Why people are rude to others?

@Fulltank (2894)
Philippines
December 28, 2009 10:27pm CST
You never done bad to them, but still they approach you with rudeness. Are they born to bring rudeness in this world, are they not raised with manners, are they lacking something which they don't have, or simply they have low self-esteem? What do you think?
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18 responses
@figjam00 (1450)
• India
29 Dec 09
See there is reason behind every person who acted rude. I mean if kid behaves rude its because of a bad parenting, if a person behaves bad it may be because of some tiff with someone else. By nature no one is rude its just that life makes them that way. So I feel okay now if somebody behaves badly because there could have been some reason for this.
• Mexico
29 Dec 09
Hi figjam: Hi agree with you theory. In many cases a person that is rude have been attacked by someone else, he/ she should have antecedents of physical-verbal violence among his/her family members or friends that has made him/her the angry persn he/she is right now. Even with that I beleive that people can change if they really want to do it. It's just a choice when you look that you are doing something wrong and you make people feel uncomfortable. Thanks for your answer figjam. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro
@cecila (11)
• India
30 Dec 09
When they approach you with rudeness, i want to suggest you "to be positive instead of reacting,be calm down and try to understand the circustances associating with rudeness." no one was born with rudeness. it depends on the concept of introjection and social factors when one was brought up. why donot you think it positively! I think that every rudeness is associated with positive meaning behind that if one deals with in fair way.
@Jackie8 (127)
• China
30 Dec 09
I think it is wrong to say that they are born to bring rudeness in this world, People all are born to be equality in the world. But it's the inequitable world to make them get less education, they do not have the chance to be more manner, if someone even have no chance to get enough creature comforts, you can't ask them to get the training of manner. Just think about it, If you can't change it, Just accept it. Life are all equality.
• China
30 Dec 09
that's because different people have different background and knowldge.they may have something misundstanding with us or others things they do not know exactly so they turns rude to others .but those gentleman may can't be rude to others easily and just ignore that kind of rude man.
• India
30 Dec 09
There are some reasons................... the other person may be irritating him so he is rude to that person............. he may be jelous with that person................... another reason may be that the nature of that person is rude.................... there are many person who are rude from there birth.............
• Canada
30 Dec 09
Well people are rude to others because they think there acomplishing something by puting you down etc. Being rude can also be people excluding other people when they are doing something and that may be because they simply dislike eachother and they dont want to be near eachother. manners Some people are rude with there manners because they were raised in a tough family. people might of went or are going through a tough life and they think that every one is there enemy so causeing them to be rude so they stay away. Another reason is that people just forget and they are just rude for example people burping chewing with there mouth open at a dinner table. when i went out once these (i am 16) 17 year olds came up to me and started to ignor me and exclude me and push me away. I just had to deal with it because every one in the world isnt nice.
• Mexico
29 Dec 09
Hi Full tank: I think that people that are usually rude with us do this because of their lack of self esteem. I think that it's like this because these persons usually feel that the others are better than them so they need to be offensive to make them feel that they're not important. They feel the need to make people know that they have a kind of power or something like that. I don't like this attitude at all but I try to understand why do they do this. Thanks for asking me this question. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 09
It's a shame that some people are so rood in this world but I guess they can be looked upon as having something missing from their own lives! I guess upbringing plays a big part as well. Maybe they have never been taught how to respect a fellow human being! I think the low self-esteem issue could play a very big part in this. They have very little respect for themselves so this is communicated towards others and they feel comfortable about making life difficult for others. I wouldn't dream of being rude towards someone if they are going about their daily life and have not offended me in any way. I guess in this world there will always be people that are rude, people that are downright horrible and people that are very nice! I think and hope that I fall into the final category! Andrew
@artistry (4153)
• United States
29 Dec 09
....Hi Fulltank, It's hard to know why people are rude to others, there are a lot of different reasons I am sure. I happen to think that rude people are somehow unhappy with who they are, and then they turn that unhappiness into rudeness toward people, who have nothing at all to do with their personal dissatisfaction with themselves. I also feel that until they resolve their internal self-hatred, and as you say lack of self-esteem, they will continue to be rude to others. Just a thought. Take care.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
I think they have a problem in their life that's why they pour it on other people... Those people lack attention and lack the love they needed in life. They get mad at the world because of what they experience that's why their response to other people is rude. Anyway, don't get affected by their attitude, show them the opposite instead, so that they would feel the love that they don't deserve and maybe you can touch their life in a simple way that they can change it in the end.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
hmmm...maybe its just something natural to them? that they are not even aware that they already appear to be rude to other people... maybe people like this needs some wake up calls...needs someone to tell them that they are acting that way and that it will not do any good to them... and hopefully they will change for the better... well it can also be something that they use as defense mechanism...i don't know, but whatever their reasons are, i think this is not healthy and it will be bad for them coz they will find it difficult to have friends and if there's any., most probably their friends will also leave them...
