What is the perfect age to get married?

@kafueenu (1073)
Philippines
December 5, 2009 11:16am CST
I am 20 right now, and I don't see myself getting married anytime soon. I believe that the perfect age to get married is 30, but my boyfriend contradicts it. He said, if only I were healthier, and without any heart condition, it would be ok, but if I wish to have children, I'd have to conceive earlier in order too ensure my safety. I am so in love wiht my long time boyfriend, but not too in love to get married in a rush. I believe I should make a path of my own first before I join forces with him haha. Plus, I told him my one condition to get married even at 25, if he has already built a house for us, and it is a strict pre requisite. haha.
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32 responses
• India
6 Dec 09
hmm....i think..the perfect age to get married depends on the date of your divorce.It is the time when we ask that question to ourselves over and over..
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
What do you mean by divorce? The separation thing? haha Divorce is not legal in my country.
• India
6 Dec 09
for u n ur place ..i'll make a change..the perfect age to get married depends on the moment when u get seperated by your minds..
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
How old is he? I think 25 years of age is the right age. As long as you two are financially stable..You don't need to own a house you can rent..But having a house is really an advantage..But financially stable is the prerequisite of marriage.. What do I mean of financially stable? You're total income must and can support you and your husband needs, plus one member (in case you got pregnant sooner), hospital funds, emergency funds, and at least 30% of your income will be take aside for deposit..Also At least you two have extra fund for your one year expenses..(In case you two loss your job you have extra money for one year expenses). So you need hospital funds, emergency funds, 30% of you two total earnings must be save...(for children future funds) Extra money for one year expenses. If you have that much extra money.. by all means get married before its to late..lolz
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
He is only 3 years older than me, 23 years old. I don't really like the idea of renting hehe. Rent to own is better, at least I am paying for something that i can call mine someday. But my first priority is to acquire a lot of my own, if I start paying for it at 25, and it is 15 years to pay, I'll be finished at it when I am 40 years old. I can spend the money I earn after that touring the world haha.
• China
6 Dec 09
Hello, Kafueenu, get married when you feel like to, when you think you are ready for it. Never get married becourse of you think it may too late if you were not married still. Tweenty years old is still very very young, you can not even thinking marriage now. Wish my best wishes to you.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
I never thought of getting married at the age of 20 haha. I am the kind of person who thinks a lot ahead. I have this obsesive compulsive nature about the future, I have to get ready before it happens, very ready. I can't afford to make mistakes because my future will suffer. And I don't want to suffer, how can I smile when I am suffering, I just want a comfortable life, that is all hehe.
• United States
6 Dec 09
Aww, Kafueenu, you make my heart break. I feel that you should follow your heart. If YOU feel that you are too young to be married at this time (or at age 25, for that matter), then don't. As far as your medical condition goes, I would suggest going to a highly recommended high-risk obstetrician in your area and discuss with him/her your pregnancy risks and the oldest he/she would suggest you be being pregnant or even if he/she recommends pregnancy for you at all. Pregnancy and labor is a very hard thing for the body to endure, and depending on your heart condition and its severity, your doctor may advise you to other avenues. I hope this helps. Take care.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
My cardiologist told me that my heart condition is not fatal for now. It hurts a lot when it attacks, but pain relievers does their thing haha. But the doctor said that if I would get pregnant, I should tell my obgyne beforehand about my condition in order to give me necessary things for safety. I want children someday, I don't know if my defective body would allow me to have more than one hehe, but if God wills it, it would become reality.
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• Philippines
6 Dec 09
hola kafueenu. good day. for me when it comes to love age doesnt matter. offcourse when you love someone be sure to yourself then your partner is the right one before you will get mattied. and the most important thing is that both is stable already to support the needs.
@krkavsy (192)
• India
6 Dec 09
I feel that 25-30 is the perfect age to get married. 18-25 years should be devoted to careers whether it is a boy or a girl. If one does not have a career they cant run a household
• United States
5 Dec 09
I think that your 20's should be dedicated to having fun and doing the things you wont be able to when you get into a career and begin family, things like traveling and possibly extreme spots base jumping things like that. 30 is a good age to settle down it gives you the experience of life but also its when your mature and generally want to settle down and start a family.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
It is good that someone agrees with me that the perfect age to marry is 30 hehe. I really don't feel I would like to settle down in 5 years time, I need 10 more years in order ready myself for marriage hehe.
