Cat Got Your Tongue?

United States
November 30, 2009 11:55pm CST
Yes! I don't know if anyone else who suffers from depression has this happen to them, but it has to be the most annoying thing I've ever known in my life! A part of depression that makes the least amount of sense.. the inability to talk! Well.. I can talk.. but just can't find the words that I need or want. Just sitting in silence because I have nothing to say. For whatever reason there are times when depression knocks more than just the air out of me.. but takes my ability to communicate with it. I just want to sit in the silence alone. A time when my normal ramble becomes so tangled up and having a complete thought is just too hard to do.. and words just won't form. I am normally a very talkative person so when this hits, it is so noticeable... Far more noticeable than I'd like it to be. The words just won't come out and if I force them out, it's even worse! I end up making no sense at all or becoming so annoyed and irritated with myself that I can't stand it. Has this ever happened to you?
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
1 Dec 09
It used to happen quite a bit when I was having my "bad times" but no more, it seems to be under control with me now.. I did get to the point that I didn't talk that much, but it was mainly because I didn't want to, not that I couldn't, I just didn't want to talk to anyone.. I do so hope you get to feeling better, it is no fun and a lot of people don't really understand what you are going through.. My main support group, sisters mainly, were never there for me, I only had my husband and son to help me through the rough times.. I hope you have plenty of support, any time you need to talk, just email me, I am a great listener and a grade A commiserator, not sure if I spelled it right but I can do it, even if I can't spell it.. Even though I am not having problems with depression anymore, I am horrible at remembering words, too much on my mind, I think.. Take care of yourself Stormy, first and foremost, take care of yourself.. Good to see you back on here, Donna
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• United States
1 Dec 09
ahhhhh who cares about spelling? as long as I have you! :) I remember you bout with this same demon.. I remember the woman that I loved chatting away the hours with.. suddenly going quiet.. then faded away.. I hated it, but I knew that you kick it's butt and be right back! I'm glad I was right! I have a few good friends online for support, but not much in the way of family... I guess everyone has their own problems and they certainly don't need mine. thank you for just being my friend :) I'm glad you are back too!
• United States
1 Dec 09
Stormy, it will get better and you will feel like a stronger person for having gone through it.. I still have tons of demons and still no family support.. I went from having 7 sisters, 2 brothers and tons of aunts, and cousins to having 2 sisters only for support but I made it, not completely, but I am almost there.. My family does not even begin to know their loss as I am one of the greatest people they could ever know, but it is not to be and even though I haven't spoken to any of them in 4 years, I am quite alright with my life now.. or almost.. I broke down at my last dr's visit and she made me promise to get started on therapy again, but I got over it and have been fine for the last 2 months.. I am a work in progress and even though I will be 62 in a couple of weeks, God isn't done with me yet.. I have my faith, and a fantastic husband, "laughs", he would get a kick out of that remark, but we have been together for 45 years, since we were babies almost and he is my biggest supporter.. If I believed him, I would be the most perfect woman in the "entire" world, but I don't always believe him.. I honestly do not know what I would have done without him, he has been my sole support system, unless you count the millions of talks with God.. I am fine, you are fine and so is anyone else who has suffered through this private form of Hell.. You just hang in there and if you ever need to talk, it will be easy enough to get my phone number, just ask.. I will really be glad to see the old Stormy back, but the "new and improved" Stormy is just as good.. Hang in ther old girl, it gets better..
• United States
1 Dec 09
I just love ya Donna! absolutely, without question.. love ya! (hugs!)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 09
Hi my dear Little_Stormy, I do understand how do you feel now. Try to calm down {{big hug}}. Sometimes, I feel the same way too when I am in depressed. It just so many things in the mind till I could not express anything. But, whenever I am in such condition, I will find my own way to release my depression. I'll go for swimming, or force myself to be with my friends who always could make me in such laugh. So the depress will be in a bit while only. Well, Little_Stormy..you should find your very own way, I mean something that you really love to ease you.
