Would you ever forgive a verbally abusive parent?

Philippines
December 16, 2009 9:26am CST
According to Wikipedia, "verbal abuse is a form of abusive behavior involving the use of language. It is a form of profanity that can occur with or without the expletives." To me, verbal abuse can be a sign of insecurity on the person. And it makes it even more challenging when it is a parent who is verbally abusive. Even more when they think they are right and are not aware that they are verbally abusive. Here in the Philippines, regardless if rich or poor, some families experience this verbal abuse in the home, particularly when the child does not meet expectations like grades, having the right friends, and even when the child is older when he or she is about to get married. For me, I think a verbally abusive parent should get professional help because he or she is ruining relationships, burning bridges to family and friends.
1 response
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
I can forgive a verbally abusive parent. My mom is my bestfriend and I cannot remember her saying anything hurtful to me. She is the opposite of my dad. I love my dad very much but he sometimes make sarcastic comments and says painful things to me. I know he is proud of my achievements but it seems as if we're arguing so much lately that there has been nothing but painful memories. :-( Still, I try to understand that the change in his personality must be due to the fact that he is getting old. Still, it is not reason for him to make my day gloomy, to make me feel so blue.
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
True, maybe that is the reason why your dad is laying in on the harsh words because of the issue of getting old, especially if older people still want to do a lot of things in their lifetime, unfinished businesses, unmet goals at the back of their minds. But I really like what you said when you stated that you understood him. But, I would also understand you if in case you really get mad at your dad. Thanks for sharing!