additional maternal affairs

India
August 30, 2006 4:38am CST
dear i am a male. for the last 3 years i was very depressred due to the my married life. after that i found a female friend who helped tme to make the things clear and smooth. however in the process we are in love with each other...however i will not wish to leave my wife and 2 kids.. please hepl
8 responses
@crystalc (289)
• United States
4 Oct 06
If you really love this woman yous hould leave your wife. If you have tried to make the marrige work and it doesn't, then there is nothing more you can do. Staying with you current wife is not right your giving her a false sence of hope. As for your children just let them know that it is not thier fault and that you and your wife now will still be thier parents and love them no matter what. I think it is very important that you make the transion as easy for the kids as possible, but always tell them the truth.
@van123 (1288)
• India
5 Oct 06
i agree with u
• Philippines
5 Oct 06
you should choose between your wife and fimily or the other woman. you should find it in your heart who you care for most. you cannot have both your wife and kids and the other woman. it is unfair to them both if you do not give up the other. one of them has to be eliminated from your life. who ever will be eliminated will be able to survive without you. none of you will survive if you do not give one up. your 2 kids will suffer the most if you do not eliminate the other woman. just an opinion.
@bhchy1 (6050)
• United States
5 Oct 06
Invest that energy in to fixing things with your wife...romance her, make her feel special..
@CORDALE (868)
• United States
4 Oct 06
I really wish adults would consider the childrens feelings before they get into mess like this. I dont mean to sound harsh but when you were depressed you should have been hugging loving and spending time with your kids rather than finding a female friend. now the kids are going to be hurt when they find out.
@teddymeyn (607)
• India
16 Sep 06
man dont go for ur friend without ur wife, if u leave ur wife n children just think u r gone out of ur control then u can say tht ur lost from ur life
@chalmette69 (3008)
• United States
15 Sep 06
Well, you have to choose, you can't have it both ways,it is just not fair. It will really hurt your wife and children in the long run if you don't be up front with them. I mean your wife deserves to be happy with some one who is really in love with her and if you are in love with some one else than it is not fair for you to be doing this to either woman.
• South Africa
30 Aug 06
I think you meant "Extramarital affairs" The person above is right. It isn't fair to you, your lover, your wife or your kids to not make a decision. This is something you have done, you need to step up and take responsibility for your actions. Someone will get hurt. There is no way to avoid this. This is a consequence of your actions. You need to be a man and deal with this quickly, and decisivly.
• United States
30 Aug 06
You really can't keep both. You are going to have to end up hurting one of them. It is definately not fair to either of them for what you are doing to them. You have to choose which one means more to you and go with your heart