Do you always tell the truth?

@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
January 2, 2010 7:44pm CST
Nothing good is ever created by deception and the sooner we learn this the better. Not even the smallest untruth, not even the most well-intended "white lie," will produce benefit in the long run. Many will try to create excuses, they will say ..."but then" or "what if" but the answer remains the same. Remember, if it's control you want, telling the truth always puts you in control. Think about it.
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@kashers (649)
• Jamaica
3 Jan 10
i do my best eachday to b and live truthfull,but i will lie if i c where it will become a positive,reaction
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi kashers, Thank you for commenting. Blessings.
@coldmoon (1088)
• France
3 Jan 10
I don't always tell the truth but I try my best to get rid of saying a lie, even it's a white lie. For me lies are lies, I don't distiguish them in black and white. Once you create a lie, you may have to create several lies later to cover just one truth. Of course life is always complicated and sometime we have no choice, but the truth will survive though it might very cruel, and it's always revealed finally.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi coldmoon, Thanks for responding. Blessings.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
4 Jan 10
I always try to tell the truth. If someone asks if their butt looks big in a certain pair of jeans, and it does, I tell them so. I have hurt some people's feelings at times but they ask for an honest answer and that is what they get.
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• United States
5 Jan 10
Mzz663: Thank you for helping me to know you better. I like your style. Thinking back on similar situations, I can tell you are more giving than I have been. Taking the easy way out is not always the most helpful or the most generous for the person asking the question. You have given me something to think about next time I try to tactfully dodge one of those sensitive questions.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Funny thing is, the hardest question for me to be honest about are babies....have you ever seen one that 'just isn't really cute?' I don't like being mean and I don't like hurting someone's feelings if their baby is on the homely side so I comment or compliment about something positive about the little one. There is always someone around that walks up to a mom or dad & a new baby and they will say how cute the baby is and if I'm asked 'isn't this baby cute?'....if I don't think so, I'll say the baby has pretty eyes or chubby little baby cheeks or ask how old? I never can actually tell someone that their baby is not cute because I figure in the parents eyes, that baby is beautiful no matter what. That is the hardest one I have a hard time dealing with....deciding what to say about baby.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi mzz, Thank you for commenting but I was thinking of something a little different. Sometimes it's better to avoid such situations, or in this case, to answer with another question such as "have you lost weight? Blessings.
@shobhan51 (376)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 10
The saying, 'Tell the truth and shame the devil,' is very apt here. Nothing good comes out of telling a lie even for a good cause. Ultimately when the truth leaks out the lie stares at the face. Then it becomes an embarrassment. Telling the truth always has its honourable position because it indicates the person's level of honesty and integrity. Thus a person with this quality, is always in control without him/her knowing it. Regards
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi shobhan, Thank you for commenting and for understading my meaning.Blessings.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Jan 10
As far as I am concerned, Sometimes I may tell the truth ,but sometimes I wil not tell people the truth. For when the situation will must tell people the truth which can be known by everyone , at that time , I will telll everon ethe truth, Most of the timeI may just tell a white lie. happy mylot.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi monkeylong, Thank you for commenting. Blessings.
@AdalieM (1134)
• United States
6 Jan 13
I dislike big time white lies. There's no such thing as little white lies. I am always forward, direct and confident every time I have to say something. There have been times when I told my mother not to wear outfits from the juniors' department I have told other people their food is bad, when they ask if it was good. I am think I am too honest and some people find it rude. However, I think I am acting good. Why lie when you can tell the truth. And yes, I expect other people to tell me I look ugly, when I do.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jan 13
Hi Adalie, Thank you for responding to this old discussion. Blessings.
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
3 Jan 10
Nothing good is ever created by deception and the sooner we learn this the better. Not even the smallest untruth, not even the most well-intended "white lie," will produce benefit in the long run. Many will try to create excuses, they will say ..."but then" or "what if" but the answer remains the same. Remember, if it's control you want, telling the truth always puts you in control. Think about it. + - ! Your blanket statement is one that provokes thought. You are right when you say nothing good is created by deception. Sir Walter Scott said it best - "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." At the same time, if your only purpose is to control then nothing good can be created by being "brutally frank." The ill will and hurt feelings are hardly worth the harsh words. What can be gained by telling a young bride that she is not the most beautiful bride ever? Where is the harm in telling your Mom her cooking is the best when she went to the trouble to prepare a special meal especially for you? How does it hurt children to constantly pump their self-esteem so they feel good about themselves and grow into young adults that are proud and self-assured. Sometimes people rise to our expectations. Are we lying when we express our expectations as if they were already real? If we lie about what we do, where we go, who we are; if we deliberately alter the facts to advance our own agenda, then I agree - there is no excuse. Your word is your most valuable asset. Once trust is gone, it is next to impossible to regain. There is always that nagging doubt.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi StarBright, Thank you for commenting and we do agree, that's exactly what I meant. I don't think there is ever a reason to be brutally frank and I would never want to hurt anyone. As you say Sir Walter Scott said it perfectly and it is in that context that I meant this discussion. There is usually a diplomatic way to handle a situation that would hurt someone's feelings. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
3 Jan 10
Yes, I know a particular person who always lies ,and nobody believes her anymore because she has created so many problems because in order to cover up her family she always lies. Sometimes is best to face reality ,and deal with the problem instead of lying to protect somebody.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi Mirita, Thanks for commenting and I believe we know the same person LOL! Blessings.
