my mom tell me how to succeed as a girl
December 19, 2009 6:17am CST
recently mom always keep repeating: you should not marry. If a girl became a wife and household,she would be in tomb,if the girl became a mother ,she have burned herself completely my mom's theory is total dofferent from tradition,all right? but i agree with it.please recallyour memory,in any marriage,women are completely contribute family,from a young ,fashion lady down to a sloppy ,faint women,even though her phsical age is still below 40 girls should live selfishly,after all the happiness donot experience by your husband or children, girls should depend on oen selves.not rely on boyfirends or husbands ,which is not denpendable,after all they are companion,not parents so those girls who want the hunsband to replace teh dad wake up
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28 Dec 09
in a way,I do agree with your mom on some points.I believe that a woman should be self-sufficient.she should not depend on a man for her needs and wants.she should earn her own money,buy her own car,have her own house,and find her own stable career.however,I do believe that a woman should have her own children.having her own children make her more responsible and more dependable.
22 Dec 09
I can understand why your mom is doing that. I feel the same way but when I got married i never regret it. God blessed us more when we got married and I even got even closer to my parents.
19 Dec 09
hi,I don't agree with your mother's opinion.I think one women should marry at the suitable age and have a baby timely!But the husband should share the housework with the wife.In my opinion a lady should have both her family and occupation!
22 Dec 09
Wow, your mom is so modern. Lol As also being a mom, I have to say I agree with part of her view. Anyway, it's also a saying, without being married and having child, life is not completed. And how lonely will be when we are getting old... On the other hand, being marry does not means you have to give up so many things, you can continue your career if you want. However, to marry a good guy is really important... Best Wishes to you.
• South Africa
21 Dec 09
listen up girl, because this is advise you will only get once in your lifetime. i began with a relationship when i was 19. neither our parents approved or disapproved. but one thing i will always remember and pass on to anyone who need advise. if you get married be happy and both have to work on the relationship. if you do not get married and just live with a partner, believe me the very same rules apply. today i am 35 years old and still happy and content with the same man i met when i was 19. be yourself, live up to what you are, but just remember you have to lay on the bed that you made. that was my mother's words and i still live by them today. good luck.
22 Dec 09
Dear Joytt, in honest speaking,i had the same idea with your mother when i were young, but now i know, everyone have rights to choice her/him life, no matter which lifestyle you have, i think there must be have happiness and unhappiness, if you are married, you can get the happiness from your family, of course if you choose single, you will be lonely most time. in a word, we need to choose our life style by ourself. hope everything goes well. Yours Xiaohui
• United States
19 Dec 09
for me, becoming a mother and a wife is the role in life I look forward to. Im still single and I am enjoying being single. I have a boyfriend but have no plans of marrying soon. Marriage shouldn't happen in an early age especially for women who are independent and carrier oriented. A woman like a man, should enjoy the freedom and independence of being single until they realize they have enough and settle down. In a relationship, one should not only think of the other but also of herself if she is ready to get tied down with responsibilities as wife and mother and give up the things that she normally does as single woman. I am saying this so there will be no regrets in the future. Im 27 now and for me, its okay I get married at mid or late 30s. Whats important is I have a boyfriend to enjoy and share life with whom Im not completely committed yet and at the same time enjoying the independence of being unmarried and the freedom that I know I cant have once I have children and become a wife. I know there are things to give up once I get married and have kids and while Im not at it yet, I'm enjoying life having me as the only responsibility. I know one day I will be ready to settle down.