To all mothers/ladies (men are welcome) -- Are u always excited of having baby?
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
Philippines
December 31, 2009 11:31pm CST
To all expectant mothers, single ladies and husbands/men, too.
Are you always excited of the coming of your baby? Do you welcome having a baby despite this having to mean that his coming would limit your social life and would entail an additional fixed budget on the family?
Not all expectant mothers are married so I am just curious if single ladies, too are excited and welcome having a baby with the accompanying "change" in life's usual activities. Please share your thoughts. Thanks.
12 responses
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Jan 10
Hiya MMT,
Will catch up with you later. I think that if you have the help of your Family it´s the most wonderful and best thing you can have. If not you have to make the best of what you have got.
Since every Womans life is different and their attitude is different most will welcome their Child others I don´t know they celebrate here the birth of Babies born on the stroke of Midnight and make a special thing of it completely exagerated. What about all the other Babies born all year round?
Babies are very special and a birth is very special to each one of us girls. Hey Happy New Year in 2010 MMT to you and all your Family may it be the best ever.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Jan 10
Hiya MMT,
I´m also a step ahead of myself as well in a few things if I´m not careful I find myself writing things for the wrong person. No I have´nt had a Drink of anything now the tiredness is wearing off so go, go, go.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Hi LAI,
Babies are always exciting to parents and relatives. Yes, I just watched news here and they are really giving a special report for babies born at the strike of midnight. The hospital was even happier because they say that the last baby who was born at that hospital was 30 years ago. Of course, the mother was very happy, too.
Every mother is surely happy being able to bear children.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Happy New Year to you and the rest of the family! (it slipped ... hitting the "submit" button ahead of my thought, haha)
@workinggene (104)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
It's very fulfilling having a baby and taking care of it. But it does affect my social life. I had my baby girl this year and it already took a toll on my social and romantic life. No more romantic dates with the husband and no more hanging out with friends. It's nice being a mom but it would be great to have some time to chill out and relax without a baby crying in the background. Now that I have a kid and already have my hands full, I can't imagine handling another one any time soon.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Hi Workinggene,
I know the feeling. Once you give birth, the responsibility of taking care of the baby starts. Even if we have maids in the house, we cannot just rely everything to them. I know about the feeling of having our social and romantic life limited, lol. Don't worry, once the baby grows older, it will be another experience and you will find time to catch up with social life. Thanks for sharing!
@workinggene (104)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Glad to know that! I really thought it will be always be like this. I know some moms can handle it, but I've always been an outgoing person and I don't think I can change that just because I'm a mom and have responsibilities. I'll have to find a way to make it work and yet be responsible to my growing kid.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
Hi again. Oh, we know we can always find time for everything. It is only a matter of time management. We know how we allocate time for each activity and once you're used to it, it will be very easy for you. It is like adjusting to your new schedule with the arrival of the baby. Of course, we know the sleeping pattern and all activities of the baby. Once you are free, you can do other things to keep up with your life, lol.
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I hadn't been married when I had my daughter, but we were defiantly excited. We just got married over the summer, and our daughter just celebrated her second birthday. As of right now we are hoping to have another child soon. I think that children are such a wonderful gift. It is a very exciting time for both parents I think.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
Hi Tlb0822,
Of course, babies are always exciting especially for parents. The whole family is excited, too, especially the grandparents. We know the responsibility attached to having a child as it all rests on the parents. We know that most of our activities are focused more on child caring and rearing. But it is always a nice feeling having to enjoy them, kiss and hug them. They ease away our tiredness.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
me and my wife live in together for three years and now are married for seven years. we always wanted to have a baby since. but she got a lot of miscarriages before we hit the jackpot. our son will be turning four but my wife does not want to get pregnant anymore. its a traumatic exprience specially for her. i respect her decision but of course i still wanted another one a daugther perhaps.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
i am really indeed very lucky to have even just one, while a few friends we know are still trying even they are married for more than 10 years. i also hate guys who leaves their wife if the wife can not have children.... for of course it is not fair for i know those wife wanted to have children too.
as of now i can say that we are very satisfied with our son and everyday we thank God for giving him to us. about adopting that never gets in our mind yet, but that would be a gret idea. thanks for that.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Hi, again. Yes, you are right. There are couples who do not even have one child. Leaving the wife because of that does not solve the problem. It only breaks the hearts. I know of childless couples and wives who cannot bear children who adopted children. They are, in fact, happy as a family with the children they have adopted.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Hi Se7enthbird,
You are the first male to share your thoughts. Thanks.
Of course, couples want to have children. Children are the most important "ingredients" in a marriage. There are husbands who philander because their wives cannot bear children. Although I don't see much reason for this, especially if they both love each other, but still this happens.
You are lucky with having a son. I admire what you did when you respected the decision of your wife not to have another child. If it puts your wife into risk then you should refrain from having another child and lead your wife to safety and good health. You can always discuss adopting a baby girl with your wife, if you really want to have a daughter.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
2 Jan 10
i have this thought for having baby,but i find that i must saving lots of money for hving baby.when i saw other people's children,i thought that they looks lovely and fat and like angel,especially when they start to learn walking,they express bravy and want to be keen with their parents,i like this feeling and express the love between their parents and children.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Hi Bingchen,
It is wise for you to do that move. I know how much you need with a baby coming to the family. It really entails a lot of expenses from the time you are pregnant, nine months waiting and the birth. After birth, expenses will be unending, lol.
Children are angels. It is a different feeling with them in the house. They make you happy and make your day light. The erase tiredness away.
