paranoid of germs and thieves ?
By Godmother
@Godmother (476)
Indonesia
December 28, 2009 3:12am CST
An old friend came to visit and told me that his youngest brother whom I know so well, will maybe get a divorce because he finally can't stand it anymore because his wife is always nagging him to wash his hands and check the doors as many times as possible in a day. Whenever he forgot to do one of them, she would get furious. When her husband comes home late, she would immediately get out of bed and check whether he's locked the doors twice, and if he forgot she could start yelling and not talk to him for days. She'd check his hands whether he's washed them and wouldn't let him sleep if he didn't. She's paranoid of germs, and thieves (there was never any house burglared in their neighborhood )and it gets worse by the years. Does anybody know what this is all about ? Is this some mental sickness or an addiction or is it normal ? They've been married for 19 years, and I hate to see them separate.
2 responses
@donna22 (1116)
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28 Dec 09
This does sound like very unreasonable behaviour so I think it probably will be some kind of mental disease or something. Ive heard of people themselves keep washing their hands and being obsessed with keeping things clean but Im sure there are cases where they are obsessed with others doing it as well. I would advice your brother to try and get help for his wife.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 09
He's trying to tell her to see someone, but she thinks she's fine, and he's the one who is ignorant. What do you do when one partner just won't admit their weakness ?
@bingchen (1119)
• China
28 Dec 09
nobody hope to see this result of separating.but the marriage need couple manage their life,so this need their help and intolerate and understand each other,if one of them always intolerate another,but another could not change herself a little,i think that i could not accept this marriage and make me unhappy in this life.making us all happy,i think that it is long marriage.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 09
True Bingchen, I agree with you, but the question is : How long must you keep trying before you say it's enough, and it's better to separate ? He said he's tried for years, but he kept it a secret from the whole family until recently, so now that's why his brothers and sisters are trying to help, because it was a 19 years of marriage and it's so sad to see them separate.
