When someone you have trust for stabbs you in the back.

United States
December 29, 2009 8:20pm CST
Okay so here's the thing. My cousin did something that really hurt me, eventhough it doesn't sound like something that really would hurt someone. She comes over and wants to meet up with this guy that she met on the internet, not the best idea but he lived around here so I thought we could all meet up in a public place. So what does she do? She gives him my address and he comes here to meet her for the first time. Of course I was mad at her for doing something like that but he seemed to be a fairly nice guy so I let it go. He brought his friend over as well, so that we all could talk, at this point I already know that she just wanted him to bring a friend so they could try to hook me up with him while they went off and did whatever they wanted to do. We all hang out for a bit, getting to know eachother well, then they leave. Before they even got the chance to come over and hang out, I make the biggest mistake I could ever have made in my life, I out my neck on the line for her. I lied to my parents, lost years of trust I had built up with them, and even almost got myself in deep trouble. But, for my cousin she decides that wasn't enough for her. She knew what I was doing for her and she knew she could get more out of me so she invites him over the next day. Now at this point I'm so ticked off I can't even look at her or him for that matter. This time, he came alone, no friend. I had told her before hand to tell him to bring his friend back over so I had someone to talk to while they hooked up. Well, she never told him that and he came alone, with the intentions that I was just going to walk away and let them do whatever they wanted. My cousin told me that she wouldn't let that happen, that she wasn't going to ditch me for him... Well, she did. They went around the side of the house and started to make out. I tried to talk them out of doing anything and they ignored me. So I walked back into the house, leaving them out there so ticked off I couldn't even think. My parents wanted to know where she was and I told them. They told me to go get her and tell him that he had to leave now or else they would go out there and break it up themselves. So I went out there and told him that he had to leave and told her to get inside at that moment. I stand by the door and they keep kissing, taking their sweet time. When he finally leaves, she thinks that everything will be just fine between us, but I just ignore her like she ignored me. Oh, and did I mention ther I'm younger than she is??? She's 18 and I'm 17 and here I am acting like the older one. I still am upset with her, and she now has lost all of my trust. I broke down and told my parents the whole story, now they've forgiven me and everything's alright with them. I just don't know if I should forgive her for almost runing everything I have.
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• United States
30 Dec 09
Well I can tell you from experience( I am a older person ) my sister had a situation similar to that with our cousin. It was different because there was no internet and what happend was everytime my sister got a boyfriend, my cousin tried to steal him away. She did this three times. Until this day my sister won't have anything to do with my cousin although before those situations they were very close. I think it is so dum she won't even call her. My cousin asks about he all the time and my sister does not care. You can be angry. You should be angry, but don't let it last too long. When you get older you will find it seems kind of silly. You are young but life is too short to stay mad at her for a very long time. I would not forgive her right away though. You are both very young. I can't believe my sister still won't talk to my cousin but it's true. Hope this helps.
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@mnflower (1299)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Wow you are a good person and it was wrong for her to do that to you...Meeting a person on line is alright as long as you meet in a public place, it was wrong to have sent him to your house, you never know what could have happened. Being mad at her is not going to make the mistake any better just let her know that that will never happen again..And you being honest to your parents and apolgized for lieing they will forgive you and it will be fine, just remember to not let her scam you into doing anything like that again. things will be fine, but I would for sure let her know that she hurt you.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Dec 09
hi I do not blame you for being angry with her as she used you and manipulate you, and got you in trouble for awhile with your own parents. she must be a user, she uses people and pushes them around expecting them to do just what she wants. I have been there and done that myself many years ago.So no I would really turn my back on her and let herself find another patsy to bully and push around. You did not deserve any of that so I would dump her as a friend.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
30 Dec 09
Hi, In this case,Prevention is better than cure. You are indeed a good girl.I am sure your parents are proud of you as they have raised you with good values.My personal opinion about all this that when you are a teenager there is a lot of peer pressure.We tend to do a lot of things which are not right just because we dont want our peers to make fun of us. I think your parents may be your mother should talk to your cousin on your behalf.Because my doing this she is not putting you but her life also in risk.Her parents should be made aware about what their daughter is upto.As for you,don't worry be normal with her and don't take her seriously if she tries to outsmart you. Hope that helps!!!
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31 Dec 09
it may bring you two in trouble to take an almost stranger to your home, but i don't think it's a big deal to have their sweet time and ignore you. You can do other things, you can make fun without them. just ignore them too.