The need for love and need

Need and love are two vital ingredients that make life worth living for. Without which living is worthless. Devoid of these basic ingredients in our life every human beings are destined to an early grave. Loneliness kills when we are old and helpless. At least a little love from the children prolong our earthly existence. We want to feel loved and needed in our our old age as it is this crucial old age that we feel hopeless and helpless. Time that we invested in caring and loving our children should bear fruits in our twilight years.

I would prefer to be loved. If I am loved, with it is my worth as a person. And as long as I have the strength and the capacity, I will do what I can to serve the needs of others in my family, also doing it out of love.

Hi vijayanths, I agree that the need to be loved and needed is something that we all want. There may be a few who would try to tell us otherwise but I doubt if it's really true, though they may have convinced even themselves. I think if I had to chose it would be to be loved. If my family had reached the point where they no longer needed me, I hope they would still love me for helping them to make it there. Blessings.

hi vijayanths well why do we have to choose, why not be needed for our knowledge and wisdom gained from our life experience and loved because we are the mother or the grandmother and we gave life to our children and love too, why choose why not both they should come together, so maybe at my senior age my son no longer needs me as he did as a child but could he not need me for advice, for a cheering section, for just being his mom?

I want to be useful to the family, they are part of what i am today. they made me who i am today, everything i have i give back to my family whether they need it or not, whether to have an assurance that they love me or not - loving is given anyway - so in my case i just LOVE doing it to them. regardless how you call it. Love doing what you would like to do with your family. God Bless!

I surely want to be loved my friend. Even if I'm being loved enough, I usually feel to be loved even more. I wish my friends my loved ones to be always near me showing their love and care over me in one or the other way my friend. I don't know if its correct to expect this much. But I surely expect this more my friend.

I want to be loved as long as I live on this earth.As we grow old, children and grandchildren would have their own lives to lead and the relationship cannot thrive on need alone.That may dilute the feeling involved.I only wish that I would not feel loved only if there is a need.That need would certainly not be there and I know that once children grow up I need them more than what they need me.It is a sort of a role reversal.When they were young the chidren are dependent on their parents.When parents grow old they become dependent on their children[physically and emotionally]

When I was young, I was expecting that people should love me, like me, need me and care me. There are lot of disappointments that I faced in these respects. Though I offered unconditional love and affection, went to help without hesitation, people neither reciprocated the same nor recognised my love, affection or services. If I start thinking about them, I loose peace of mind. Hence I am trying to follow the words of Bhagavat Geetha. Karmanye nadikarasthe... Do your duty without expecting anything, you do your duty, let the others be how they are. Though it hurts sometimes as I am not God and I am a human being with flesh and blood, still I try to be like a stitaprgna, without bothering about other's reactions. I am still in the process of practice. Hope I will achieve that status.

I want to feel the love coming from my family and I always love them. I also have needs which fortunately my family filled when I need it. I can give all my family wants and needs but atleast they will give me what i deserve too. I always wanted to be useful which I believe I am eversince, and my family on the other hand is ever useful too. I guess we are just equal when it comes to love and needs. I love and needs my family and they love and needs me too.

Don't worry God loves you even if your family members seem to take you for granted. Always remember that you are not forgotten by God.

i find that both them are important for me.because of love,i find that we would be happy together,because of need,so i could work hard for what i need.if there is no love,i find that what i need could not satify my spirit need.if there is no need.i think that it is impossible to be missing in my life.

Hello dear brother, I want to be loved and need. I want to be loved becoz,i love the thought of being loved by people around me. It gives me strength and courage to live and give everything i can. I love being loved becoz i feel my importance to everyone's life,and that gives me determination to live and do things and serves people around me. I love to be loved becoz i feel the need to live for everyone that needs me and everyone that loves me for who i am. Becoz,there is no wealth that i can offer to people who loves me aside from "LOVE". Have a nice day always my dear brother

hi vijayanths! I would surely prefer to be loved, I want to feel that they needed me because they loved me, rather than they just love me because they need me..And as long as i am strong and capable for whatever needs that my family needed i would gladly help and do my duties.we are always useful to our family because they loves us:)

I don't know if it's too much to ask, but I want to be loved and needed, both at the same time. I think these two goes hand in hand. When you truly love a person, who need him too. You need him to love him. I'm not sure if I'm making any sense. But, I think I'm a hopeless romantic, and I think it's a wonderful feeling to be loved and needed at the same time.

The "I" is a very strong word, not only in English, but if translated in all other languages. The mind, is so egocentric, for it, the world revolves only around it, and the mind is the center of the universe. So, it's natural for all of us to first think only about ourselves. Many of us don't think, "why?" because we are so caught up with our own feelings of wanting to be loved. I like your question. It makes me answer what I have experienced from my own feelings. Just like anybody else in this world, even I have been self-centered for years, up to now, and only thought about myself all the time, and never thought if I could be useful to anybody, even though, I had a great desire to be selfless, and be of service not only to my family, and father etc... but to the society also by doing social work. But, I have never been successful, because, all over the years I have been thinking, only about myself, and about how I have never received enough love. It is not necessary that your question needs a direct answer I guess. I would like to answer it from various spectrum. It has different layers, and let me just say the reason also. Many of us just answer but don't see the reason for the answer. Right from childhood, all of us seek attention from our parents, and it never seems enough, and still we feel inadequate, and need of the "I" keeps increasing. That's why, most of us try to understand others, according to our experiences, and not understand them, according to their inner feeling. We attune only to our minds, and our mind patters, and we don't try to come out of that pattern and look into another person's mind pattern as in what their needs are, and deal with them. So, it's a tough task to be needed, and there are many people who prefer to be needed, and yes, they are the ones who break the pattern of their minds and think broad. So far, I have tried a lot to cater to the needs of my family, and try and extend my love and respect as much as possible, but still I haven't been very successful. So, the need of the "I" needs to be reduced all the more and I am still learning in the process, to be needed by others, so I can be of immense help and make others feel secure, by being strong myself.

hello vijayanths! i would choose to be loved! it will give a better feeling when we know that our family & friends love us that's why they needed us instead of something like they need us that's why they love us...huh! come to think of it, if they just need us that's why they love us, what happen when they don't need us anymore? love will also gone? so its better for me that they love me that's why they need me... have a good day my friend!

Hi Vijayanths, i think we need both ingredients in our life to make our life more meaningful to live. I think without the need and love in our life, it's quite worthless and meaningless to live in this world. That's why, we want to feel loved and needed in our our old age as, because that's the time when we are started to feel helpless and depended on our children to fulfill our daily needs, if we started to fall ill. So, hopefully the care and love that we had show towards our children now, will bring some meaningful fruits into our life in the old age. That's why, it's important to educate our children well, while they are still young and tender.