How do you know whe to get Married?

@Boyetski (986)
Philippines
December 17, 2009 12:03am CST
Im here now at Grand Villa Hotel in Pateros Philippines. And yet again im attending a friends wedding ceremony. How did they come to this moment? With all the expenses and the responsibilities in front of them, why did they decide to get married? Is LOVE the only reason of couples getting married?
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• Philippines
18 Dec 09
Are you against LOVE or something? LOVE is part of our being and marriage is what God wants us to do in order to enjoy our relationship with someone whom we want to commit our lifetime with. If there were people who gets married aside from loving the person they marry, then that is something else. I don't care about what they are thinking. When you marry someone else, it is important that you know your responsibilities. LOVE isn't only about the feelings. It is also about how willing you are to stay with that person no matter what happens and that is called "commitment".
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@Boyetski (986)
• Philippines
18 Dec 09
No my dear friend, Im not at all againts love. Im just trying to put some logic into it. Since Love is a mysterious way of feeling something special towards others. I am fishing for your opinion and reactions hehehe. The fact that we fall inlove and we fall out of love. Isn't it nicer if we understand this things or just leave it be and have nature and fate decide?
• Philippines
18 Dec 09
Yeah, right! HMP!!! Anyway.. I still believe in LOVE. No matter how odd people gets nowadays... There are so many disappointing relationships I've seen in my friends' lives. But that doesn't stop me from believing that LOVE is all that still matters in a relationship... And it is also the main reason why people get married. It will be the main reason why I'm going to get married! YEAH!!!
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@Boyetski (986)
• Philippines
18 Dec 09
Hehehe that is good. Im just trying to squeeze out some logic out of it.
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
My answer is based on my personal experience, and I would say that 5 years into the relationship, we came to realize that we wanted to be together and build a family of our own. Marriage is a tough decision and not everybody realizes it. It comes with a whole new set of responsibilities coupled with a great deal of understanding between two people. I would say love is the overall reason that we got married: we love each other, we would love to create and nurture life through our children.
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@Boyetski (986)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
If LOVE is the reason, and then Love is gone. Then marriage is over also right? Well maybe sometimes we get to it for the children.
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
In my opinion, those kinds of marriages are not founded in real love. I believe that love is unconditional, and if it's because your partner has flaws that they separate, then I believe that their union was not based on true love. That's just me, others may have their own opinions.
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@Boyetski (986)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
Well maybe you are right my friend. But I think LOVE is but a word we say when we feel something towards someone special to us. How can it be the very root of marriage? But maybe it is.
@rsa101 (40968)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
I think you just answered your question. It would be love that would the only driving force for a couple to get themselves into marriage. When that happens depends on each and every person. They just feel it and they go on it.
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@Boyetski (986)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
But there are marriage not because of love but because of obligations. The fact that we human sometimes oblige ourselves to marry someone we don't even know. Like those fix marriage. Love comes after marriage right?
@Boyetski (986)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
How about those who get married by their parents. They get married even before they meet. Fix marriage is a culture to some people. The reason is to circle the wealth to themselves or to secure the future of their children. They obey and love comes afterwards.