@chriszh22 (433)
• China
29 Dec 09
I think it's not hard to treat a stranger nicely. It's hard to treat your family, your lover, your children nicely, always get much earier to be rude with your closest people. Why? maybe they're our closest people so we don't need to hide ourselves, but which will hurt them a lot for sure. Your closest will forgive you after your apology as they love you and you love them.
@bhav27 (442)
• India
29 Dec 09
i think they have low self esteem and i think this kind of behavior is just shown by those people who are at the top or who have the power to do harm us either physically or mentally and they know that they can speak in any language with us and then they also know that we will never say anything to them as they got the power , take an example of my friends , she works in a hotel and her manager is always rude to her to show that she is the boss and always rude to her , so i think the power people mainly behave like this as they have lost their mind in power.
@srganesh (6345)
• India
29 Dec 09
Some people are like that.They just bark at everybody and are ready for a fight any time.Manners or having a low self esteem cannot be a problem,I think.But the environment they live in and the way they were brought up can be the reason.They might have lost something when they tried to be kind earlier or they could be taught like that.So,don't expect kindness from strangers or just ignore their rudeness.
• India
29 Dec 09
Hello Fulltank Just wanna say that Rude people are not Born Rudely!....!! The Situation makes them "Rude". ...""...!! ..... The Factors Affecting them might be they are protecting themselves from others by making a fair bit of Distance through a Rude Nature. .... .....!! Secondly They Just Finds other people's weaknesses like weak in personality,speaking,etc. in comparision with themselves so they always makes a Rude Statement with Them. You might have noticed they Talks very well with Respect to Those people who are standard living people so you can get a Best Idea from it! .... ...... To Maintain a Good Free Surrounding you must forfeit those Factors and live a simple but a Happy Life.....!!
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
There are many contributing factors why a person goes rude to others. There is a psychological explanation for that, but to give you some sources of being such are most common caused by his environment, family, anxiety disorder and his views in life. Some people are rude for they think in that manner they can be recognized and be different. Some people are rude because of his family background that is tend to be normal for them and not for others they mingling with. Some people are rude because they have a psychological, anxiety or depression disorder. This is their form of attachment and releasing their inner feelings and expressions to others , able them to release the said set-back in life. Some people are rude because they just wanna be like that in perception. His views and way of life. All of these are some reasons. We can say they might be loosing self-esteem but not all. Either any of them we do not know for causing such unless we have a knowledge of the person character and views.
@jaiho2009 (38989)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
hello again, I knew someone who cannot talk without rudeness. At first,i just ignore her,but lately,i found that she's really rude(the way she speaks). So,i approached her,i ask what's the matter with her,if she can talk with some manners,coz,it's not good to hear her always hissing(sort of). But,she still can't change the way she talks,until one day,i've heared she had a word fight with someone. That give her the dose of her own medicine. Sometimes people lack of self discipline and manner put themselves into trouble. These people are in-secured,and hide their insecurity by rudeness. Happy Holiday
• United States
29 Dec 09
One thing I learned and I believe is true whether people believe it or not is when someone is mean or rude to another person for no apparent reason, they are hiding something about themselves they are insecure about which could be low self esteem. Even they if there was a reason, if they are rude and mean about it instead of handling it maturely, they are usually hiding something and using that reason to fuel it. I was in that situation before. When I was little I used to be friends with someone. But as we grew older we separated into different circle of friends. He became more mean and started being mean and rude to me when I did absolutely nothing to him. Maybe I did something that he thought was stupid and he used it as fuel to his madness. But I did nothing to him whatsoever. That is just one of my many situations that I encountered but I don't want to spill my whole life story on MyLot. Haha Nobody is born with rudeness. haha But the persons rudeness can possibly come from also not being raised up with manners.