Moving on to fast?
@TawshaLee2009 (15)
United States
December 11, 2009 7:56pm CST
So about three weeks ago i got out of a bad relationship in a bad way. It all started when i got into a car wreck and he didn't ask once if i was ok, just wanted to know about the truck which is mine and not even his. I decided i didn't want to talk to him so i calledmy parents instead and they came and got me. He text me it's over. I couldn't believe it, what if i was dying? What if the wreck was life threatening? He would've never known. I tried to give him a second chance and he blew me off in order to go drink with a bunch of girls. He even told me if i didn't like it i can get out of HIS house, which in all truth is OUR house. I packed and left. I found out that he had been sleeping with a friend of mine and was even more heart broken but knew that i couldn't forgive him for all this. He was also controling. I've been depressed and started to hang out with a friend of mine to get my mind out of things. My friend also just got out of a bad relationship and was looking for somone to be a close friend with. As time has passed i've found myself liking him alot, it's not like he's a rebound guy but i feel i might be moving on to fast. He has also fallen for me and we spend most or days with one another. He's been such an amazing guy toward me and he is so caring that it's unbelievable. I guess i want to know if anyone feels i'm moving on to fast or if this is ok considering what had happened to me with my ex. Of course there is so much more to what happened but i don't have space to put it all.
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8 responses
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
12 Dec 09
Hunny you are moving on way to fast. Give it time and take things slow. Not only are you out of a bad relationship just 3 weeks ago. So is he. You are both going to be rebounds because you need or feel that you need to have the other person around. Be friends for awhile and take it from there. But 3 weeks is not enough time to get over the other person. Take your time with things and it might turn out good for the both of you. Good luck to you both but remember to take things slow.
@TawshaLee2009 (15)
• United States
12 Dec 09
We are just friends for now and we are't dating or anything because i haven't been able to see my ex without getting upset, and his ex is still trying to get ahold of him. We aren;t together and prob wont be anytime real soon. But i do like him, and i did before me and my ex had even gotten together
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
I guess if he shows no concerns in that small thing that almost he can loose you, what more in big cases in your life? would be totally care? or he is just a type of guy who do not bother himself much or just maybe he has a reason for that actions..
How would you rely on him and what would be the effect in you?
If you feel that he really do not care, then have yourself timed-out for the mean time and wait for the right time or proper person for you who will actually feel the way you do in return.It is much more on an effective relationship that putting many doubts concerning his love. It will not give you security at all.
@mansha (6298)
• India
12 Dec 09
As long as you are happy with each other does it matter that whether you are on rebound or not, if its comforting just enjoy it, don't fret too much, let things be and see what the future brings about. It was just meant to be. There must be something good in store for both of you out of this...
@mariusemillian (41)
• Romania
12 Dec 09
I don't think you're moving to fast. sometimes we found the right person in strange situations and the most important think is how you feel when you're with him and how you feel about him. i know it's a cliché but jut follow your heart and enjoy all the love you can;)
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
12 Dec 09
It actually does sound a bit too fast but when we are young we all move too fast. I'm older now and I can tell you that it can be a rebound and you won't even know it until you realize that you were with this guy for all the wrong reasons. It is a rebound no matter how you look at it but that is not to say that all rebounds turn out badly. Some actually turn out well. I have been there and I've watched my daughters go thru all this and it almost always is best to get completely over one person before hooking up with someone else. So much for advice...no one ever does this. I didn't either when I was young even tho I had plenty of people telling me to. Listen to all the advice and then follow your heart. you know you will anyway and if you don't you will always wonder if you made the right choice. Best of luck to you and I hope it all works out. 
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
12 Dec 09
Even though it may appear to be way too fast. But keep in mind that the only important person is yourself. You do what you feel is right for you.
This new person may be even a person that you might need even if it is only for a friendship. You both hold a broken heart from old relationships. You do have something in common there. But keep a good head on your shoulders. Think about things realistic. Just remember to have you time.
Every one here will be giving you their own opinions. Read through them carefully and then you decide what you want to do for yourself.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
12 Dec 09
I believe that you are moving way to fast. Have you gotten over your ex and has the guy that you like also over the ex as well. Probably not, and most likely you will be each other's rebound. Which all in the end the both of you will be hurt. Maybe you should slow down, and take it easy, and just be friends, while the both of you recouperate from the relationship and then once things have settled down and the both of you still like one another, then maybe you can give it a chance.
@anyabee (363)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
yes, i believe you're moving a bit fast. i mean, starting a relationship should take more than a few weeks under normal circumstances. but, considering your circumstances it's way too fast. give yourself time to recover from the previous one. ask the guy to give you the time. if he's ok with it then he's a keeper. if he's not then you're better off without him. :)