• United States
1 Dec 09
I'm glad that you found a way out of your darkest times.. great suggestions :) thank you.
@blackbriar (9080)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Hey girl...finally found ya here no thanks to the 100's of Lori's friends. Anyways..I can kinda understand where your coming from here. My thought processes aren't right. Sometimes it takes me a while to put into words what I'm thinking cause it's all scrambled up in my mind. Then I have people who just don't give me time to work it out in my head before I say something and just keep rambling on. Yesterday, for instance, my SIL called and we were talking about hubby and his issues. I was trying to find the words to what I wanted to tell her and she wouldn't shut up. I finally flat out told her to shut her mouth so I can think to tell her what I needed to say. I ramble on... A LOT just because that's how my thinking works. So, in answer to your question...you tell me? cause I'm still not sure myself.
• United States
23 Dec 09
mmmmmmmm btw...I do have other demons that will never stop haunting me. Depression is one of them but think I might have rose above it finally. No longer on meds for it, anyways. It has done it's damage though, which I'll never forget.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
3 Dec 09
Hi Little Stormy Yes it has happened to me many a time, I actually withdraw and crawl into myself I will only talk if I really have to and I try to hide the fact that I am depressed which of course I can only do when I am behind the Computer or on the Phone I can't always hide it that well on the Phone from People who know me very well but then I just say I am tired, they do not believe me but accept it as they know I just need to snap out of it
• United Kingdom
1 Dec 09
Yes, I have been there and this has happened to me in the past. I'm a quiet person generally and I have suffered from depression! I would be in a crowd and I would be find it so difficult to contribute to any conversation taking place. I just sat there in silence myself and I would more and more uncomfortable. Things have improved now! I attend college and generally there are about five of us that go down to the canteen together and we sit around a table and we chat and surprisingly, things are quite comfortable now. I think that conversational skills will come to you the more you practise and be with other people. I'm never going to be that hugely extroverted person, I'm quiet natured, this is just the way I am but I can certainly improve my situation from the way it was in the past. Good luck with your own circumstances. Andrew
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
1 Dec 09
Hi Little_Stormy, Long time no see. I have not suffered real depression but I have had my down days in life where I simply have nothing to say. I have a friend who suffers with depression and it always aches my heart seeing him on a bad day. I just try to be there for him when he needs me and then not there when he does not feel like company. I think understanding depression is the key to help someone especially a friend when they have a bad time.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
1 Dec 09
It happens from time to time and it doesn't necessarily have to do with depression, although when I had depression I'm sure it seemed a lot worse I just didn't notice it. I truly enjoy sitting in silence, especially if I am sitting in the dark
@rosepedal64 (4191)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Hi stormy This has and is to some point happening to me. I have been this way for about a week now. I try work on here and yet nothing comes to mind. Today I got up and decided that just sitting here and doing nothing that it was getting me no where. I have to get myself out of this slump and move on. I guess it is a thing of mind over matter when we get into these moods. I wish you the best and try to tell yourself that you can overcome the this mood. Have a good day and keep smiling.
• United States
1 Dec 09
Hey stormy, u and I seem to have the same problems! Lol I get quiet and can't carry on a conversation also. Most of the time I just stay very quiet. People notice and ask if I'm ok, or what's wrong. It's weird to not be able to function In this way. Usually lasts a few days then goes away. Hope u feel better soon. Liz
• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Dec 09
I don't exactly have this problem when I get depressed Stormy............I just don't want to talk at all or even think when the depression gets bad. It takes a lot of effort to get myself out of these bouts and I hate it. I do so sympathize with you though. When I get really bad, I just lose myself in books and judging from the two new bookcases I've added to the house over the past year, I'm more depressed than I realized and that can't be a good thing...........so you are not alone sweets, and we are always here for you. Can you say "PeterPiperPickedaPeckofPickledPeppers"? If you can, you're getting better.