Child Custody

Canada
August 29, 2006 11:18pm CST
My name is Samantha and my fiance, Robert and I have have been going through a court for him to see his 3 year old daughter, Jasmine. Jasmine's mother, Nicole, and Robert were not married and only lived together for 9 months. They split when Nicole was 3 months pregnant. She has fought the entire time so Robert would not be able to see his daughter. At the last court hearing on July 27, 2006 Nicole and Robert agreed to a Parenting Order and Nicole agreed to have Robert named as a guardian to Jasmine. The order was that Nicole was to meet half way to drop Jasmine off to us as she lives 3 hours away. We would be allowed to have Jasmine with us from 12 noon on the Friday of Robert's days off to the following Sunday at 4pm. Robert is off for 6 days and is on call for 15. after the court hearing Nicole tried to change it and then 4 days later told us she would not comply with it at all. Her mother has been meeting us and has now said that she will not be dropping Jasmine off in the winter. If we wish to see her we have to drive 3 hours and stay in a hotel. We have asked if it was possible to have Jasmine for an extra day and she has said that she is now going back to court and going to fight that we not have Jasmine at all. She has recently had a child by her new husband and now Jasmine is staying with her grandmother because Nicole can not handle her and the new baby. Nicole has a criminal record involving setting an ex-boyfriend on fire before her and Robert were together and last summer she set her apartment on fire and lead the police on a 2 hour man hunt. She has been diagnosed with multiple personalities and is supposed to take medication but refuses. We feel that Jasmine is in danger because there is not telling when Nicole will have another fit. We have just recently found out that Nicole and her husband forgot Jasmine in their van when visiting with friends and then fought over who was going to go and get her. This is the second time we have heard of her leaving Jasmine alone. 2 years ago she locked Jasmine in her room and went to work and the landlord found her when he went to fix something. This is causing a great deal of hurt and stress as my 4 year old son and Jasmine get along well but do not see each other often enough. Jasmine enjoys being here with us and we have noticed that when you ask her about her mother and her new little brother she gets a scared look on her face and will not look at you or speak to you. I have emails where Nicole has stated that she is poisoning Jasmine's mind against us and we feel that if she speaks about us she gets in trouble. My fiance is not even allowed to speack to her on the phone when she is with her mother. Is there anything we can do to get custody of Jasmine? Or is more time all we can ask for? Do we have to get a lawyer to go for custody or can we do it ourselves? We do not want to cut her mother out of her life but we feel that she would be better off here. Please let me know what we can do as we are very concerned.
9 responses
@slimfox (900)
• United States
28 Sep 06
i would write down everything..and just to be on the safe side get a lawyer instead of doing it yourself..good luck and i hope you can get her..
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@kstanley7 (1171)
28 Sep 06
I would recommend contacting your lawyer and putting in an application for the custody of jasmine, no child should be locked up in their room, any decent mother would never lose sight of their child. good luck samantha, I sincerely hope it goes well in your favour.
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• United States
30 Aug 06
hi sam. well seems like shes not a very good person.faith will get u through this,believe that.sounds like u love your man and his kid. let the court system take it place and then show her as she really is, dont be scared.ill pray 4 ya. love heather atchley
@scooter1024 (1243)
• United States
21 Oct 06
You could do it yourself but I doubt you would get very far. I would suggest you get a lawyer involved and quick. That girl is definately in great danger and the mother is definately unfit. I dont think you will have any problems proving her unfit either. Good luck and keep us posted on anything that changes.
• United States
2 Oct 06
I would totally get a lawyer. My fiance is going through the same thing, except his daughter is in Arkansas and he hasnt seen her at all since she was born, just pictures that his ex teases us with. I'd get a lawyer and go for full custody cus we tried this for a year by ourselves and now with a lawyer we're gettin somewhere. Good luck, and wish the same for us.
• United States
6 Nov 06
Me and my Boyfriend just got temparay coustdy of his son for similer things. My sister and I called the child protion because of things we seen and heard. They came in and took him from his mom and gave him to us that was 5 monthe ago now and we still have him. If you are worryed talk to a layer now is the time. The real mother is showing she can't take care of the oldset and her past is not good. If and when you go to court have her medical records brought in to court and her crimal past. There is aslo a group that will help him get legal help. gGo to fathersright.com. He will have to fill some stuff out but they may be able to help you out or point you in a good direction.I wish you the best of luck, and my prayers are with that sweet little girl. Fathersright.com
@jhannon (1406)
• United States
2 Oct 06
save all emails record all phone calls and letters between u and her.They are all evidence in the court .Its very hard for the court to grant custody to you without hard evidence.All of what you explain are negelct if you could maybe get the lanlord to testify or write soemthing about seeing the lil girl left alone you have a case..
@trebor69 (328)
1 Oct 06
samantha,i forgot to mention not to let her know about any issues you intend to raise at court.she could prepare her excuses in advance.
@trebor69 (328)
30 Sep 06
she is doing this out of spite for robert and not out of love for the child,try these links winchildcustody.com www.fathersmatter.com hope this is of some help,that poor child needs saving.