Are you an empty nester
By venshida
@venshida (4836)
United States
December 6, 2009 8:44pm CST
I became an empty nester recently. There are days when its okay. I love seeing the house clean, and I have less things to do around the house. I think at first I was depressed. My appearance slipped a little bit. I brushed my hair back and that was about it. Most of my time was spent on the computer.Three weeks ago, I painted my kitchen something I have being planning for over 10 years, and I curled my hair. I feel a lot better now, and I am planning to volunteer with a local charity. If you are an empty nester, how are you handling in it? Are you enjoying it?
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7 responses
@Downwindz (2537)
• Netherlands
7 Dec 09
Everybody seems to be emptying out of the things and items, i should basically do the same, my whole guest room needs to be cleaned out and maybe i should also go through my old papers and see what i can throw out and what not.
But yet it must be nice having fewer things to do around the house.
@Downwindz (2537)
• Netherlands
8 Dec 09
Thank you i certainly need a bit of luck and quite some hours... But maybe it is a good time to do it now since i need the room in 3 weeks, so instead of just moving it away then cleaning out in it would be a great idea :D
@cher913 (25781)
• Canada
7 Dec 09
i am not yet an empty nester. my daughters are 12 and 16 but i know, before i know it i will be! i dont think i will have a problem when my daughters are older because i am a crafter and am always making things.
do you have hobbies? work? like to read? volunteering is a great idea!
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
7 Dec 09
i too, have a long time to go before the empty nest. lol. i don't know how i will feel about it. i guess i will be glad to be free of the hardships of parenting, but i will miss my babies being babies. i will miss not having to worry about them in the world. that's why i want to be their friend, as well as their parent. people say that you shouldn't be, but you have too. you can be both. it's just you have to establish those kinds of boundaries early. me and mine have that established. we are very good friends, but they know that i am mom, and when not to cross the line. they know i will set boundaries, and discipline when it's time too. this is how come i think we will be able to be friends when they are all grown up. that way i won't have to worry that much about that bad world out there. i guess as long as we can continue on with a better relationship, one where we can be best friends when they grow up. i won't feel that much of the empty nest.
by the way. congrats on a job well done. pat yourself on the back. you deserve it. great job, mom.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
7 Dec 09
My older two kids have moved out and on their own, I have a soon to be 15yr old and both him and I agree, it is soooo quiet without the older two here. Kind of boring when you want to play a game and yeah, things have changed big time! I spend more time with my youngest and find things for us to do together so he doesn't get so bored. I've found other things to occupy my time, like you, I finally decided to do something with my hair & makeup, seemed before I only had time to put my hair in a ponytail because I had to be doing something with someone somewhere every day.....things slowed down a little and now I'm checking into going to school, that will most definitely keep me busy!!

@cream97 (29085)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Hi, venshida. No, I am not an empty nester yet. I have three kids altogther. And it will be another 12 to 15 years until I will be an mom that is an empty nester. If my kids was to grow up an leave home, I would just keep myself busy so that I won't become so bored and be down and sad because they are gone. It is great o know that you are finding things to do that makes you happy! Getting through the empty nest stage can be a bit challenging. Continue to keep yourself preoccupied and busy! 

@sender621 (14889)
• United States
7 Dec 09
I am not an empty nester yet but i see it in my future. I have two teenagers at home. They find more reasons to be away from home than being at home. Leaving home is not something they are dreading. I am the one who dreads their leaving one day.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
7 Dec 09
I'm not an empty nester I will have lil ones at home for atleast another 15 yrs or so *LOL* But my neighbors are recent empty nesters in the past few yrs their girls had moved out. And they bought 2 lil puppies that they treat like lil kids wich is so cute but I think they do compensate for not having their girls at home is my observation anyway.
I"m glad you finally got your kitchen painted. I have so much to do around here but you know kids, enough time or money puts a damper on such ideas.






