i am puzzled with the feeling between us
By redkey65
@redkey65 (221)
China
December 26, 2009 11:38am CST
i am puzzled with the feeling between me and the one i knew recently. three months ago, one of my friends introduced him to me. we are in two different cities, one is in the north, the other in the sourth. so up to now, we never see each other, except in the pictures. he took a job for four years after graduation, and done well. i am a student, in the last school year. in the beginning, he phoned me often, and even send me a special card as a gift for no reason. after that, he just send message to me, first the cares information, later one homorous message daily. even in the chrismas day, there is no gift, only daily message.
i don't know what is wrong with us. i hardly send message to him, just answer his message. and now, i realized maybe we two need more conversation to know each other well. while, he just send one message in three days. does this mean the end to us? i never involved in a relationship before, so i need you guys advice. and he is 8 years older than me, maybe this is a problem too.
5 responses
@luckymy2008 (260)
• China
27 Dec 09
I think this feeling is very common in our life, especially to the girl who is still in the school. First, he is 8 years older than you, maybe after three months communication he realised the generation gap between you two;Second, you are still a student being free and naive,but he is a full time worker with busy work and great pressure;Third, he has worked there for four years and done well, it is difficult for him to give up it, so if you didn't tell him you would go for him after graduation, maybe he is not very confident for this relationship.
You can think out or ask him where the problem is if you still have feeling to him. but in my opinion, you should pay your attention to your study at the moment. you will meet the Mr.right in the future. Good luck!
@yu_titi (2)
• China
27 Dec 09
hello, i have the same experience. now i think you'd better ask him directly. the worst situation is not that he stop your relationship,but that you think of the whole things all day and make guesses which i used to. but if you do that, he will take great pressure.,and maybe he will shrink back. in one word, you'd better deal with the relationship actively.
@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
26 Dec 09
at your age this is your first relationship,and this person his older than u and more experienced in this as well,and according to what u say,does he know that its your first time getting involved,truthfully i don't know what to say about this or guide u through it,cause there is so much i can say,but i don't wanna jump to conclusions,cause some things u say about what he is doing don't seem too,upfront,but then again uor both not in the same place,this one is kinda your,experience that u r going to have to observe,to make a real connection with u both is just too much distance,to say anything about him,its all phone connection
@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
26 Dec 09
"It takes two hands to clap". In a relationship, it is the same thing as well. You mentioned about hardly you are the one sending messages, maybe that's could be something that he felt confused as well. Not putting the blame on anyone here though. I am just suggesting if you might just want to be a bit proactive in finding out things between the two of you rather than you keep yourself guessing. It's difficult to maintain a relationship and it's even difficult to guess someone whom you don't get to meet at all.
@mudraonline (16)
• India
26 Dec 09
be proactive. try to know what he thinks of you.......be transparent. you need to signal him so that at least he can share his feelings. stop sending sms-s and talk to him directly and want to know what he thinks of the relationship.
