How often do you get disappointed with your partner?

@kafueenu (1073)
Philippines
January 2, 2010 9:05am CST
Me? A lot of times, maybe more than I get amazed by him. He never fails in disapointing me. A week ago, he told me he would treat me to pedicure and footspa, but when we were there, actually after the treatment was done, he told me he would only treat me on the pedicure, not the footspa. Just now, he did it again. The other day, we were texting and he invited me to watch a movie. I told him I don't have any money, and then he said he would treat me. But when I called him today, and we will watch the movie tomorrow, he told me that the promised treat expired yesterday. I almost cried on the phone because of disapointment, I was really sad, and didn't know how to react. I just hang up, and politely said goodbye to him. I was trying to cheer myself up, but I just feel so sad. Our date was cancelled because he didn't want to waste money on me, and that really hurt for a girlfriend.
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21 responses
@j0anne13 (88)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
too often..to the point that i became tired of minding it......
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
I thought I came to that point already, but when it really hurts, you cna't help minding it. And when he blames you for his actions, that is really bothersome. And you are still with your guy?
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
yes...i'm still with him...
@syabu78 (29)
• China
3 Jan 10
How often do I get disappointed with my girlfriend ? It's totally depend on her . Because almost every misunderstanding is worked by her . Sometimes really I don't know what the issue is make her so angry . however , I apologizeed for what I had done is wrong in her eyes . What I just want is that in future she can know her wrong byu herself ,she can understand how much i love her .
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
That is how I think about my boyfriend, he often gets mad about the smallest things, and sometimes I really don't know why he is mad at me. And when I get disappointed with him, he turns it back to me, again its my fault.
@owlwings (41460)
• Cambridge, England
2 Jan 10
He sounds like a loser, Kafueenu. Why do you stay with him?
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
I really don't know, I have thought of breaking up with him a couple of times, but I don't know how to, because he is my first boyfriend. I have set my mind that he would be my forever. Maybe someday when I reach my limit, and have enough courage to break up with him, I will, if really pushes me to do it. But I still love, he just really hurts me a lot.
• Canada
2 Jan 10
I don't get to disappointed with my boyfriend, the most i do is when i feel like there is something bothering him and he wont talk, or even share his feeling with me. I'm not the type that needs to be told all the time how someone feels about me, but it is nice to know the person you'r with cares, and sometimes with him, it's hard to tell, thats the only thing that disappoints me with him. In previous relationships i had i was always being disappointed. Such as my recent ex, on my birthday he didn't call to wish me a happy one, he didn't get in town till late, was with me for like a half hour then took off to get a loan of money to take me out, gave me a spending limit on what i could order, and i got so pissed off, i paid for my own birthday dinner, then when we got home he tried defending himself by sayin what he did was right, and i had no right to get mad, so the rest of my birthday was arguing with him. that relationship was full of disappointments.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Your ex-boyfriend sounds like my present. But I still hope he changes.
@honey023 (57)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
He he he ... I don't get disappointed with her, but she always get disappointed with me. Even if I do not do some thing. Maybe, it's just the way she loves me.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Because you don't demand anything of her, I am usually contented of him, but when he makes promises, they had to be fulfilled, because they were promises. I expected something to happen from those words.
@Fulltank (2894)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
The only time my wife disappointed me the most is when she bring her work to home on weekends. I knew she is with me too as there are times in the past that I bring my work to home. But thats too long ago and we have learned that work should be done on the office and not at home. Now, disappointments are very rare and it only come to some petty small things. Arguments is actually a healthy manifestation of a good marriage. As long as both knew when to stop, admits one's mistakes, and when to say sorry after each fight.
• India
4 Jan 10
Ya my friend, its true. Sure it would've hurt you a lot. But I just ask you one thing my friend. Why do you take these issues too serious? Taking you to the footspa is it soo much needed. Can't you itself do that. Each guy expects to be with his beloved and spend time with her. But if you come out with him just to go to the pedicure and footspa, is it right my friend. I believe its your boyfriend who's actually more hurt. Take care of that my friend. Don't loose your guy. My beloved is never like you my friend. I make her hurt somethimes that I'm not able to spent more time with her but she don't call me ever to complete her jobs my friend.
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
Hi there... well like you I also get disappointed with my man especially if he broke his promises. I hate it and I really get disappointed maybe because I expect too much from him or maybe because he did not do what he says that irritated me so much. With this things happen, well... I became a fierce tiger to him... ahahahah... that he has no choice, but to do what I want him to do. Good thing, he do anything to please me when I get so angry...
