Loyalty
By jesssp
@jesssp (2712)
Canada
December 8, 2009 3:09pm CST
How important is loyalty to you when it comes to friendships? Do you consider yourself to be a very loyal friend or more the fair weather variety?
I have found that I am a very loyal friend. I'm not blindly loyal and I'm not loyal to a fault, but when it comes to people I consider true friends then I stand by them and stand up for them whenever the situation warrants it. Are you that type of friend too? Are your friends like that?
I've found that loyalty really isn't something that a lot of people consider important or even necessary in a friendship. I realize that it's important to take stock of situations on your own, of course you shouldn't just demonstrate total, unconditional loyalty just because someone is your friend. And there are also different types of friendships. But I have really noticed that a lot of people are more go with the flow, fair weather types even in long term, close friendships. Which group do your friends belong too?
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@maezee (41985)
• United States
8 Dec 09
Loyalty is TOTALLY important to me. It's important that my friends stand by me when I need them, and can give me a shoulder to cry on if necessary and vice versa. I'm all about that. There's no point in having a friend if they're not going to end up sticking it to the end. I have about 5 close friends that all fit into the "loyal" category; and actually, that's what makes them such good, close friends. The rest are.. questionable. lol.
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Dec 09
There are definitely different types of friends - some are just acquaintances or friends of friends - but loyalty is one of the things that separates the casual ones from the real ones. I don't expect someone I only hang out with now and then or someone I barely know to be fiercely loyal but it is a quality someone should have before I consider them a good, close friend.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Dec 09
Hi jess!
This discussion of yours is allowing me to blow my own trumphet. Like you, I can also say with conviction that I am very loyal to my dear friends and I will do anything to prove my loyality in a relationship. I do care a lot about my close friends and I always remain ready to land a helping hand to them. I could be a shoulder for them to cry. Whenever they are in trouble and in need of my help, I'll do my best to reach them.
It is good to know that you are loyal and due to this trait of yours, your friends would be very lucky to have you as their friend.
This discussion of yours is allowing me to blow my own trumphet. Like you, I can also say with conviction that I am very loyal to my dear friends and I will do anything to prove my loyality in a relationship. I do care a lot about my close friends and I always remain ready to land a helping hand to them. I could be a shoulder for them to cry. Whenever they are in trouble and in need of my help, I'll do my best to reach them.
It is good to know that you are loyal and due to this trait of yours, your friends would be very lucky to have you as their friend. 
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Dec 09
'I could be a shoulder for them to cry.'...I vouch for that
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Dec 09
That's great to hear, the world needs more people like you!
I don't have a lot of people in my life that I would consider a real true friend but I am very loyal to the few that are. I wish I could say that they all returned that but sadly not all of them do. That hurts sometimes because it seems like I'm so much more willing to demonstrate loyalty to them than they are to me.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Dec 09
Well no, never the fair weather friend but I do believe that as we move on in life, our priorities change too as with our changing relations. in my college days, my friends were the world to me, I could go to any lengths just to be by their side and same from them towards me too! However, now that I have my own family, I cannot be so loyal to them even if I want to…I cannot just lend them money without a thought, I cannot accompany then to the hospital even if I want to…I cant even call them at the opportune moment (maybe later)…I guess that means I can no longer show my loyalty to them and I accept that…I too don’t expect them to put me first…and I’m OK with it
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
10 Dec 09
I think there is also different kinds of loyalty, different ways of defining it. I agree with you about relationships changing as we get older. I don't think that it really means we become less loyal to our friends, just that it's demonstrated in different ways.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
I am a loyal friend. But it is sad to note that there are friends of mine who are not such a true friends. As the saying goes, laugh and everyone laughs with you, cry and you cry alone. Well, there was a moment in my life that happened and which made me found out who my true friends are. It was a blessing in disguise. Now, I choose my friends well and do not trust anyone right away.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Dec 09
Man, there's definitely truth in that saying! I admit that sometimes I'm not great with friendships that require a lot of 'work' but I do try to be there for the people I really care about when they need me. Sometimes things happen and you get to find out which ones are willing to return the favour. And you're right, it's a blessing in disguise.
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
9 Dec 09
Loyalty is ideal and I would like to think that over all I'm loyal but my loyalty follows a system..... My kids first, my love next, family and friends next.
My kids didn't choose their parents so I owe them the best I can offer.
I excpect my Love to be loyal to me so I must be loyal in return.
My family is complicated but they are still family.
My friends get all I have left after I take care of the rest. I am there for them as much as I can be. I will stand up for them as much as I can.
But as someone else said... things change and so do people. I go with the flow if someone wants to walk away from our friendship.
@apgh09 (514)
• United States
8 Dec 09
yes I consider myself to be a loyal friend, I recently connected with a past friend who after a problem in out relationship we fell apart time has past and we connected together again. and the main reason why is because that person valued my loyalty. It's hard to find a true friend now days but if you are to find people like this they will recognize and respect you more and you'll have a better friendship. so keep being loyal and in return it will come back.
@balasri (26537)
• India
11 Dec 09
Loyalty is the foundation on which the building of friendship is built.One cannot called a relationship between two people friendship unless they have mutual respect and loyalty on each other.Or else it becomes a partnership for gain only.I have very few friends on whom I can always rely upon and so they are too.
@taraelocin (1138)
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17 Dec 09
I don't think loyalty and friendship can be separated. Good friends are there for you when you need them and you are there for them when they need you. If they are not loyal to you and are not behind you, they are not truly friends, rather acquaintances.
@FRANCISCOANDLEE (750)
• United States
9 Dec 09
Loyalty in a friendship is very important. I know that I am a loyal friend otherwise I wouldn't have the same ones Ive had for 20+yrs. We would never betray each other and we are always there to listen never tell one what to do may give advice but never judge for decisions made.
People that go with the flow as you say are not my type of people so they would never actually be a friend. I still would listen to them and such but there is a huge difference between friends,co-workers and acquaintances.
@scoutsniper85 (432)
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16 Dec 09
in every aspect of any relationship, LOYALTY is very important. in friendship, loyalty is very important because it's the main connection in you. in a couple, loyalty is much important also because it's one thing that shows how you respect and love your partner without seeking another. mostly, loyalty is very important with our relationship with God because it is in His Ten commandments.
