Are you closer to your mom or dad?

@simonelee (2716)
China
December 22, 2009 8:24pm CST
When we where a child we love our parents so much and we are more attached to them than right now. We tail our mom or our dad wherever they go. We cry if they leave us, as if he/she is not coming back. In your your childhood days are you closer to your mom or to your dad? In your adult stage are you still close to him/her or the situation switched? In my case once i was closer to my mom but years passed by now i can analyze and understand all the things happening in our family i become distant to her. I prefer being quite and solve my problems alone rather than letting them know what I'm feeling inside.
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@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
hello simone! i agree with you that in our childhood years, we are really close to our parents always want to tail them and cry whenever we don't see them...haha but as we grow older, situation changes coz we want to be more independent and some differences between parents & children arise... on my part, when i was a kid, i am more close to my mom! coz she's always there for me, she's a full time house wife & full time mom to me...and as you know i am an only child for 10 years...while dad is always at work and very seldom do he stays at home & when he's home, its either he's sleeping or watching tv! haha and he's kinda strict to me and don't talk much...and as i grow older, there's some issues arouse in our family that makes my feelings distant to my father, actually we are some kind of enemies that time haha and don't talk to each other...hehe but since i get married, my father slowly changed for the better and along with it, our relationship also changed for the better... right now, i an proudly say that i am closer to my mom & dad...and when we are together we are more like of a 'peers'...haha or brothers & sisters with my brother & my husband... we can really talk about anything & everything under the sun without feeling hesitant and without any fear of being scolded or misjudged or misunderstood... and i am really happy about it and i see it as a big blessing in our family! but hen it comes to some personal problems, or marital problems, i don't usually share this to my parents, i don't want them to worry about us... i just pray & try to fix it myself with my husband... have a good day!
• Saudi Arabia
23 Dec 09
hi...ckyera my stroy is very similar to your's.i was a kid father really strict to us . in front of my dad we were didn't open mouth to speak to him.and always tail with my mom ... now that situations already changed....but i think yet close to my mom....also with my dad close too....
• India
23 Dec 09
ya i agree dear....even i m also more close 2 my mom...it is generally said that boys are close to their mother n girls to their fathers but in my case., i m more close to my mother... butofcourse i luv my father 2 but i m scared of him and also feel shy and hesitant to speak with him frankly...so i can say i m more close 2 my mom..
@simonelee (2716)
• China
24 Dec 09
He is strict because he's afraid to let go of her princess. I guess that's the role of our father, being so strict not knowing we are already suffocated the way they discipline us. When you got married that's the time he realized that he don't own you and it's time for him to reach out. I hope that kind of blessings will also shower us. I've been longing it for years. Honestly, i feel alone now... Merry Christmas to you and God bless you all.
@atebuds (187)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
I was closest to my father until he passed away. Despite the differences between my mother and I, I am very lucky to have been given the chance to reconcile and bond with her during the last 5 years of her life. She just passed away last October 2008.
@simonelee (2716)
• China
23 Dec 09
Oh. so how did you handle the situation that you are now completely alone? How did you start all over again? Yes, your lucky enough to spend the last five years in knowing her better. In my case i don't know when I'm become more closer to them. As of now i can't truly understand and accept the circumstances...
@atebuds (187)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
You know what, it's hard to be alone. Even if I am married with 2 children, it's still different when you have your parents around. (I feel like crying now, I'm sorry...) It's hard.. Emotionally and financially. Parents are the 2 people in the world who will really stand up for you, in whatever circumstance. I was closest to my father since I was born, but the last 5 years with my mother was even the best that ever happened to me. Whatever kind of relationship you are with your parents, please do cherish them. Don't wait until it's too late. Merry Christmas!
@simonelee (2716)
• China
24 Dec 09
(in tears) I don't know... i hope this coming year will be a good start for us. I can't control my self not to hate her. I always see her negative side than good things she done to me. Everything about her irritates me even if she's doing nothing. If she changed i guess that's the right time i fully accept her in my heart and then i'll do my part as her child also.
@musicman6 (2394)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I was closer to my Mom, but she passed away Oct. 3,2009 ! I got along better with her, because she had a lot more sense than my Dad does! He is really hard for me to get along with, I only put up with him because he is my Dad, but sometimes, I find it hard to take! Now I know why she was in charge, she was a better commander!
@simonelee (2716)
• China
24 Dec 09
Sorry for that. Condolence. I guess the role of or dad is always like that. Often they become exaggerated in protecting us that's why we often try to escape from that tie. My dad is also like that. I rarely open up my feelings to her so i become closer to my mom before.
@simonelee (2716)
• China
24 Dec 09
"him" rather. Merry Christmas Mr. Musicman. God bless and happy holiday to you.
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@musicman6 (2394)
• United States
24 Dec 09
And Happy Holidays to you also, simonelee, and thank you very much !
