Should my mother talk to her again?

That's pretty nasty don't you think? Are they splitting the rent? Can your Mom move to a one bedroom apartment by herself and afford it? Your sister sounds pretty bullying if she acts like this around your Mom, especially if your Mom is walking on eggshells. Almost sounds like she's afraid of her. I couldn't deal with it if that's the case but I'm not the type to put up with crap like that, nor would my daughters ever treat me that way.

First of all, I am not against someone smoking w*ed from time to time, and have done so myself. However, I live with family who are far more conservative than me on the subject, as well as children, who don't need to be associated with it at all. If and/or when I have smoked, I have done it at a friends house. I would never bring the stuff even into my home in the first place. You weren't clear if your sister lives with your mother, but going on the assumption she does, she should respect your mothers wishes, and not bring her bad habits around her. Your mother needs to put her foot down on the matter, and make it clear that if it doesn't stop she will be asked to leave. She needs to made to realize she is jeopardizing her and her mothers home, and if she has any respect for that she will stop, and if not she can leave. I am also not sure about the financial situation, but going on the assumption she provides the main support of the household there is no reason why she should put up with being disrespected by your sister, for any reason what so ever.

well then, ya know what, your mom should get on the phone and turn that nasty little bit(h into the police, who the heck is she to put your mother in jeopardy and what are you doing about it, she's your mother too, turn her in....

Wow, that's tough for your mom! I understand what you mean about her walking on egg shells around her because I have a sister who has some different issues, but is treated that way by my parents. I think your mom does need to say something to her or maybe actually kick her out. I know that would be really hard for her to do though. That's definitely a tough situation because like you said, it's really your mom who has to step in and stop what's going on. It sounds like if she doesn't, she won't have a place to live. It's so frustrating when an adult like your sister can't get her act together. My sister is 28 years old and is constantly quitting her jobs, drinking all the time, and then coming to my parents to ask for money. They never tell her no because they get concerned that she can't provide for herself. I think they need to stop giving her money, because then maybe she'll get the picture that she needs to find a job and keep it!

I guess your mom has somewhat done her part. Your sister has to want the change and it will be more difficult for her if she feels that she is dictated of what to do and is being controlled. I know your mother would want to do all she can but it might make their relationship with each other worse. I think it would be better if someone else would do it so she would feel that people around her care so much about her. Dont make her feel that you hate her so she should stop the act rather make her feel that people around her are always there for her and are all willing to help. Some of them have actually lost hope so they feel like it's useless to return to clean living since they have ruined all the relationships around them. That is why it is always better to make them feel loved and cared for so they would realize that despite what they have done, they still can go back to their own selves. They can always changed and that people around them are still there willing to accept them back to their lives.

Hi, Ask you mother to kick her out of the house if she smokes on the grounds that smoking is banned in the building.Else secretly ask building authorities to warn you mom's daughter not to smoke as it will harm others health.You mother is unnecessarily suffering because of her right. Thanks Sailaja

I hope tossing her out is the worst of it. A lot of people do not hesitate to call the cops on their neighbors anymore. If the apartment is in your mom's name (I get the feeling that it is), she could be popped for a number of charges such as maintaining a common nuisance at the very least. I'm sure that once she tested negative for THC that any possession charges would probably be dropped unless your sister were to straight up admit it to keep your mom from being arrested from jump. This is worst case scenario of course, but it's best to prepare for the worst and definitely to prevent it when possible. Is your mother aware that she could be the one in legal trouble as well as out on the street? I feel bad for her. I know what it is like to be torn between not ticking off your grown kid and not wanting to tolerate their crap (legal or not) anymore. That is a tough situation. Wish her good luck for me.

i have a relative doing this right now to his mother-but it's not my house,so i can't kick him out. i don't have a problem with people who 420,but i have a problem with people who do it where it'll cause other people to get evicted. if i were your mom,i'd tell her to cut the 'tude or leave.

Wow I sympathise with your mother but maybe she need to put her foot down and lay down the rules.She may need to get external help from a pastor or the police or someone who she respects .It is not fair though for your mother to be suffering like this in her own house.Your sister needs to be mindfull of her mom and behave herself and worse of all she is 31 ,she is not a young child ,why doesnt she move out if she needs to smoke her weed

really sorry to hear that and i have no idea about this case also.but i do not know why your sister do not care about your mother and keep on smoking .even let your mother move to the small apartment that's not so kindness to her own mother actually.you'd better talking to her .

I think that your mother should most definitely say something to your sister again. I understand that your sister is an adult and is old enough to make her own decisions. However, also think that if your sister is under your mother's roof, then she should respect your mother's rules as long as she is there. If your sister were my daughter, I don't think I would personally have any other option but to give her an ultimatum.

wow, that must be so hard for your mum :S