Do you think that you are a better mother than your own mother???

@ruchimom (280)
Australia
December 13, 2009 8:51pm CST
The reason why I came up with this topic is very simple.My mother was very a very controlling,demanding and a very aggressive woman.I just wanted to grow up quickly because of her.We never had any special mother daughter bonding?So when I was little I always used to think that I will always make a better mom than my mother.Even now,my mother criticises me on everything,like how to look after kids .She feels that I am not disciplining them and I am just going to spoil them.I am fed up of the arguements and now I just want to share your opinions as to what all the other mothers think?Are there any moms who feel that they are doing a better job than their own mother?
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@ToniTsui (39)
15 Dec 09
I hasn't been a mother ,and my own mother often criticises me on almost everything,but I know she is concerned much about me and her criticism is another manner of advising me .I would be better than my mother if I become a mother someday ,she is hard-working and responsible to take care of our family ,I won't be able to do her job the way she do
15 Dec 09
sorry I am supposed to write "I wouldn't be better than my mother "~~
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
I can't say that I am a better mother than my mother since my kids are still young. But I can say that I do raise my kids in a better way than my mother. My mother was so strict with us in everything that is why we are not close with her, we can't say everything to her and we just hide what we felt because we're afraid of her. I do raise my kids to make them close to me, i want them to open up everything to me until they grow old, like we are just friends.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
16 Dec 09
Hi I think I can relate to you.As I was not close to my mother when I was growing up because I was too scared of her.She was too strict.I do share the same opinion as you in terms of bonding with my kids Thanks
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
14 Dec 09
sorry to say this but I think I am a better mom my mom worked her butt off to pay the bills but my dad didnt work I think he thought his job was to drink an beat his wife an kids all day now why I think I am a better mom is I love my hubby with everything I got but so help me if he was like the way my dad was to me an my brothers an sister he would be gone an I wouldnt stay with a man who was abusive sad thing is no matter what my dad did my mom always hid it
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
I know I am a better mother than my mother. My mother had a mental disorder which went untreated. Because of that she was unable understand love and how to give it. Also daily functioning like work, house hold chores, washing and caring for her 6 children was impossible. I have three children and I am capable of loving and caring for them. If I found that I was starting to struggle I would seek help rather than let it go untreated and have my children suffer the way her children suffered. I look at it as growth through the generations. As sick as she was, she was still a better parent than her father, and I hope that if I raise my children right that they will be in a better situation and have better skills so that they can be better parents than I was too. Life is about growth and I think it is healthy to grow into better people.
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
Personally I don't think that I am a better mom than my mother. However having said that I do believe that there are some things that I do differently that I feel are a little better than some of the things that she might do or say. I also know that there are some things that she is better at than I am but that doesn't mean that either of us is better than the other, it just means that like our individual personalities, our parenting skills differ just like we do. I know that there are times when I let someone look after my children and I might not necessarily like what they consider to be discipline, I don't judge however, I simply let them know that I like things done a certain way with my children at home and as such, I would like for those same things to be carried out when my children are outside of our home. I think that there are many different ways that we can say and do things but they aren't really better in most cases, just different.