honestly, Live In or Get married?

I feel living together before marriage is better option to know about a person with whom u wanna live for 40 years more. Real interaction is must for the perfect bond.Interaction after marriage is meaningless and turns the life into hell if you are not comfortable with the partner.

its getting married first before living together in the same room.. i stand for morality ;)

I think it is wise for an engaged to be married couple to live together before the wedding to see how compatible they are. So many marriages fail and end in divorce that it is wise to test the ground before standing up. I know a couple that have lived together for eighteen years. They have three children. They have never felt the need to get a marriage certificate. That sort of thing is called a common law relationship in my home country. I have heard it described as a de-facto relationship in Australia. The best way is living as room mates like each has a separate bedroom. Then the couple get married and move into their own house together. Then they may sleep in the same bed. They will by the time of the marriage know how compatible they are likely to be.

This is not easy, i have a daughter and of course as a mother I want her to get married before living in with a guy.... but in reality i guess it is much better to live in together first before jumping in to marriage. There are a lot of things that you need to know about your partner and a lot of things that you are going to realize about yourself when you live in already. you will know your partner better as you will know yourself better and what are your capabilities are.

I grew up in a conservative culture. But I dont say I'll just let my culture dictates me what to do. I prefer marriage, I grew up with the happy marriage of my parents so I would like to get married someday and not live-in. Getting married would not be easy thats why we have to reflect before making decisions that will affect the rest of our lives.

As a woman I prefer to get married first before living together not jst for moraity reason but once you love your partner you should offer her the best position in your life which is being the legal wife.

hi happynin I am an elderly woman but even if I was young again I would never just live together like the kids do now, its a revolving door with mates coming and going and four or five kids with four or five different fathers. it was never for me. I got married to the man I loved and stayed married through thick and thin, ups and downs and was happy as I loved and liked the man I married. living together is just too iffy, too chancy, too impermanent. too easy to pull up stakes the moment one little thing goes wrong.

I would personally have to say live with the person before getting married. I was 17 and pregnant. I moved out of my parents house and moved 3 1/2 hours away to live with my fiance. We had been together for 3 years at that point. We got married when I was 19. I think living with him for those 2 years before marrying him did a great deal for me. I believe if I had not moved in and just jumped into a marriage with him, I dont really think it would have lasted. There are alot of things that are still complicated but we both have differences and that is what makes our marriage fun. We will be married 4 years next month.

Don't studies show that those who live together before marriage usually don't stay together? Of course now a days so many don't stay together anyway. Where I live, if you cohabit with your partner for a certain number of years (I don't know the amount of time required), you have a common-law marriage. I personally think it's better to get married first before living together.

the reasons yell0wbell and dolly2686 have cited really have logic... but, it mostly depend on individuals' orientation and priorities... in a conservative society like ours, living together before marriage is hardly acceptable... being raised in such a society, i am also not different, though i think myself to be open minded... i accept people in other societies living together and i don't find anything wrong in it... but, i'm not in a position to accept the same in ours... frankly speaking, there's hardly any such case in here... very few vaguely known... generally speaking, people don't like it, but not reactive at all (like many other places)... what i wanted to mean is that our orientation is somewhat different that limits our imagination to put us in that situation... hope i could make myself clear...