Why do you invite someone to be on your friends?

Hi Careguarden, I often wait awhile before making a Friend Request because I want the person I am interested in becoming friends with to see my responses. It's almost like stalking (smile), I will generally know immediately from their posting whether this person is interesting and fun. Also, if the person responses to my comments, I know that this person is genuinely interested in their own discussions. Then I will stalk their discussions and respond to them. After a bit, I will then make a Friend Request. That way, they know that I am not just a "fly-by-night-requester". The discussions that make me think and make me laugh are the best and those are the individuals that I would like to befriend. But I am timid which is why I wait, I dislike rejection which is why I want the people I invite to be friends see a bit of my "sparkling" personality before asking. Of course if that person asks me first it's always a great feeling!

Hi careguarden, I want people on my friends list who are interesting and have the same kind of thing in common, I have no interest in being inundated with low quality discussions. Even if I like what someone has to say I won't request them if they can't be bothered to respond to all the responses on their own discussions. I will have generally have bumped into someone quite a lot on the boards and thus have a sense of who they are before I send a request.

I make Friend Requests based on how much we appear to have in common. If someone makes a really interesting response to my discussions, or posts something I can identify with on other discussions, I'll visit their profile and look at their other posts. If I feel we'll be able to enjoy communicating on the boards, I'll put in a Friend Request, although I find I receive more FRs than I make. I certainly wouldn't just base it on a best response.

Hi care guarden: I pick my friends for two reasons: 1. According to what he/she says we have an opinion in common so i would like to keep talking with him/her or 2. I love the way he talks about a subject so i think this person should be very intelligent and it would be interesting to keep talking with him/her even if, in this case it's not necessary that we have similar opinions. I know it's almost impossible that I'll get to know someone here but the way we share ideas it's really nice and that's exactly what I love of the site. Thanks for asking me this question. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy Holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro.

I look for common interests and also to see how they answer certain posts. For example, I would never be friends with someone who always puts others down. I have been very fortunate because no one acts this way in here. I always say yes to those who ask me to be friends.