What's the most important quality for you to choose a person to be your friend?

@niuniu1 (166)
China
December 8, 2009 10:21pm CST
what's the most important quality you care when you choose a friend,as a saying says,having a good friend like reading a good book,a good friend can help you to be a better person.so,what's your opinion?do you have a standard to choose a friend?
4 responses
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
hi there! Take the time to think about what a true friend means to you. It's not as obvious as you may think. You may need someone who's artistic and creative while someone else needs a person who loves to be active. Pay attention to your comfort level when you're with a person. A true friend makes you feel at ease. Someone who bombards you with negative comments, criticizes rather than encourages and pushes you to do things you don't want to do will never be a true friend. Identify your differences of opinion. Arguments make a healthy friendship because they force you to think differently about things. But we all have our threshold. If someone has nasty things to say about your in-laws just because of their ethnic background, you're better off looking for friendship somewhere else. Notice if the person shows concern for your well-being. That means they don't give you a dissertation on their life before you get a chance to say anything else. When you start talking about your problems, see if you have their full attention. True friends don't let their eyes wander or glaze over when it's not their turn to gripe! Be honest about whether someone can ever be a good friend. A true friend is someone who can accompany you on the journey to personal growth. Someone who just agrees with everything you say or makes you feel inadequate isn't going to help you reach your potential..... happy mylotting! cheers! take care!
@liuzhi (265)
• China
1 Jan 10
Hi niuniu,When i make a friend,I will put mutual understanding and trust on number one concern
• South Korea
31 Dec 09
what's the most important quality..... Kindness,good diathesis.
@830425 (52)
• China
9 Dec 09
honest, and also treat me as her honestest friend. Not only the most important virtue for making friend but also to be a person.