@tjburcham (690)
• United States
8 Jan 10
No, I am not a liar, or a story teller. Sometimes, people can't handle the trueth, so you have to wait for them to come around. I don't agree that it puts you in control. That's like always having to win an arguement. Sometimes it just creates a bigger lost cause problem. Peoples perception of the trueth also varies depending on how they view things. Or maybe depending on the situation, the trueth could be no ones business.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
Hi tjburcham, Thank you for that response. Blessings
• United States
4 Jan 10
I have lied in my life. I suppose most, if not all, have lied some time or another. But because I now know that liars are among the list that don't get to heaven, I try not to. God's Word teaches us to tell the truth in love, so I know that even hard to hear things can be told without lying if we tell the truth gently and with a loving spirit. Whether or not the recipient accepts the truth is another matter and is their problem.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi 6precious, Thank you for commenting. Blessings.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
3 Jan 10
i think that i always tell the truth,i only tell the truth to my close people,what i do only protect myself,i dont want to let people with malicious intent do bad thing to hurt my interest,at the same time i find that always telling the truth is good thing,because some thing could not let someone know because what i do only good for someone.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi bingchen, Thank you for your comment. Blessings.
@Savedeath (255)
• China
3 Jan 10
Hi pose.i don't very understand of what you've said.but,i don't always tell the truth.if it's necessary,i will lie.sometimes a small lie which won't make a difference do make things easy.and acturally,if i lie for that kind of excuses,then i won't fell any ashamed.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi savedeath, Thank you for your response. Lies get us into trouble, not out of them but there are times when we must be careful not to hurt anothers feelings. Blessings.
• Hungary
3 Jan 10
I try always tell the truth, but I think it's not possible everytime. Sometimes I thinking about, what is the truth???? It's difficult...
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi feggari, Thank you for commenting and I see you are a deep thinker. Blessings.
• India
3 Jan 10
its human nature that cant help someone speak false. it's like an act of self defence,like the functioning of the defence mechanism of the body which does not let the pathogens infect the body,the same way lies sometimes help the person protect his character,wealth,respect,life,love,etc.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
Hi wizardkhan, Thank you for commenting but I stand by my post. No good can come from deception. Blessings.
• India
3 Jan 10
I like to be honest as possible Pose. At the same time I find that honesty is not the best policy. I am not going to be elobarate, but sufficient to say, that if I had lied, my life would have been much more pleasant and comfortable.Since I wanted to be straight forward, I did not cheat, whereas people who had lied and cheated, are in a comfortable position. This makes me think, whether being honest is really appreciated in the modern world
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi rameshkumaar, Thank you for commenting but are you sure that things would have been better had you lied? I have also known others who thought that way for a time but later changed their mind. Blessings.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
3 Jan 10
I wish to tell the truth always but practically it is just not possible. I therefore can't speak truth sometimes as these lies can do good to me or others.I don't mind telling lies if they are going to do some good for me or others. If I had to choose between speaking truth and doing good to people I would choose the second one, Pose.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi vijayanths, Thank you for commenting and you make a good point. Sometimes it's best to say nothing at all. Blessings.
@snafushe (791)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
I try to be as honest as possible. One of resolutions for back in 2009 was to not lie about anything, and I have been holding it up. I have just dealt with too many liars before to be able to do it to other people now. Honesty builds good relationships anyways. Yet I will maybe tell a little white lie if it's saving me from hurting peoples feelings. Like telling your overweight friend their not fat, it's just something you have to do to not be considered a biotch. It's like that saying, would you rather the ugly truth or a pretty lie?
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi snafushe, Thank you for commenting and I know what you mean. Sometimes it's best to keep quiet or avoid certain conversations. Blessings.
• India
3 Jan 10
by saying truth we can be aperfect person but some times lies also saves us in danger
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi shanthvardhan, Thank you for commenting and we may be thinking a little different. Blessings.
@lahari (133)
• India
3 Jan 10
I wish I could tell the truth always but its not possible all the time. There are certain times when the situation,the ambiance,the person sitting across me dries up my throat and I just can't say the truth! truth can be really harsh sometimes and the environment,the mood so fluid that you think,"lets not spoil this moment,the reality can wait for sometime"!
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi lahari, Thank you for shsring your thoughts. Blessings.
• Saudi Arabia
3 Jan 10
well telling truth always put us in control but sometimes it becomes difficult because if you need to hide a particular fact from your beloved then you need to tell them so many things which are far away from truth.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
Hi masoodazeezi, Thank you for commenting but why would you want to hide something? Blessings.