A promise worth waiting for...how long will you wait?
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39140)
Philippines
December 28, 2009 9:38am CST
hello dear friends/mylotters,mere bhai/s,sister/s,
How long will you wait for someone that gives you a promise?
"i can wait forever,if you'll say you'll be there too,
i can wait forever if you will,i know it worth it all
to spend my life along with you"
This phrase just remind me about promises.
How long will you wait for a promise?
Do you give a deadline,or do you easily give up for a promise undone for several times?
What if someone promised you something,and failed to fulfill it?
How many times will you give that someone a chance to fulfill his/her promise?
How about you dear friends...do you give promises and doesn't fulfill it?
Happy holiday everyone...
10 responses
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
28 Dec 09
How long will I wait, Well, hmm it depends. If someone fails to keep his or her promise then I would probably think that he/ she might have a genuine reason for not keeping the promise.
But it is too situational I guess. But I believe everybody would love to see that if someone promises something then they keep it. So maybe everybody should probably try to do his/ her best to keep a promise.
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
28 Dec 09
Well if somebody deliberately does it then it I would take it as a humiliation, my didi. Hmmm.. Indians, I think you cannot term it in that way. There are good people and bad persons here too. So I guess it would be a too loose term.
There are guys who can go to extremes to keep a word then there are guys who can easily forget their promises made. And, that applies to anyplace in the world I reckon.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
i agree with you dear,just asking your opinion about it.
i had an Indian family friend here in my country and they say...it's hard to trust unless,proven(by acts).
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
hello my dear chota bhai,
Precisely,there maybe a good reason behind the delay of the fulfillment.
I will accept any reason,but,what if it failed for many times?...is it still acceptable?
Are Indian men kept promised?...or often break?(just a question dear 
)
Have a good day
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Have a good day 
@sasalove (1709)
• China
29 Dec 09
In my heart, a promise should be punctual otherwise it will lose its significance. It is not a promise anymore if the guy did not keey his words. I really can not understand why ppl would like to wait the promise, particularly for the girls and I think it is silly to let such kinds of things happen.
If someone failed to fulfil the promise, I will not give any other chance for him to down me. More expectation, more disappointment there. I think if a guy is easy to promise, the promise is no more promise any more.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
hello sasalove,
Of course,once a promise is broken,it really hurts,so,why wait and trust for another promise from the same person.
A promise is one basis of trust and denial...some broken promises are worth the reasoning,while others just break their promises for nothing(becoz it doesn't mean anything).
But,the fact is,when someone who give us the promise is someone we love and trust,even if it is broken,we will surely give that someone another try.(at least worth the reason for breaking the first one)
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
i see,we're almost of the same boat "the sentimentalists"
i am s scorpion,same with you...shield with outer covering,but so soft inside...very sensitive.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
29 Dec 09
I always did not expect too much from others, and did not quite serious at the promise that other people made, maybe I did not have confidence for myself and thers too. My constellation is Cancer, which always minds protecting iteself using their shelf. I am very scary of the betral or failed promise. The hurt will last for a long time if I happened to it, thus I spoken to myself not to trust any promise just in case.
Human being always made the mistake unconsciously, I don't want to blame on them if they don't keep the promise. No matter he did it purposely or unpurposely, I will get hurt as I am a very sentimental girl.
Have a nice day.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
Hello mi bonita..I was a victim of that but as time passes by, I learned to consider it. Why? It is because, as we promised seriously to somebody we determined to fulfill it and so the concerned one would also positively waiting for that promise. But since we are not the one really holding our destiny, our future, sometimes we've wrongly identified as liars because we didn't fulfill our commitment unknowingly the real reasonable reasons...
Yeah, I think this is practical. On the first place we can't hardly accept it because we might think it is unfair to those who waited for so long on the promises but the waiting was in vain...
But for me, experiencing this "trauma" from waiting, I would not wait for so long anymore...
Do you have this kind of "trauma" mi bonita mia?
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
17 Mar 10
Hello my dear bonita mia...thanks for this BR...have a nice day ahead...
Mobhomeir here...
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
hello Martin,
You're most welcome dear..
Have a good weekend ahead 
Have a good weekend ahead @jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
my dear Martin,
Uhmnn,well,what can i say.....Yes! sort of.
I don't want to think "i was fooled",i would rather think..."he has his reasons".
Just like what you've said...it hurts to think that someone whom we made the promised will accuses us as liar"...so,i don't want to think that he lied.
I am still waiting for his time,right time,maybe not until forever...but,just a matter of time.
HAPPY NEW YEAR my dear amigo.......
