Why don't we just respect married people and not tempt them into cheating?

@laydee (12810)
Philippines
December 3, 2009 7:59am CST
With all the news about cheating, more recently this week with regards Tiger Wood's affair, I am really wondering why we need to go through these? Why can't we just respect marriages and just let these married people be? I know that it's really a difficult temptation, but it always takes two to tango, no one would cheat if the other party isn't willing to cheat, right? All these cheating just traumatizes me more into developing phobias which is why I am still single. Whew!
10 responses
@rosepedal64 (4191)
• United States
3 Dec 09
Hi laydee I totally agree with you. I think when couples get married they forget that it is for life. Every married couple needs to sit down and think things out before the big I Do..Is this the person that I can live with for the rest of my life and be totally faithful. Cheating has become more popular than anything else in this world. Im like you what has happened. We are going to fast all the time to stop and see how our mate is feeling.. Dont' give up dear. Im sure someone will come along that you know is the going to be a life time trustworthy mate. Keep Smiling.
@hotsummer (10526)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
you are correct. it seems that every body is cheating their partner now. i wonder if people still value the importance of faithfulness. like i know some people who have children already and still look for some other relationship though they are not planning to their family.
• United States
4 Dec 09
Hi hotsummer I wonder why this is. I feel that if someone is planning on getting married and they see someone that is appealing to them, then I feel that the marriage needs to be put on hold until they know for sure that they can be faithful to their spouse.
@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
5 Dec 09
I have been saying this forever. Whether a man or a woman want to cheat if the other person is not willing then there would be no cheating. I don't understand what a women gets from cheating with a married man anyway. They are protraying themselves as trash. In Tiger's case they are just looking for their 15 minutes of fame. Also I will never understand when a man cheats he usually cheats with someone who is not even close in looks to their wives who are beautiful. I will never understand that.
• Iraq
5 Dec 09
humans as a race are selfish... even if they already have it they strive to have more even if it isn't needed. regardless of whether or not someone agrees to help someone cheat if its in that persons heart and mind that they are going to go get that extra piece of meat then there is a big chance that they will get it.
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
some people are thrilled with the chase.some men/women are attracted to married women/men.the more unattainable something is,the more some people want it.honestly,I don't see the point of it.I don't see the point of wasting my time and energy into something that will not progress.I won't get any benefit from it.
• India
4 Dec 09
I really don’t know but I guess the fault lies both ways…. I mean one cant tempt you if you don’t want to play along! But never let the future be an impediment to your present happiness, there are many many couples happily married forever with no thoughts of cheating in their mind while there are others like this office colleague of mine who at 40+ is flirting with the receptionist who’s just about 22/23! What a shame and what a shocker for all of us, specially the oldies in this organization all of whom know each other’s families too!
@agv0419 (3027)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
I don't feel sorry for Him I think he is responsible for his actions. I agree he knows what his doing and he knows that he already married. Temptation is everywhere is really up to you if you going to get caught. I believe that guy is really a polygamous by nature.
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hi laydee! Marriage is a permanent condition that you really have to think more than a trillion times before giving away your I DO and yourself to someone. Anyway, it is good to get in hurry neither to be traumatic althrough your life. Just be very careful in choosing and in loving. Be wise to let your heart love. DO not just rely on your emotion. Most importantly, seek the guidance of God when you are about to fall in love. I also cannot get these people who easily get attracted to someone to the extent of cheating their respective partner. I cannot also comprehend anyone who eventually falls in love with someone who is no longer a single.
@topflame (43)
• Sri Lanka
4 Dec 09
What is the big fun da media gets when the say it out loud that tiger woods is cheating on his woman,or britney spears has devorced kevin. i mean these r not constructive things, people should learn to mind there own business, and da media should learn to report more constructive things and not encourage, gossip.
@ronnyb (6117)
• Jamaica
3 Dec 09
I agree with you ,with all these instances of people cheating and I mean even prominent people like Tiger who you would have thought would have had it good then it makes persons who are single even more wary of getting married lest the same fate befall them.I think though that single men should avoid dating married woman and vice versa so that they may fullfill their marital obligations in peace
• United States
3 Dec 09
I kinda have that truama since I was cheated on by that- well to keep my words appropriate, that lying cheater had my heart and just used it, and threw it away. After she lost me she wanted me back (after everyone else had left her) but I am not gonna go threw that same pain again. And now when I am in new relationships I tend to get more jelous because of what happened... I never got hurt as much as that lier has put me through. Now I think I am just insencure. But it pisses me off when cheaters have affairs. It's both of their faults, (the cheater and the tempter) because if someone is trying to tempt you to have an affair you are supposed to repent that! You can't just say it's their fault only just cause they tempted you! You were never supposed to be tempted in the first place!! If you look at someone with lust it's already considered cheating. So people these days need to stop this b.s. because it's immoral! Look at all the people being hurt just because of their selfish pleasures!!