Permission for cheating

@advokatku (4036)
Indonesia
December 30, 2009 10:22pm CST
recently I read the news that Actress Angelina Jolie reportedly asked Brad Pitt to live without the status of relationship. Jolie also requested permission to Pitt for cheating. That's Jolie Desire clearly rejected by Pitt. He even got angry at Jolie who had given him three biological children. Pitt was even more upset because Jolie not only want interested with male others even interested also with women. What is interesting about this story do you think? I think which became interesting thing is, ask permission to the couple for cheating. Could it be? The worst crimes in marriage is cheating, but how if cheating was conducted with permission from your couple?
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14 responses
• United States
31 Dec 09
I don't see why anyone would allow someone else to cheat on them in any sort of a relationship - let it be marriage or just dating. I don't see how anyone would even think that they should even ask. It just isn't right and it isn't because you aren't suppose it, its that you're giving yourself to someone for what reason? Where did you read this though because I would love to see the actual article for it.
@robertx (150)
• Romania
31 Dec 09
I can think of a few reasons. Some religions allow it, others don't. Same can be said about certain cultures, or even about certain people taken as individuals, and that can go regardless their beliefs and upbring. Like there have been cases where, even so religion or just society, allows for more relationships at same time, the individuals choosed not to take "advantage" of it. Also some are open to experiment, and "threesome" ain't as uncommon at all these days, u know like either 2 girls + 1 guy, or 2 guys + 1 girl. I know it sounds outrageous to some, but these things do happen, and not just in movies.
@robertx (150)
• Romania
31 Dec 09
I just want to add sometimes life beats movies, and things go for the worse... Just look at most news, there is more horror in news these days, then it can be in many movies at times.
• United States
31 Dec 09
I completely understand that these things do happen but I think people have to be out of their mind to follow them. And the thing with threesomes I don't see that as cheating in a sense because both parties are involved with the same person. I think that it can cause a lot of drama in the relationship especially if the person they bring in is a friend.
@danitykane (3191)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
hi advokatku, OMG! does Angelina really said that?! hmmm... I wonder if that news is true or just another gossip.. anyway, I do think that it's not right and it is so disgusting for anyone or for a partner to ask permission for "cheating". It's crazy and unhealthy for every relationship. It really sounds weird thinking the person you love likes to play around and so awful for that person to ask for it and the guts to let you know all about it is freaking crazy.
@robertx (150)
• Romania
31 Dec 09
I think is obvious the cheating could take place regardless if you are asked or not. So I'd ask myself if I'd rather be notified about the intent or if I'm better off never to be aware of it. Some people just love to experiment, without breaking a long term relationship. And its not old news, there have been couples wich switch partners, just for the fun of it. Even kids get to switch their mothers, as seen in ceratin tv shows. Really weired world we live in :).
• United States
31 Dec 09
i think it is ridiculous than one should never get married in the first place and say their vows between each other. if you want to cheat or seek for permission i feel than just stick to dating and having a relationship. i think it is sad that marriage is no longer seen as sacred. if the story is true i am not surprised and would expect from her. after cheating with brad when he was jenniffer i new soon the same would happen again where this time Joline would cheat on brad. he betternot accept.
@advokatku (4036)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 09
as far as I know, brad Pitt and Jolie not yet married, both are only new limited live together under one roof (cohabitation) ... so, in my opinion, is fine if jolie wanted an affair and what is done is correct, requested permission for an affair
@Craicha (801)
1 Jan 10
at least A. Jolie is being honest to ask permission to B. Pitt....of course nobody likes to be cheated ..... then bcoz of their lifestyle as famous celebrities..its good that Jolie tell Pitt rather than Pitt knows it from the reporters will that Pitt will not just upset but mad the most...
@maezee (37675)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I don't really believe this story. The key word is "reportedly" - from "close sources", I'm sure, from a tabloid magazine. You can't always believe everything you read, especially when it's in the tabloids. They'll do anything to get your attention. My opinion is that..Well, I never really understood those "non-exclusive relationships". I always thought that the POINT of being in a relationship was so that it's an exclusive one, but that's just my opinion. If it works for both people involved (which, if this story is true, it clearly did NOT) then it's fine. So long as no one gets hurt in the process.
@thea09 (18319)
• Greece
31 Dec 09
Hello advokatku, have you had a change of heart suddenly if you're suddenly condemning cheating, the last time I came across one of your discssions you were giving advice to married men on how to go about it. Then there were those incidents of cheating yourself even though you are married. So you presumably just think its odd that permission is involved.
• Malaysia
31 Dec 09
I really hate people who are cheating their partners. If they are not happy with their relationship, please don't go behind their partners and pretend that they are still in love. It's so unfair and painful when breaking up just because of such stupid mistake or willingness to cheat. I never heard of anyone asking permission to cheat unless they have an open marriage and mutual agreement about their status of relationship, which is rare especially when they are public images and they claimed that they are so much in love with each other. I think if this story is true as reported, what AJ was requesting from BP was just so unbelievable.
• United States
31 Dec 09
I don't agree with her tactics, I think its disrespectful and degrading. if she has a relationship with Pitt and family why would she want someone else I think its her celebrity status that makes her fill she is above and can ask for such a thing, Im surprised its coming from her and not from Pitt... wow out of controll...
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
If the story were true I feel disgusted with her. If she wanted other man/woman, end the relationship with Brad and start a new one (this applies not only with Angelina Jolie but also with other women and men who thinks this way). Some people acts like animals do, they change partners whenever their body needs it. I feel sorry for Brad, maybe this is karma to what he did to J. Aniston.
@solared (1210)
• United States
31 Dec 09
They aren't married and they are both liberal atheists what do people expect.
@angie497 (22)
• United States
31 Dec 09
An open relationship is certainly not what I would choose, but that's entirely up to the people involved in the relationship, and it's certainly got to be the willing choice of both people involved. I know people that have that sort of marriage/relationship, and it works for them, so if it works for them, who am I to judge? I would say, though, that if both people in the relationship agree to the arrangement, then I wouldn't call it cheating - the term cheating implies that one person is doing something that the other person doesn't know about or doesn't approve of.
@px_yeap (269)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 09
probably angelina wanted a marriage so she trying to force pitt into the situation to commit himself to her!
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
31 Dec 09
Well, they do say cheaters never change, and Jolie is showing this. She was the cause of the break up of his marriage to Jennifer Aniston, and now she's reverting to type, because if she's asking for 'permission to cheat,' presumably she has another attached man in her sights. It all sounds very cold blooded and premeditated to me, but then I'm an old fashioned girl.
• United States
31 Dec 09
Who would willing give their partner permission to cheat on them? Unless you have an open marriage or an open relationship, but that is a whole different situation. If you are totally committed to one person, and you two truly love each other, and want no one else, then why would you give your partner permission to cheat? To me, cheating and lying are two of the worst crimes in a marriage. I say this because I have seen it all happen before, especially in my own family. If you are no longer in love with the person that you are with, or if you are having relationship troubles, then you need to seriously let your partner know this because you are doing them more harm than good by not saying anything. Ladies, and gentlemen as well if you are in this situation, if you are being abused by your spouse, you know the drill, get away from them and file for a divorce. Even though there are cheaters, and people cheat, and there are reasons why people cheat, there really is no need to cheat. If you marriage is that bad, and you are not happy with your partner, then just end it with them if you are really that miserable with the person that you have committed your life to.