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
hello jaiho my friend!
well they say, all good things comes to those who wait...or good things worth the wait! haha
with me, i can willingly wait for someone for something no matter how long, just that please don't let me wait for nothing!
it will not be easy for it needs faith and patience as well as real love in order for us to be able to wait for long...its difficult to wait or look forward for something that we are not even sure if it will happen...haha
but anyway, just like what i have said, it will requires faith, patience and love and of course trust!
i don't usually give promises specially if i know that i can't fulfill it..whenever i give promise, i really find effort and do my best to fulfill them...
how many times can i give a chance for someone to fulfill their promise? as long as i have faith on them, i trust them & i love them...
but i am not that fool or martyr...so i must know when to stop believing & waiting and just move on...
good day amiga!
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
hmmm...was the movie good? do you have an indian blood as well? hehe
well, yes, we should also have some inspiration in waiting...just like what we people are doing now, i think most of us are waiting for that day to come..the day when Christ be back...most of us are waiting for this right? and for believers it will definitely worth the wait...for good things will follow after we are being saved...
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
I did,i had an Indian blood,my grandma(father side is a full blooded Indian)but not the Indian from India...the Indians from Canada(red Indians).
And,it's the most rewarding wait worth a lifetime.(the judgement).
And,it's the most rewarding wait worth a lifetime.(the judgement).@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
hello again dear amiga,
That's one good reason to wait...good things to come to those who wait.
I also wish it won't take forever(nyahahaha).
It is really hard to wait,but the hope and trust is always there,keeping someone to wait for that promise.
I have seen this from the movie...the patience of waiting,very inspiring and touching too..."SAAWARIYA" it's a Hindi(Indian) movie.
It once prove that...Love has the power to give strength to someone who believes in it.
Have a good day always dear
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
nah,i haven't forgotten about it dear brother,actually,i am waiting for you.
are you ready for the interview?
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
our book...hmnn...,i guess you are the one who's forgetful nah
@bingchen (1119)
• China
30 Dec 09
i dont hear someone's promise and i dont believe any promise,sometimes i find that waiting is very sad thing for me.i dont know where is my future,so i dont hope that they give me any promise and i should wait for them for a long time,i dont want to bet this game,i know that i only have half of chance to win this love,but i dont hope that i only have half of chance,i hope that i win all.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
Hello bingchen,
Promises are made to be broken,this is true,but,there were promises that are fulfilled by people who have "words of honor".
It is the heart the speaks a promise,so let the heart decide if it can fulfill such promise.
I don't blame you for not believing promises,it is your own opinion.
Some people who get hurt by unfulfilled promises,stop believing in it too.
Once the heart was hurt,it becomes numb and deaf to hear promises.
I don't made promises too,i always say "i'll do my best".
Thanks for your response and have a good day always dear
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
29 Dec 09
HI,
waiting is something that need a lot of patient. how long will you be that patient? well, sometimes it would take forever to wait for someone... but if someone loves you then he/she will not let you wait forever. If you do then you just hurt yourself. If I wait for someone then I have to make sure he keeps his promise as well... and I dont want to wait or think something that is not even real
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
Hello smile,
Very good point of view my friend.
We must learn to know how real the promise is before compromising ourselves to wait forever.
Just like the what i have wrote above "i know it's worth it all,to spend my life along with you"
It's worth the wait...coz,we know the one who give us the promise also longed to fulfill the promise on the right time.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
29 Dec 09
i do not know how to reply such question since i'm face such problem recently.i think normally if that is worth waiting for.then just keep the promise and wait it. but world changed a lot and as time goes by both the promiser or the one waiting for that promise will change .that's hard to define.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
Hello friend,
The hurt will makes the heart numb.
Once a promise is broken,it lessen the trust,and later result with pain and regrets.
Then,the heart will get tired of trusting and waiting for any fulfillment of a promise.
This often lead into change of feeling towards the person whom we once loved and trust.
I understand what you were feeling right now,learning to trust once again is a hard thing to do.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
It really depends upon the type of promise. I think promises are wonderful but they should need some sort of validation or verification after some time. I myself is willing to wait but at some point, I would want that person to validate that promise and to secure me that the promise made is still very much true so I can continue waiting. If the person who gave it to you keeps on telling you to wait and assuring you that nothing has changed, then it would be easier and much peaceful to wait. I hope you get what I mean lol
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
hello calai,
I understand what you mean in here friend.
It's hard to wait for a lifetime(which i think i can't)
Waiting for the fulfillment of a promise is a long wait that means happiness if ever,but also means devastation once failed.
But the fact that,if a promise was made by someone we love,we always wait with patience and a hopeful heart.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
