What do you think about whipping your kid to discipline him or her

Canada
December 3, 2009 4:06pm CST
I am christian and i know somewhere in the bible it says to not be afraid to discipline kids with the rod, but could there be a deeper meaning to this? there are all sorts of ways to correct a kid and I really do not want to whip my kid when I give birth one day. Do you think it is essential sometimes?
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@benny128 (3621)
7 Dec 09
omg no way, I am a single dad of 3 kids oldest is 6 then 2 and a one year old, I have never had to discipline any of my kids with smacking etc etc In my house they know I am the boss lol, they may not like it but what I say goes, I have threatened a smack before but I would never actually do it, I usually just start counting to 3 and by 2 they are doing what I want them to do
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• United States
9 Dec 09
I agree with you! What advice can you offer people who resort to spanking? I think its sick and a sign of poor and negligent parenting.
@benny128 (3621)
9 Dec 09
well am not here to offer advice as parents we all do what we see as fit and proper. For me I don't agree with any agressive discipline such as smacking. But I would never abuse someone who chose that route just for me there is no need to smack from my own personal experience.
@maximax8 (30121)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 09
Hitting a child with a rod and going to teach him or her all about violence. It would be far better to help him or her develop the ability to talk clearly and politely. It is wise to have rules that are reasonable. These should be clear to the child and he or she should know why these are in place. Fee people want to have a son or daughter that is afraid of him or her. I am a parent of three children and a primary school teacher. I trick is to catch them being good and to then give praise.
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• United States
7 Dec 09
Great advice!
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hi. I would say it depends on the magnitude of the kid's mistakes or misbehavior. I have no kids of my own yet but my younger sisters are living with me. I love children and I have high tolerance on their mistakes. Also, I conduct regular talks with them to appreciate them or to point out their behaviors that may need improvements. However, I also believe that I am capable of spanking a child when needed. As I have said, depends greatly on the magnitude of their mistakes. When that happens, I'm sure that I'll be spanking them to discipline and not to instill fear and hatred into their hearts.
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• United States
7 Dec 09
I think spanking is never appropriate. I appreciate that you have talks with them, though. That is a good start.
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
3 Dec 09
Do not take the bible so literally. Whipping a kid are you serious, that's just abuse no matter what the bible says
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@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
4 Dec 09
"Spare the rod and spoil the child" is a translation of what Proverbs says. What is referred to is the "rod of authority". It is obvious that children need guidance and correction. The rod of authority may need to be implemented in physical form, but in no way does this demand "whipping". If a parent has been consistent in the discipline (discipline=to make a disciple of) of his child, the physical application of the rod of authority will be either less necessary or unnecessary. Some children are particularly strong willed, however. Again, nowhere does this demand a beating. What is necessary is approximately one hour of time between parent and child during which the infraction is discussed, the behavior that is wrong given explanation if possible, and distinguished from the child, as in "I love you, but your behavior is unacceptable, inappropriate, etc., and not consistent with God's principles, our rules, or your best interests". All children need, understand, and want limits. This makes them more secure. They know when they have done wrong, but it sometimes needs reinforcement. If not attended to bad habits and challenging will form. (It does not have to always take an hour to properly discipline, but a clear understanding must be the goal.) I have been counseled to use a wooden spoon rather than the hand that should only be used in love. I have also been counseled to apply that rod ONLY to the "seat of pride" and NEVER to hit anywhere else, especially not on the face. I have only had to do this once among all three of my children and it only took one light spank on the seat of the pants to get the point across, plus a good bit of time for discussion. It is important to remember not to discipline in anger, but to get your emotions under the dominion of your spirit, so take cool down time for yourself first. Also give the child time to calm down, as in time out or in his room. I think it helped my girls that I used a lovely, pale green wooden spoon decorated with roses! They liked the spoon and didn't want it used except as a decoration, hung on the wall.
• United States
7 Dec 09
I think I know your girls did not like that spoon. Nuts, much?
@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Ladybug, Again, I have trouble understanding your comment "Nuts, much." Relevance?
• United States
9 Dec 09
I am calling you nuts, epicure. That would be the relevance. Corporal punishment, even if carried out by a mere spanking, is disgusting.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 09
Psychologists view using the rod as something bad and should not be practised at all in disciplining a child. They believe that it's better to talk things out. However, using the rod works on SOME kids as long as we tell them the reason for such harsh punishments, and should only used a the last resort. They key word is to EDUCATE them in order not to repeat their mistakes. Using the rod works but only on certain kids. Try talking to kids first, then gradually move on spanking but NOT to the extent of abusing / injuring the child.
• United States
7 Dec 09
I stated this in another comment, but wanted to reiterate it: Spanking is NEVER okay.