Is it normal to feel bad to a person you just met?

@maria1081 (1252)
Philippines
December 25, 2009 12:19am CST
There are some instances that I have a bad feeling for someone I just saw for the first time. I didnt do it on purpose, I just felt it. I also dont intend to pass a judgement on her/him but it just happened. Am I the only one experiencing this? I know that its not good to feel this way but I just cant help it sometimes. What I do is I just ignore the feeling but still I cant be friends with her/him.
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@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
hi maria^^;; this kinda remind me of my hubby. i meant, i really didn't like him and despised him even if he didn't do any harm to me...it's just that the first impression wasn't that good but that first impression didn't last at all it happened also during first days at work, and some impressions and feelings did stay the same but some were changed when we get to know more the person and be with him/her more often...
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@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
This is a cute story. Its different from the rest, stay happy always!
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
26 Dec 09
I call those 2nd opinions. It changes with time, definitely..
@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
hi zed, long time no see well, i agree... time can change those impressions especially if they are totally wrong. and time can also prove that these people are indeed like what we see on the first meeting
@Anneleia (54)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
yes, i do experienced that also. I have this co-worker from my former company, we never had a time to talk and also, she said something bad about me which i dont know why, after all she didnt really know me that much because as i have said we never talk. i also learned that she dont want me in our room.
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@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
Maybe she's jealous and insecure of you.
• United States
25 Dec 09
I've experienced that feeling before. Multiple times. It made my feel less than nice, too. It's weird, it feels almost like you know them, like they're an enemy from your past. Maybe they remind you of someone negative or something negative but you can't recall what. It's kind of like the way that sometimes meeting a person that looks like, or has the same name as an enemy, can make you uncomfortable with them. Even though you don't dislike your enemy because of their face/name, you start to kind of dislike their name/face - as it reminds you of them. Did that make any sense, I don't know how to explain it any clearer. lol I just tried my hardest to fight it and, eventually, I found some things we had in common with each other and we were "cool."
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@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
Yes you are right. Some people that I had a bad feeling reminds me of an enemy or should I say people that werent nice to me. Or it could also be that the person will do no good to you and it serves as a warning. Despite of that I control my negative feelings so that it would just go away and pass.
@msq516 (61)
• China
25 Dec 09
yes, it is quite and i think perhaps most people have such experience. it is said that if you feel good or bad for someone without any reason, it indicates that you are not mature. so in spite of the good or bad feeling you have to someone, treat him in the same way you do others.
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@coolcat123 (4391)
• India
25 Dec 09
I too have these kind of feelings when meeting some people who I feel is not an appropriate personality or negetives in him. I better stay away and dont mix up or talk much rather I move far away and want the person to understand what he is in my view and I dont like him either.
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@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
25 Dec 09
there is a spiritual connection happening there u and that person the soul of the person in some past life had some unworked issuses and now your back in eachothers company to resolve it,u in this life know not of this but your soul as all memories recorded,so when u see this person a sudden urge of dislike start occuring and u don't physically know why but your soul knows,if its friendship then accept the friendship and let it stay there if its relationship,then u r going to have reocurrencies of past life issuses and then u r going to say in the long run i just felt it from the first time i saw u that this wasn't going to work out,
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
Is your answer has something to do with reincarnation? or past life that haunts someone in the present life?
@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
25 Dec 09
very much so and its not a haunt its a karma,a karma is a debt either tto be payed to u or u owe it,but in these cases its an unresolved issue that as present it self again to be resolved so this time,observe carefully whats gonna happen between u both and don't rush into anything,analyze the process this time and resolve it,u r the one in charge of this process and this is why u r getting the answer,if u choose to accept,the faith of it being spiritual,your soul knows everthing already u in this present body living in the mind frame of the body think that u r new in this life u r not,spiritual u r very old,u have gone through a whole ton loads of experiences already in many lives,and u have conqured some and fail at some,so this time win this one,
@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
25 Dec 09
but hold up is this an overall feeling for people in general or r u talking about someone specific
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Then don't its simple means that your instinct is kicking in.. Its means that person is not for you to be associate with.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Its like your instinct is warning you about that person right?
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
26 Dec 09
I don't know about others, but for me, I normally reserve some form of good impression and basic niceness to others the first time I meet and am introduced to them. I don't want to have any ill feelings whatsoever and will definitely give good points. If that person consistently prove otherwise, then that's a different thing altogether.
@ronnyb (6117)
• Jamaica
25 Dec 09
I guess you are experiencing what my country man called "spirit compatibility".If you meet someone and you instantly like him ,then they say your spirits are compatible and if you instantly dont like the person then they say your spirits are not compatible .I thinks it happens to most people and sometimes you just have to follow it and then other times you ignore it .Whether you follow it or not will depend on your feeling
@thewayis (648)
• Bulgaria
25 Dec 09
I 've felt this instant antipathy towards many people whom I met for the first time and in most of the cases I continue to dislike the person after I gat to know them. However, I am convinced now that there are really good people who just make bad first impression. I have two very good friends whom I didn't like the first time we met and as it happened I was wrong - my intuition had misled. But most of the time, when I don't like someone in the first place, I continue to not like them when I get to know them
• United States
25 Dec 09
I usually feel bad for people that are handicap or look inocent. I think it is ok and natural.
@thea09 (18316)
• Greece
25 Dec 09
Hi Maria, its just first impressions and I usually find them to be right, its just our natural instincts about people kicking in. I rarely find that I take to someone who I have a bad impression of when first meeting them. On the plus side it works the other way too, if you feel good about a person when first meeting them that feeling usually stands the test of time.
@prinzcy (5036)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 09
I am human too so of course it do happen sometimes. I just unconsciously feel annoyed or make assumption based on the first impression on him/her. Though I did remind myself that first impression is not always correct, I still experiencing it. So I normally try to become friendly and know that person better. Usually, that first impression thing was always wrong.