Time Consideration? How Long Before You Call it a Day in a Relationship?
By artistry
@artistry (4151)
United States
December 22, 2009 3:39am CST
How much time is enough to give to a relationship, before you feel you should move on? Would you just stay, as long as the two of you are sill considerate of each other and still care, but have no future plans of a more permanent relationship? Why or why not?
2 responses
@l33tgirl (288)
• New Zealand
22 Dec 09
I don't think there is a time frame, I think it's just when you've had enough. If you know at the time the otehr person doesn't want a permanent relationship and you do some would call it quits then and there, others would hang on hoping to change that persons mind and give up when they are tired of waiting.
I wouldn't stay if I was comfortable but uninspired by teh relationship. Simply beacuse there are plenty of people out there that wouldcare about you and make you comfortable - that doesn't mean you have to stay with them and give up looking for what makes you happy.
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
22 Dec 09
...Hi 133tgirl, Your comment is realistic. Sometimes one person, deep down is afraid of commitment, even though they may love the other person deeply, something in their history has made them leery of making that decision to go on to something more permanent. Time would not be the answer to that problem, they would have to get to the root of the problem, deal with it or let the other person move on to other avenues. As you say there are other people out there who may make for better partners. Thanks so much for taking the time to respond.
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
For me there isn't really a "right time" to say you need to go to the next level of your relationship. If both of you feels the same way then go for it. If both of you are happy with your situation, then stay that way. But if the other one wants to move up to the next level and the other one is contented as it is, then the other one shouldn't be stuck in that relationship waiting for the other person to feel they should now move on. Coz if one person is unhappy with their situation, that relationship is going nowhere. And if it's going nowhere, it's likely to fail. And if that's the case, what reason would you still have to stay to that relationship and cling to the person who cannot make you happy anymore?
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
22 Dec 09
...Hi there fourjems08, Welcome to the ranch, enjoy yourself. Well I think what you have said just about sums it all up. A relationship is supposed to be based upon two people being mutually satisfied with each other and with how the relationship is moving along. If only one person is happy with things the way they are, where is the relationship? Absolutely nowhere if you ask my opinion. So your assessment is right on target as far as I am conerned. Take care and thanks for your insightful comment.


