Anger
By MoonGypsy
@MoonGypsy (4606)
United States
December 25, 2009 9:42pm CST
lately, i am very easy to anger. every little thing gets me on my nerves. i am impatient and intolerant. i don't get violent when i am angry, i just start to sweat really bad, and depending on how p.o.-ed i am, my body will start to ache. this is because i feel like there is no place for the anger to go. sometimes i feel as though i want to get sick to the stomache. i guess the holiday rush, and end of the school semester, has brought on some normal expected stress. other than that, nothing more than usual. there is also the pressure of relocation. that always causes anxiety. i just get so angry at everything and everyone, even when there is nothing wrong. when i get angry, i guess i get sick and will get a head ache. i will then go to sleep (if possible), or else i will just withdrawl untill i don't want to kill everyone with thoughts from my mind. lol. just joking. no, i just withdrawl, because i tend to take anger out (not physically, HECK NO!!! it's not that bad) on others. meaning that i can be intentionly and/or verbally cruel. since i know this, i get in my mood and withdraw before that happends. i know that i have been trying to quit cigarettes this is another reason why the anger spells (more than usuall).
do any of you know what i am talking about. has any one of you ever just went through that kind of spell (even for a while). what was the source of it? how long did the spell last? what did you tend to do while you were going through it, to get over it? thanks in advance (and merry x mas)
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10 responses
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
27 Dec 09
We have the reason half and the feeling half. We should always lead with the reason half. If we allow the feeling half to lead, we can get lost in a sea of emotions like anger.We all have the ability to choose what we deem important in this world. If you are angry all the time perhaps you need to rethink what really is important to you. Never just react to life. Think then act.Remember you are the only one who can choose to be angry or not. Me? I'm never angry.
@lizbenetua (637)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
First of all, Merry Christmas. Thanks for posting. I don't give advice usually unless the person asks it but here goes. First of all, if you are the type of person who get angry easily, you may fall under the choleric personality, according to Florence Littauer's book entitled "Personalities Plus". This book has helped me to understand what type of personality I have which is sanguine and choleric.
Secondly, you have been facing major stressors in your life lately like the Christmas Holiday rush, school work, moving to another place and quitting smoking.
According to the website http://www.quitsmokingsupport.com/, you are having withdrawal symptoms from quitting smoking. The signs are "tingling of the hands and feet, sweating, intestinal cramps, headache, cold symptoms as the lungs begins to clear". I guess what is happening to you is mainly caused by quitting smoking, then further aggravated by stressors in your life. You may check out the site I posted. I know how you felt cause I smoked too before. And I am also going to grad school, so I can relate somehow.
Have you been sleeping lately? You need at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep. Lack of sleep can also cause you to be cranky too.
Hope this helps. Hope you have a Merry Christmas despite the stress!
Hope
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 09
Yes, I went through some of those times before. I found out that you get angry because you felt as if it's a BURDEN, it's an OBLIGATION, a MUST ! Your soul just does not like the pressure and so it rebels and fight against it and results in anger. You have to change your mind about how you look at things and see it as a challenge to make you stronger and more organized. It's a circumstance given by God to teach you to handle multiple things at a time. Because what we face now are meant to develop our qualities to prepare us for a God-given destiny later in the future. Maybe you were meant to be a strong leader one day. So you do have to take time and change your perspectives in all that's happening now. Getting angry will only waste time, and postpone your success. Accept what you have to face like a puzzle you have to solve and make you a better person in facing the next challenge in life. Good luck and God bless you.
@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
26 Dec 09
your are going through the depression stage,it is an inbalance both physically and spiritually,mentally,to get rid of this u need to relax more and worry less,forget all the trobles of the world and in your life,do things everday that keeps u relaxed get rid of the things that upsets u,that discussion u created about positive and negative as the same thing that i was saying about the positive attitude,its all there in the process of relaxation
@bhawanee (174)
• India
26 Dec 09
Dear MoonGypsy, i am very sorry to know that you get anger for little things which is not a good sign. To reduce your anger get up daily at 5.00 a.m. and do this exercise. Close your one nostril with finger and take breathe from the other and release the air from the nostril which you kept open while closing the nostril from which you have taken breathe inside. Repeat this for nearly half an hour a day and you will see changes with in a month. Keep trying and all the best.
@sweetbali4you (359)
• India
26 Dec 09
Sometimes i also feel anger and don't know why but some time my mom says why i am irritating now a days.
@balabrahmam (1071)
• India
26 Dec 09
i am also having similar probl;em but i know the solution in my aspect meditation is the best solution for all mental problems and also angryness so try it meditation atlest daily 30 minutes reguraly have a nice day
@artistry (4152)
• United States
26 Dec 09
...Hi there MoonGypsy, It sounds as though your life just got more crowded than usual with things that are getting on your nerves. The holiday season will soon be over so you won't have to deal with that after a while. The relocation may still be in process, but you should try if you can, to take one thing at a time with that and pace yourself, if you can. A major thing you can do for yourse;f, if I might suggest, is to start practicing meditation. Set aside some quiet time for yourself, an hour every other day, and meditate. Just sit in a dimly lit room, maybe very soft music, and center yourself. Think of the calm sea or the beautuful clouds. Something tranquil. Doing this will build up your reserve to withstand things which aggravate you. They won't bother you as much because you are strong within yourself, your internal fortitude will be stronger than the irritation that is trying to get on your nerves. Practice meditation, it helps a whole lot. When you are at the supermarket next time, purchase some Chamomile tea, it soothes your nervous system, drink a cup at night to sleep better. Good luck to you. Take care.
@PastorP (1170)
• United States
26 Dec 09
Greetings MoonGypsy
I had something like that in my teenage years. But, along with that, there were times I was terribly sad and depressed. Come to think of it now, I vaguely remember being torn in two directions -- wanting to be angry at everyone but a part of me wanting to be nice.
When I committed my life to Christ in January 1970 I guess you can say my brain began to cure. Over the years it has gotten much better. Will pray for you .
May God bless you and grant you His peace.
@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
Merry Christmas MoonGypsy! It is understandable to get angry if there is something to get angry about. But you mentioned that you get mad even if there is nothing wrong. Have you talked to a friend lately? You may wanna confide and talk about your lashing out. It could help ease it. Learn to control your anger by taking deep breaths. It can relax you and prevent you from becoming more tense. If something irritates you, take a moment and ask yourself (while deep-breathing), "Is this thing really worth getting mad?" Another way to look at it, "Is this thing gonna matter after 10 years?" Think about it. Sounds crazy, but it is a good way to stop you from bursting at the moment. Hope this helps!
