Why are people blind when it comes to love??

Canada
December 29, 2009 11:50am CST
A friend of mine is in a relationship, which is fine, the problem is, her boyfriend is much older than her with kids, that is not the problem, the thing is, there are rumors of him doing illegal things, he has nothing to do with his kids, the mother's wont let him near them, i wont mention the illegal act that he is being accused of, but my other friend and i dont know if she knows about this or not. This act is a serious issue, and we dont know if we should tell her or not, even if she knows about it, she wont do anything about it, she'll stay with him and deny anything that is being said about him. We know she should know, but is there any point in ruining our friendship with her if she wont do anything about it anyway?
1 person likes this
8 responses
@MJAL08 (275)
30 Dec 09
Well...when people are inlove emotions tend to replace the rational side of that person. They will do anything to satisfy their heart's content and after doing the deed that's when the heart is completely satieted and the thinking part comes. Yes, people lose control when it comes to love and their heart because for all i know and have experienced, its like a rush. When you need to do something for the person you love well, we do it because "it's what my heart is telling me to do". Love is such a powerful thing that make the rational irrational but it doesn't mean we stop thinking of what will happen to the people around us. Take a step back and look before you leap.
1 person likes this
@lil_32072 (114)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
Blind, dumb, dull and etc, are just common character of people in love. Which me too dumb idiot imprisoned for almost half of my life. I cant narrate here what was really the story was but its true its matter of decision and facing the life's fact. After, i gave in my want, my feelings for the sake of many, i cant imagine how my life went well and many benefited the happiness. This time, we re both happy with different lives with most beautiful friendship bridges us. Its nice to be in love and its a gift from God and only God can tell its destiny.
1 person likes this
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
yes sometimes people are blind because of love, but it's their choice, If you are concern about your friend situation, but she seems doesn't care about her own life then you can not do anything about this, if she's in love with that kind of guy, well it's her choice, but its a good thing you warning her, at least she knew you're concerned.
1 person likes this
@Sketch1 (33)
• Australia
30 Dec 09
Some people believe they can't do any better. They will be in denial not because they are in love, but because (I know this sounds horrible) they are desperate. Often they have no reason to be though and need to be convinced they can do better and if this relationship ends it isn't the end of their world, there will be other chances.
1 person likes this
• United States
30 Dec 09
I see my daughter in the same situation. She is so blind to her boyfriend. He treats her poorly and lies constantly. I ask her how she could think it would be good to be in a relationship with someone that treats her like this? She says he hasnt done nothing to me. I dont understand how she could be so blind. I thought i raised her better than that. And yes i totally agree with one of the other responses you have to love yourself first to be strong enough to be in a healthy relationship.
@esjosh (915)
• India
30 Dec 09
Becoming blind in love is true, it shows the true passion of some one. It's not about the lusty love only, that love - passion can be for any relation, whether it can be of with Girl, Job, Profession, Pet, Mother, Father, Sister- Brother, Bike, Car, Phone, Home, Music (or any other ART), Driving, Traveling, eating, cooking, anything.......................... If some one don't become blindness towards the love, it can't be called the LOVE.
@cecila (11)
• India
30 Dec 09
How much your statement is true! sometimes rumors brought a lots of conflict among each other. might be she understands the serious issue. why do not you tell it in different way very frankly? sometimes lack of communication brought a lot of problems.
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
That's why it is worded as such: falling in love, the operative word is falling, you are helpless. You can shout, scream, say a prayer, fart, wave your hands, flap your hands, make faces, and anything you want to do, still you are falling. You can't do anything about that.