• Romania
6 Dec 09
i'm 22 years old and i thought that the perfect age 4 me to ghet married is 27 ath that age my girlfriend will have 25 years i say it's perfect and after 2 years of playing and integration we could have children we dont need to rush thins thing like some friends that they goth maried when the boy had 21 years and the girl 18 years its even disturbing i girl that has 18 years looks at marriage like a birthday anniversary, but more foolis is the boy that took hear to be hear wife but everyone has there own opinion
@cream97 (29146)
• United States
6 Dec 09
Hi, kafueenu. I think that the perfect age would be at least when you are both 22 or 24. That will give you both the time to decide when you are ready for this big step. When you are mature and is ready to settle down with each other that is when you are ready.
@edxcast (1169)
• Ecuador
6 Dec 09
I dont think there is a proper age for everyone to get married. It really depends on each person. If you think you must wait till 30 to get married that is your opinion. Your boyfriend says other thing and that is his opinion.
@johnnykay (1057)
• Hungary
6 Dec 09
hey! well, i'm 20 and i don't want to marry my girlfriend, too! we both are students and i think after we get graduated, we will get married:) hopefully, we'll be together then! :D cheers johnnykay
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 09
hai kafueenu, there's no such thing as perfect age for marriage, as long as you are physically, mentally, and financially ready, just go for it.. but if I were to choose a number, guess 28-30 is ideal for guys to start a family, and 25-30 for the ladies..
@jaya999 (23)
• India
6 Dec 09
Age 20 is too early to get married & conceive. I am 26 & unmarried, same as you in long term relationship. Its too after 26-27 there can be complications in conceiving but 20 is too early. what you said absolutely correct let him build a house & be stable to take care of you & your children or else if he finds tht he is not ready for you after marriage it will be a big problem for you. Dear do trust me guys realise this after marriage. Anyways i am following the same way holding on to relationship until he is set up with his work. If he loves you he has to understand that 20 is too early for you guys to get married.
• India
6 Dec 09
There is no perfect age to get married,its rather the mindset of the individual that should be considered more important. If you feel it right to get married,go ahead. You are a girl and you also need to fulfill your dreams and ambitions before jumping into the nuptial relationship. Also,your boyfriend should also consider a good career option and should get financially secure before taking up this family life. Its totally up to you how you handle the situation. Talk to him, tell him about your plans, listen to his plans too. And don't forget to consult the elders in your family, because thy can be a great source of advice and solution as they have seen more of life than us. Hope my response is of some use to you. Have a nice day. Bye.
@mtvmtv (600)
• India
6 Dec 09
Hi friend, See there may different opinions for this discussion.If we refer the period of 18th century,people were of mentality to get married around age of 20 or even before that.But with the time knowledge and education increased and people had to spend more period of life behind the development of own.So we started to think of marriage after getting some real experience of life i.e. after being absolute matured If we think of today,overall unsaid and accepted age of marriage is around 30 or more.
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
I believe that the perfect age for marriage is when you are already mature and financially ready. It could be in early 20s, early 30s or even 40s. As long as you are mature and ready financially, and be totally committed to each other, then go ahead and get married.
@niuniu1 (166)
• China
6 Dec 09
24——29is the perfert age to get married for girls i think.
@allknowing (92237)
• India
6 Dec 09
It is not so much the age but what matters is whether one is matured enough to go for it. Apart from being mature one needs to have enough finances that are required to take care of atleast ones minimum needs.
• India
6 Dec 09
hw can someone say that...it depends on person to person...and its nt age...but time...the perfect age would be 18 i suppose...u then it all goes on to ur career and stuff...huh???
• India
6 Dec 09
Getting married at 30 is not bad but try to stay healthy. Eat healthy and do excercises. it is true that you may have problem when you conceive late. But if you take care of your health right from your 20s I think its ok to get married late.
• Philippines
6 Dec 09
i think the right time to get married if you are ready to take responsibilities. and commit