Cheating
By mch1021
@mch1021 (7)
United States
December 7, 2009 3:15pm CST
Okay so i was just watching Dr. Phil and the topic of discussion was infidelity. He had a man the show we explained to everyone why men cheat, things like girls dont put out enough, or that they have let themselves go, or there is no communication left in the relationship. It was all things that women had to do in order to keep their man, nothing that he felt men had to do to keep their women. I dont know if anyone saw this show but I think shows like this and other shows that talk about cheating and infidelity are only making it more acceptable in society...and only making it harder on the next generation to come when they must grow up and start to form relationships themselves. To me a marriage licence is like a business contract and when you cheat your breaching that contract, so why hasn't anyone sued for intentional infliction of emotional distress or breach of contract when it comes to cheating?
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@maezee (41997)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Well, that seems like a little one-sided of a discussion, don't you think? (On Dr. Phil I mean). I didn't see the episode, and I'm not going to lie..I don't like Dr. Phil at all - but is it always the females' fault that their man cheats on them? For not doing this and that as they "should"? Maybe Dr. Phil should've investigated or discussed some of the OTHER reasons that husbands tend to cheat on their wives, without making it seem like it's always the wives' faults. That's my opinion anyway. I agree with you, too. I think sueing is a little much, though, for "emotional distress" because if people could actually sue for those reasons, I clearly would sue Wal-Mart for distressing me on Black Friday when I went there and their lines were 20+ people plus each and took about 45 minutes. Ha. But I also consider marraige to be like a business contract. If you don't want to be faithful, why do it in the first place?
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@abeja_reina_1989 (347)
• United States
8 Dec 09
I like your thinking :) That's something that bothers me as well. Why is it that when a man cheats, or even beats a woman, fingers are always pointed at the woman and people wonder what she must have done to make him do such a thing. Not to get off topic, but the whole Chris Brown/Rihanna issue is a perfect example.
I really wish people could be more trust worthy and take marriage more seriously. I'm not a religious person, but I still take marriage so seriously and can't imagine doing it if I wasn't 100% sure of it. There's time, so why rush into things?
I must admit, I've cheated and I'm not proud of it, but I learned from it and I think I have a lot more insight when it comes to cheating now and I can tell you for sure that I would NEVER do it again. Not only does it hurt the person you cheated on, but it hurts you. It eats at me every day and I'm not sure I'll ever fully be able to forgive myself.
@abeja_reina_1989 (347)
• United States
8 Dec 09
That is so ridiculous! I hate how blame is always put onto women. Why does it never seem to be the man's fault? I know not all people think this way, but it seems so many people blame the wrong person. What every happened to peoples' judgement and knowing right from wrong? It's so upsetting what's happening to our society. Does anyone know how cheating is viewed in other countries?
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