I would do anything to help a friend out with "stalling" their partner. I think it must have been a very interesting time for your daughter's fiancee... and your daughter is very lucky to have found a great guy AND great inlaws! Oh and she as NC and Tennessee again? Hope she had fun whilst here!
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Ah, well I am glad she collected the Tax Rebate. Yes, the economy and recession is effecting us all... and I wouldn't blame her for not wanting to move out here just yet. Hopefully it will all be cleared up by this time next year, here's to hopinG!
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
Yes, there was a tax rebate for her so she had to go up to collect it an stayed with friends. It was wonderful for her. They want her back but this will not happen until recession is over in NC. She spent thanksgiving with our friends in Tennessee and had a great time. Her fiancee and his family did the cooking. It was great fun.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 09
No, she is not allowed to work in the USA during the recession. The school wants her back but she would not be able to get a visa from the USA at this time. She is having such a HARD TIME OUT HERE AS THEY HAVE CUT HER HOURS AT A UNIVERSITY FROM 18 HOURS A WEEK TO 3 HOURS A WEEK AND SHE Cannot LIVE ON WHAT SHE EARNS FROM THAT JOB. sO SHE TEACHES A FEW COURSES ON LINE FOR ANOTEHR university AND THIS HELPS BUT THE FUTURE IS NOT LOOKING GOOD. SHE WOULD LOVE TO GO BACK AS IF YU REMEMBER SHE HAD BOUGHT A HOUSE UP THERE. sorry to go into caps - cannot retype now as It is so late and I want to get home. She was there for 4 years and Misses it so much. Not sure yet what she and fiancee will do but I expect them to leave . Nothing here for them here. Economy terrible and no signs of it recovering. Blessings.
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
1 Dec 09
What a mix up, lol! This is so funny! I'm glad youall had a good time. I never did like studying, myself. I probably would have done my studying first and then attended the party. Or, I probably would have put the studying off until after the party. Since this was on Sunday, I would have gone to church first. I consider this more important than anything. Kathy.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
It was a mix up but everyone had a great time. It was in the afternoon and the studying was a pretext to get my daughter out of the house so that they could make preparations
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Mix ups happen all the time, don't they? Kathy.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
1 Dec 09
well as a person who loves school and learning all my life, I wouild study 24 hours a day and it doesn't bother me, I love it.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
I honestly do not think that I could study for an exam that I had already taken! You are better than me!
@AmbiePam (120787)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I'm glad it all worked out.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
Thank you - it was such fun.
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
1 Dec 09
cynthiann, Oh, what tales we weave and webs we spin and get ourselves entangled sometimes. Great and kudos on another entertaining posts. And, no I do not have to study for 4 hours for my birthday party (thank goodness). I am just happy on how the plot has developed for her and I hope the party was equally as great. Take care and compliments of the season.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
Thank you so much for your best wishes my friend. No, I couldnt have studied for an exam that I had already taken. My daughter is a lecturer at a university and was teaching the young man previous to this.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Nov 09
hi cynthiann wow what a devoted man he was to study and study then study some more. I am not sure if I would have been able to be convincing and study that long but I would have given it the old college try as my husband used to say.There's nothing more fun than a surprise birthday party when everyone is so loving and kind. what fun.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
I do not think that I could have pulled it off for 4 hours. I honestly don't . He told my daughter's fiancee that he owes him - big time!
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Nov 09
Well I'd love to think that I'd just have come up with a better plan, but who knows? If I would have to study to keep the secret, I guess I'd just have to get serious and study! Hope you had a great time though. Was the look on her face priceless?
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
Yes - absolutely priceless. When we reached she was still talking about leaving and driving to my house. It was really funny.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I can just see u two having to pull off. U seem to have such a good relationship w/your kids & that is great. Glad rachel had a nice party. Sure was nice of her fiance to do that for her. Great friend to, to keep her busy all that time. I know y'all had a blast.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
I think that it was great of him. who would want to listen to her and study for 4 hours when he had already taken the examination? I do not think that I COULD HAVE KEPT UP THE PRETENCE. The wife told the story very well at the party.
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
30 Nov 09
you did a good thing and you sound like it was a fun time.yes i would study for four hours for one of my kids any time. it means a lot to have good in laws.my daughters in laws are real good to her and i am so glad.she loves them more than me sometime i think.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
1 Dec 09
I can relate to your response as I had a MIL from hell. I swore on my first son's head that I would be the best MIL that I could be to mine. Have 2 so far and we are the best of friends. Your daughter could never love hers more than you - you are her mother and you are the one who gave her life
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Dec 09
What a great story that you've told here. It sounds like it was a wonderful party for your daughter and it is awesome that you were able to keep the secret for her boyfriend. As for me, I've actually only been part of a surprise party once in my life and that was half a lifetime ago when one of my friends from the high school swim team was turning sixteen. We all got to her house while her mother had her out at Glamour Shots getting some glamour pictures done as a gift for her. She was shocked that we were all there when she got home though. And she looked awesome from all the makeup and the the hair style that they did for her.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
3 Dec 09
Rachel's was the first surprise party that I have ever attended and it was great fun. I am just so happy fir her as her in-laws to be are wonderful caring people and they love her so much. She stays with them on the days she lectures and then she comes home to me!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
2 Dec 09
It was a tangled web wasn’t it? It sounds as though you all pulled it off really well and the party went off as planned. I’ve never had a party for myself; I did organise a surprise 21st birthday party for my ex many years ago and it wasn’t easy; I am not a good liar and I suspect that he was suspicious anyway. I managed to get him to the place we had arranged the party at and a great time was had by all although it was stressful for me to pull it off! Wishing you many more good times for you and your family...
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 09
It was very good indeed. Her fiancee did it all - he is so nice and I feel confident that he will take good care of her. They are well matched and he comes from a happy home that has solid values. I couldn't have wished for anyone better for her and I know that my husband would have liked him too, and that matters.
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