• United States
3 Jan 10
That just seems rather rude of your boyfriend. Have you tried talking to him about how you feel? My boyfriend disappoints me every once in a while. We have had a rocky relationship a while back, that has been patched up. He only really annoys me when he lies. He has a history of it and it trying to change it, because he hardly lies anymore. It is still disappointing that he feels he has to lie to me sometimes. We are working on it though.
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
wow, he had the nerve, as if he's that "good looking" (no offense) Because i did checked the picture on your profile and i think he's way over his head, if he wanted to say or promised something he should mean it and not to simply just canceled it because he wanted too. to be honest, you're pretty and such guy like him should be lucky enough to have some one so sharing and loving as you are. he should have at least consult with you with regards to do in upcoming dates and he should make good plans and not just cancelled them. that last reason of his was very insenstive
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
sometimes i got disappointed with my wife, sometimes its the other way around. a simple communication on this matter will fix everything. apologize if needed or someone should tell who owes an apology. it never really became a big issue for us anyhow because after learning about it as a mistake, its being avoided to not to repeat the same issue. its all about understanding and not the selfishness. happy mylotting kafueenu
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
3 Jan 10
my partner has never disappointed me friend.he is too much caring and more affectionate person.he will never start a fight or will suddenly get angry over me.rarely only he will get angry over me.its me who will fight,will get angry and will disappoint him :) have a nice day :)
• China
3 Jan 10
just get over him. he didn't deserve be your BF, if i were you, i would ask him what induce him to be so rude to me. is it funny or you didn't love me. just forget him, although there might be a sadness period of transition. being persist to him like ice.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
3 Jan 10
i dont met this thing in my life,so what man done really make you disappointed,but i think that if he care about your mind and dont do like that,so dont be sad for this man,i believe that you can find better man than before and forget him.
@bhav27 (442)
• India
3 Jan 10
well i think this is the part of life , no one is perfect in their life so mistakes happen usually so many times we face disaappointment from our partners because what we expected from them and what from them , they are unable to fulfill the requirement and yeah sometimes we doubt on them unessary and this doubt is also responsible for some disappointment , you will say how , like girls are so insecure regarding their boys so they doubt on them and when they get irritated then shout on us and then we get disaapointed.
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
I really feel bad knowing the fact that your boyfriend did put some limits on spending things for you thereby limits your moments of bonding and happiness. Maybe he has a good reason for that, and if not,then better make an honest opinion that will tend to let him know. How are you feeling about those actions of him.. for me, I would understand my boyfriend if it happens only for a valid reason. Or if it happened, at least he make most of his time to replace the times we have lost or missed because of financial set backs. I think that there are other things he can do to prove to you , how are you important to him. But, being aware of your feelings about those matter is the reward he can give to you and at least compensate what was the lost time between you.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
3 Jan 10
We both seem to be sailing in the same boat. I too am quite disappointed with my partner a thousand times a day. That is the truth. An ugly truth with which I am living. In fact, these type of thoughts come to my mind only when I am frustrated with her. The fact is that I am quite a different type of a guy when it comes to doing some things in the households or in my work - professionally. And when things don't seem to be going my way, it is but natural for me to get disappointed. But that is only one part of our relationship. Because, there is a lot of difference in how we see at things and how we carry them out. But if that part of the behaviour is put aside, I suppose I have got the best girl that I could have asked for. She is more than caring for me; so much so that, sometimes I do not need that much attention, still it comes by. Now isn't that being fortunate enough? So, I am very much in love with her. And by the way, who is not at fault in one's life? Humans are bound to make mistakes. And so she is. But I make it a point to forgive her if the thing is of that negligible importance. Apart from some dismoods here and there, we both are immensly in love with each other and always give thousands of thanks to the lord for giving me such a wonderful wife.
@lilyrayne (107)
• United States
3 Jan 10
Have you tried talking to him about all this? That's what i would suggest you try. And then you'll have a better understanding of the tpye of person that he is. That may make up your decision about your relationship!
• Philippines
3 Jan 10
not that often but most of the time.. i always get so diappointed whenever he never gave me what i want.. hhaaa im so demandng and perfectionist.. but he still have the choice to stay with me or go.. but though i apologize sometimes with my shortcomings
@spalladino (17923)
• United States
2 Jan 10
Hi kafueenu. This guy sounds like either a control freak or someone who likes to play head games. Whichever one it is, it's not a good relationship. A good boyfriend does not intentionally hurt you so don't put up with this guy's games any more. You said below that you don't know how to break up with him. The best way is to be direct and to the point. Tell him that you don't like the way he treats you, that he disappoints you too much and too often and that you deserve better. Wish him luck in the future and tell him goodbye. Then, open your eyes because I'm sure there are plenty of other guys out there who will treat you so much better than this guy does.