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
23 Dec 09
from my childhood iam closer to my dad compared to my mom.i have one elder brother,my mom's support is only to my brother and my dad's support is only to me.so when i used to make any mistakes my mom used to scold dad used to advise me.In some of the homes one child will be encouraged while the other be discouraged. In our home care,affection and obedience is equally balanced between me and my brother by my mom and dad.
• India
23 Dec 09
In my home. Hmmm. Care is surely balanced my friend. Its not that my dad to me and my mom to my brother. But in some aspects my mom supports me and in other to my brother. Same way is my dad too. But comparatively, hmmm I spend more time with my dad.
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
I am both close to them and i treat them fairly although they have their own favorites child which is very obvious even though they mention they love all their children but one could sense they favor their favorite child even though it is the mischievous one. Then, the eldest or the youngest were the favorites most of the times. As one mature i do now solve my own worries as much as i could and i do not like to give them some problem which could make them think a lot of worries..
@simonelee (2716)
• China
24 Dec 09
So are you in the middle ranking? They said that middle child is always left out. Oh, yeah! That is so right. They always say that they treat each and everyone fairly but as a child we can sense and feel it that they are being unfair sometimes. MY dad always support my elder sister even if she is already have her own family. Often she received big bucks than my mom.
@sublime03 (2169)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
My mom would usually be at work late hours and so I was always with my dad. So I have to say I am closer to my dad before. But when I had a child of my own already, I had a gap between my dad. But I loved being around my dad. He was the best dad ever and if I had one day to spend the whole day with him it would just be sitting in front of the television and eating snacks. I just love the comfort of sitting right next to my dad.
@simonelee (2716)
• China
23 Dec 09
awww... that is so sweet.You're a sweet daughter. I can imagine you during your school age you love cuddling your dad and be with his arms. Would you mind if if i ask you why having your own child put a gab in your closeness to your dad? I guess you still have time and a chance to bond with him.
• United States
24 Dec 09
When I was younger, I was more attached to my mom, as I grew older, I ended up moving in with my dad, as they had split up. Now, as an adult, I don't know my mother at all and my dad doesn't even so much as call me. I got kicked out of my dad's house by the time I turned 14. I can only hope my kids will be closer to me, than I am to my parents.
@coolcat123 (4390)
• India
24 Dec 09
my mom but it was not always the same. WhenI was a kid I was very near to my father but as the time passed by I realised that mom's are best friends of a girl becoz we can discuss many things only with her.
@lihocc (58)
• China
24 Dec 09
I am closer to my mom before.I am much closer to my son after I got married.Things always changed.
• United States
24 Dec 09
hey simonelee! I would have to say that I'm more closer to my mom than my dad only because that up until this day, I never saw my father's face. So its easy for me to say that. I talk to my mom about anything and everything and our relationship is like peanut butter and jelly. Happy holidays and Happy mylotting!!
• China
24 Dec 09
I have been away from home, away from my parents for 8 eight years. After senior high school, I go to University in big cities. After graduation, i worked in that city which is hundreds of miles away from my hometown. Although i went back home two or three times every year, i feel there was a huge distance from my parents.
@lilgold (89)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Well my mom's home most of the time but i can't choose between any
@Jakywoo (102)
• China
24 Dec 09
I love my mom and dad,but I used to keep what I am thinking in my heart because I think I should experience them by myself.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
24 Dec 09
Hi I have always been close to My dad.He is my world.I have never been closer to my mom, but for me my Dad has been my freinds,philospher and guide.I got married and have settled overseas due to which I dont get to see him much but there's not a single day when I don't miss him.
• United States
23 Dec 09
I am closer to my dad than my mom. my parents are divorced and my mom is a real loser so i am living with my dad and he is awesome. i am much closer to him than my mom.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
I treat them both equal, there are some things i shared it to my mom, and some to my dad.when i was in my teens i use to sleep beside them.:) but now im married and very far away from them., I learned to love them more and appreciate all the things that they had done for me. I love and treasure them.:)
@sachii315 (489)
• Japan
23 Dec 09
Hi simonelee! My dad and I had been best buddies ever since. I'm closer to my dad than my mom because I can feel that she is closer to my brother. I mostly ran to my dad whenever I had problems. My mom is always the back up. But still, I love them both. Happy mylotting!
@Fulltank (2894)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
I would say, my mother. If simply because she is the one who spends more time with all her children. Most of the time she's always there to accompany me during the time time of hardship and problems. My mother is a full-time mother to us. So I think I would cry more when she will be gone than with my father.
• India
23 Dec 09
For me botha re equal.There are some things that i sahre with my dad and not with my mon.the same goes other way round.so i dont know whom Iam close to.For me I love them both and cant imagine a life without them. HAPPY HOLIDAYS
@sbeauty (5869)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I was always closer to my dad. We loved the same things and had the same interests. We did little things together, like make popcorn on Friday evenings, that are still special to me 50 years later. My mother and my brother always got along great, but I never hit it off with my mother. Unfortunately, Dad passed away in 1986, and I miss him still. I've grown somewhat closer to my mother over the years, but we'll still never have the same relationship I had with my dad.