Have you ever got scared/worried that your relationship might break up one day?

India
December 10, 2009 1:23pm CST
This is a common fear that exists in many people these days. In my opinion children are the best bonding factor between a couple. children sane many marriages/relationships all over the world. In other words many couples don't break up for the sake of their children. What do you have to say on this?
9 responses
@rosepedal64 (4191)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Hi vijayanths I don't think that is always a good ideal. If the parents are arguing,yelling and being very distant between each other then the kids are seeing,hearing and feeling this. It has caused kids to take sides and hate one of the parents. I don't think that if the relationship is at this point for the sake of the kids then they do need to split up or get marriage advice from a professional. Have a nice day. Keep smiling.
• United States
12 Dec 09
Hi vigayanths I never knew this at all. I always enjoy hearing the traditionals and beliefs from other countries. Thanks for sharing that with me. I am very grateful. Have a nice day. Keep smiling.
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
Hi. I did worry about the possible break up of my marriage a few months ago. The reason? I had no enough time for my husband. In my line of work, I used to travel around the globe. There are times that we only see each other once or twice a month/week. And during those times, we would always fight because he would always ask me to slow down and spend some time with him. Until such time that I got tired of all the constant arguments. We had a heart-to-heart discussion of our situation. We discussed about the possible solutions to our problems...evaluated all the pros and cons. Eventually, I prioritized my marriage and decided to give up my career. Many have advised me against it. According to them, I just want to impress my husband and make him happy that's why I'm practically throwing my future away. But my future is my family...so I chose them.
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Thank you so much for the encouraging words. This will surely help me to keep going and value my family better each day.
@shobhan51 (376)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 09
It is true that couples remain under the same roof even though the marriage has broken down, for the sake of the children. This sacrifice may not have positive effects, because the children are sensitive to what has happened between their parents. Sometimes, they would prefer their parents to be more honest with them and not make sacrifices for their sake. Actually if I were a child in that situation, I would prefer my parents to be happy and not live a life of hypocrisy and deceit, Vijayanth.
• Malaysia
22 Dec 09
By the way, I forgot to add this. If I were a child in a problematic marriage, I would like to have a heart to heart talk with both parents present. Since children are also part of a marriage it is good that they are informed of the problems that prevail and decide what is best for all.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
13 Dec 09
Due to the fickle minded people relationships are bound to break. Why only relationships? Even marriages are broken. There are many examples around where we can see marriages are broken even when the couple has children. Actually there are many reasons for a relation to break. But the fear is one constant thing that is always present in every person’s mind, at least mine. But finally I should say that the fear always exists. as far as I am not a parent still I cant speak about what the children might be feeling.
• India
13 Dec 09
I don't think you need to fear abhi. Our culture is so.
• United States
11 Dec 09
I have to deal with this fear all the time. I have mental illness issues and it's hard. I have a nice man who loves me. He wants to live with me and I say no. I run from anything that resembles love. I put up walls and they are hard to break. So I know how it feels to fear break up's.
• India
12 Dec 09
NO sharon, it is better to accept him. You should not live alone when you are having problems. I think if you fully surrender yourself to God, you will be more peaceful and happy. My best wishes for you always friend.
@vathsala30 (3728)
• India
11 Dec 09
I also strongly feel the same. In many families though the couple can not see each other live together under one roof for the sake of the children and their welfare.
• India
11 Dec 09
yes vathsala, very true. Children are the main pillars of a family.
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
11 Dec 09
hi vijayanths, our marriage system quite good,mostly there is no separation of husband and wife,because of our tradition both may adjust with other and lead their life,but some clashes also there in some families,they can adjust but due to some misunderstanding they are spoiling their own family life leaving the children for the wind,have a nice day
28 Dec 09
Well, sometimes the children keep the relationship together... yet other times...as is my case... the children seem to be a reason to break up... For various reasons.. intolerable behavior and discipline, or one parent just isn't meant to be a parent at all, or to save children from further abuse. So, while children can be a bonding factor that you have in common; they can also be a factor that you might disagree upon. Then the issue goes further..beyond the adult being worried about relationship to more of "do we save this family or just go our separate ways"
@eshaan (6193)
• India
26 Dec 09
my relationship may have many ups and down..but it will not break i am sure...