long distance relationship really works???
By coolhaze
@coolhaze (28)
December 28, 2009 4:34am CST
how you will deal to this situation. my friend is working as a helper outside of her country for her family. for 4 years, she is working for her family on her country but everytime there is a special occassion (birthdays, christmas, new year) her family can't find a time to talk her on mobile or on the internet. everytime she insists them to have online on the internet, her family says they are busy, have something to fix that can't go over the on the net, such excuses. how you will feel? it's so devastating feeling. i feel so sad when my friend open up her situation to me. for 4 years, no special time for me. 2 or 3 hours only on this occasions, oh God it really hurts. long distance relationship really need time and patience on both partner either mother to daughter, girlfriend-boyfriend, and even bestfriends to her bestfriends... need really time and effort to work for each party.
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14 responses
@simonelee (2715)
• China
28 Dec 09
Hi there. I'm currently in a long distance relationships and for five years we've been through a lot of trials. I guess things will work if both party exert some effort. If the other one is busy or whatsoever he/she should give way or at least try to reach out and understand. Patient is one of the important factor.
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@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
28 Dec 09
It is very difficult to have online or long distance relationship. Ive been doing it for over 3 year now and it has had its rocky parts. If both partys want the same thing for the relationship it is easier. Living two lives separately and miles apart is difficult at best. Both have to work hard at setting asice time for each other. The internet does help and things like text messaging on cell phones but still theres something missing and you have to make up for that in other ways.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 09
It can be really difficult to keep up a long distance relationship. In todays world email communication and mobile phone messages can help the couple stay in contact. I know that absence makes the heart grow fonder. It is a shame that your friend has to work overseas. Sometimes people can get busy and not have time to speak on the phone. Emails can be sent when the person has time. When I was 20 years old I traveled around the world. In those days I had to send letters and those took five days to reach the UK. I made some expensive phone calls. Good luck to your friend.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 09
Hello coolhaze, long distance relationship might work but needs a lot of effort in keeping in touch, patient, understanding. There is this quotes : " Distance, it is a test of love, many will fail, but for those who can withstand it have the answer: true love." All the best for you and partner.
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@shivamkapila (764)
• India
28 Dec 09
hey dear
welcome you to my lot dear..it is good to have a long distance relationship because it really help each other to meet and share your feeling with each other,,,but the think is that long distance relationship is of limited period of time at last you need to joined together otherwise the relation cause serious problems as well
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@xianxian54 (146)
• China
23 Jan 10
long distance relationship is pretty difficult. i am far away with my family for 2 years, even i come back to my parents from time to time, let's 3 or 4 times per year, but my parents still feel something are missing. i have been in long distance love with my bf for about 2 and a half years. i can tell u it is very tought,especially at the beginning, when i just started to work in a new place, i found i really miss him, his daily email and call couldn't replace his physical presence, therefore i had a lot of fight with him. Recently the situation becomes more stable, or maybe because i become more mutual, but i definately think it will not a long time solution, so now i am thinking to change to the job and move closer to him.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I think it depends upon how this relationship is devoted to each other whether this is boyfriend/girlfriend or just best friend..... It is important to know and never forget the bond that brought you two to come to know each other in the first place.
@MJAL08 (275)
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30 Dec 09
Long distance relationships are quite frustrating because your in a relationship but don't get the whole package. It's like eating tofu, keeps you healthy but never satisfies.
If the couple is most willing to make it work then without a doubt it will work. Its like both of them are hanging in a cliff if one lets go, its pointless hanging on when he or she already let go.
@vherzha (223)
• India
28 Dec 09
Dear Coolhaze
According to me, Long distance relationship is good too... It will surely realize the love and affection between both... But the same time, if the same thing happening for too long (more than years) means then surely there is no use and no more love or affection is there. Because we already know the Newton's third law "Every reaction have an equal and opposite reaction". As per if any other person whom is near to him/her will equalize that long distance person's relation means then surely there is no effect by keep that much distance too...
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
29 Dec 09
really its a devastating feeling friend.she is working outside the country for the sake of her family and they all enjoying and not sharing her feelings with them.she should make her family to realise her importance friend.if my family do like this for me,when they contact me i wont speak with them, i will make them realise their mistakes.at least her parents should daily spend some time with her
have a nice day friend:)
@Rock_Me_In (400)
• India
29 Dec 09
Ya my friend. Her family members must somehow make time to spend with her. Good morning my friend. Have a good day.
@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
It's true. A long distance relationship can never be a win-win situation; it's either one side or both parties suffer from that kind of relationship. These types of relationships often do not work especially between couples. Time, presence, and physical contact are all very essential in maintaining a healthy relationship. In your friend's case, it hurts just the same, or even worse. People need physical contact, because sometimes an email, a text message, or even a phone call is not enough.
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@FallenGurl (195)
• Canada
29 Dec 09
For me, i can't do long distance, with my family is a different situation, i dont have a close family, i talk to my parents, and my siblings every now and then, but as for my boyfriend, i can't do it, i hate being away from him for 2 days, i'm the kind of person that craves his attention, even if the attention is on him, i'm with him, so it don't matter, i've tried long distance, and i couldn't make it work, i love being with my boyfriend, not on the phone, of sending e-mails or what not, i need his presents with him to be happy. But thats just me, i have friends who's boyfriends are away and they do just fine, they make it work.
