How will you believe

Philippines
December 11, 2009 10:53am CST
He says he loves me but he used to talk about his past life for other woman..he used to nag and and easy to get mad..but always promising that he will change but it's hard to change if that is the real attitude
6 responses
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
hi meet, If that is my case, I think I will also have doubts about his feelings for me. In every relationship, I really believe trust and assurance are important. Assurance, in the sense that your partner cares about your feelings and assures you, that he loves you by doing something that makes you feel "being loved". Bringing history of his past relationship is an okay thing for it is an indication that he has already moved on and was able to share a part of his life. But, it really depends on how he tells it...it must not be brought up when you two are arguing...he can share his past but, he must not compare you with his ex's or past girlfriends because that would be unacceptable. Unless, he doesn't love you at all. If he says that he'll change then, maybe he will...people do change in coarse of time...that is if he really loves you...he will definitely change. What's more important, is you are willing to wait for him to change...all I can say is, if you really love him you will accept him for who he is and help him to be a better person. As long as he doesn't hurt you and you're still happy with him, I think it's reasonable to believe in him but, tell him about your issues and tell that you want him to change his bad ways. Good luck! Happy Lotting!
• Malaysia
11 Dec 09
for me if i was in your shoe i will not keep quiet. why should he get mad easily and nag over small matter. don't let your bf/spouse/partner bully you emotionally because it is unhealthy for the both of you. Promise without action is useless, before it's too late please think carefully.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
11 Dec 09
Hi there! It is entirely up to you to see how you can believe him. You see it would be better to judge him on the basis of his current behaviour with you. If he behaves with you nicely and in decent manner, you have every reason to believe that he may turn out to be a good friend of yours. You can clarify your doubts about him, if you talk to him on the issue. A conversation with him in this regard would be fruitful, I suppose.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
11 Dec 09
Sit calmly and find out his real character. You are the only person who can make the right decision on this. You must be neutral while accessing his character.
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
11 Dec 09
Hmm yes if tht attitude has become an habit then it is very difficult to change....Just let hi8m go,when he will realize abt wht he his doing then he will come to you,if he really loves you.
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi meetmehalfway, the truth/ the action speaks of himself...not what he is saying... u cannot teach an old dog a new trick....as the saying goes