How can a 'loner' be happy?

Philippines
December 19, 2009 3:14pm CST
I myself consider as a loner. Well, others prove it to me that I am. But that being a loner is for myself alone. I try not to see others such personality of mine, most especially, when I'm with my friends and if my friends do have problems. I need to be strong for them so that they could someone to lean on. And they appreciate me for being that someone. I, as a loner person, try to enjoy things that I want to do and all the things that give satisfaction. Having said that, it's the only way that makes me a happy person. How about you?
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@musicman6 (2391)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Well I made a mistake because everyone said that being a loner was bad, but in actuality, I should have been a loner all my life, I would have been happier! I tried to fit in and have relationships, and they didn't work out, so I wasted a lot of precious time! Now , I am independent and by myself, and I just love it, I've never had so much freedom ! Of course I associate with people, and I am an entertainer, but when I retire for the evening I enjoy the freedom, independence, and lack of stress of being in a relationship, they just didn't work out for me! Some people are just not meant to be with someone, like every body thinks! I should've listened to my own heart !
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
I totally understand the situation you have been and you are in. It's not really bad to be a loner because it's our personality and nobody can change it even someone we love. We are naturally born to be it or maybe it's our choice. But to become a loner just because of having failed relationships is another different story. We do have a right to be happy. And if we can't find someone to give the happiness more than ourselves do, then we don't need somebody just to make us happy, right. It's a test of our interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligence. Maybe we can make other people happy, we benefit from it because the satisfaction we get. But we can't hide the loneliness inside. Still, it's ourselves and not others can make us happy. And you are right, listen to your heart... Thanks musicman!!!
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@musicman6 (2391)
• United States
20 Dec 09
Yes, you have very good reasoning in this message, thank you !
@DameJenny (110)
19 Dec 09
I couldn't function without my own space, I spend hours alone every day, I'm not one to show my feelings very well either. I think it's important though to have one person at least who You can open up to fully and share those difficult times, someone You trust fully with Your emotions and affection.
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
I agree with you. There are times that you can't easily give away your trust to anybody unless you have somebody that you can open up all the things you have inside. Maybe a best friend will do or a lover. Thanks DameJenny!!!