@malpoa (1213)
• India
2 Jan 10
I have loved babies ever since I can remember, especially babies who are below one year old, clean babies. It is bad to say, but I dislike babies with unclipped nails and running nose. I also dislike babies when they start talking and move around with the agenda to break all the things at home! however, it feels strange that I have not had the urge to have one for myself. I kowI cant get away with it because of too much pressure from relatives and people like that...it has been more than five years to my marriage and according to Indian levels, it is 'very late already'!!! Again I wonder why it is so strange to not have that feeling!!! It is again strange that I haven't told about this to anybody!!!!
May be that I am petrified about the ordeal of nine months or just afraid to take the responsibility...There will be a aworld of change, food habits, I will get very fat, have sleepless nghts...no more fun with friends...I see how young parents find it difficult to enjoy when we all gettogether...they are either feeding the baby or running after him/her. Last day we all went to a wedding reception and this 1 1/2 year old girl was merrily putting her finger into a electric socket!!!
@malpoa (1213)
• India
4 Jan 10
I know, here atleastin small towns and villages people start asking for good news right after your marriage. One of my friends had to conceive out of compulsion form her mother and know what she did? she gave the baby to her mother to look after! She said, my mother was literally not letting me have peace of mind...now let her take care of the baby.!!!
What I was saying is that I have a lot of prenotions...I do not want to have a second child, people gets partial. I have personally experienced this thing of my mohter being partial to my elder sister. Also, I do not rather, I am teachingmy mind not to expect anything from my child...It is very difficult to love without expectation...
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Hi Malpoa,
I know how it is with children. I respect your feelings and your decision not to have a child. Even if it is already 5 years, you can still have a child, if you wish to. You are still young.
Children are children. Parents go through these experiences of their children and they surely understand how they are.
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
1 Jan 10
It is a good thing having baby, however it is a lot of work. I woulld not like to have a baby when I am not married because it would be difficult unless I have a lot of support from my family. Having a baby is not easy but it is worth it when you watch them grow
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Hi Lindiebiz,
It is really a stressful and hard work to have a baby. This is especially so if you are a single mother and you alone raise the baby. The decision to have a baby should be deliberated extensively as this will be a thing that we cannot just "spit out" if we get tired or if we don't like anymore. Aside from single mothers being looked upon differently in our country, most of those unwanted pregnancies result in emotional pain, shame, financial difficulty, etc. which often results in the mother stopping from school or even work, to tend to the child (especially if no one else helps in raising the baby). Most of the times, a young single mother's future is somewhat "ruined" by the unwanted pregnancy with few exceptions though.
You are right in your choice to have a baby when you get married and have the full love, support and trust from the husband.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I wasn't yet married when my daughter was born, but the day that I found out that I was pregnant with her was one of the happiest days of my life. The other happiest days of my life are the day that she was born, the day that I found out that I was pregnant with my son and the day that my son was born.
So, yes I was always very excited about having my babies. When I was a little girl there were two things that I always wanted to do with my life. First of all I wanted to be a mother and secondly I wanted to be a doctor. Well, I never succeeded in my second goal, but achieveing my first goal two times over has made me one of the happiest women alive.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Hi Dorannmwin,
I share with you the feeling. It is a real nice feeling to feel a living creature inside the tummy. Like you, I was always excited to have a baby. When I was still single, I envy mothers carrying their babies and young as I really like babies. I used to baby sit my younger sister and I always have a soft heart for babies.
Being a mother is surely the most precious accomplishment in life. Thanks.
@chatelaine09 (433)
• Australia
1 Jan 10
I haven't even got a boyfriend yet but I think it would be exiting to be expecting a baby.But that bit about morning sickness and the pain when the baby comes sounds so scary.I'm looking forward to finding the right man to have a baby with,but am not really excited about the pain (man,I'm such a wuss)
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Hi Chatelaine,
I am smiling as I read your comments. I was like you when I was expecting my first baby. I had worries about the pain during delivery. Not so much with the morning sickness as I know it will only be for a few months (others don't even have it) and it is always bearable. What I did because I was a first-time mom, I bought a "baby care" book and read it thoroughly. It helped me a lot as I understood the "whys and hows" of labor, etc. The book was so helpful because it covered from conception until child care up to 12 years old. I lent the book to some of my friends and now I could no longer remember who last borrowed it... sad.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
yes, exited at the same time scared...
exited because I am about to see and hold my baby.
scared because I am thinking too much about the pain, there were so many questions on my mind before gaving birth. I have a three year old son and I can say that he completely changed my life. As of now I dont wish for another one yet..maybe later he he.
Ofcourse we should welcome the blessings...our child is the precious gift from God.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Hi Myramae,
It is really a mix of a lot of emotions. You have feelings of being happy, worried, excited, sad, anxious, scared, confident, etc. I guess it all depends on one's preparation for the nine months and eventually, the giving of birth. You gain learnings from reading books and most importantly, from the experiences of relatives and friends. You also get advice and "tutorials" from your own mother.
@sailajasayani (64)
• India
1 Jan 10
Hi
Having a baby is the most exciting thing that can happen in a women's life.It will add fun,frolic and a sense of increased responsibility in a women.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Hi Sailajasayani,
Of course, babies are the most exciting thing to happen to a woman. They say motherhood is the essence of a woman. It is not easy to care for a baby, attending to his needs daily from birth till he grows. It entails additional expenses for the family. But the family can always afford when it comes to their children. Parents can always find ways to provide for the needs of the children. Children are parents' joy.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
Hi Kehl,
Expecting a baby and eventually being a mother is the most precious thing for most women. We are just amazed of the natural capacity of women to carry life inside her tummy. It is indeed a big responsibility to do that. We are happy about it especially, as you said, you feel the movements of the baby inside. I hope that all children will look up to their mother with love and respect because of this great important thing that she contributes to life.
