kids nowadays...

evil kid - how do you feel when you see this image?
@victorywp (3526)
Malaysia
January 5, 2010 3:39am CST
i was shocked when i saw this image. it shows a kid in uniform showing her middle finger to an elderly poor lady. this is crazy! who taught her that? what had happened to our society? tell me how do you feel about this?
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Pictures like that are the tip of the iceberg. Many children are growing up with lack of values and respect for anyone and anything. I blame it on the media...music, movies and video games that they are growing up with. That's my personal opinion. I suspect it will continue until these kids have children of their own and can see what it's like on the receiving end. Then, maybe the trend will bounce back to what we call normal. One can only hope.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Hi Dragon. I raised my son the same way, restricting what he saw on tv, limiting which video games he was able to get, and we spent plenty of time talking about stuff. I was fortunate though, because I had a great job which enabled me to work our of my home. Not all parents are so lucky. Yes, certainly part of the blame is on them. It frequently requires 2 paychecks to make ends meet. I'm sure that some women blow their money giving themselves an excuse to work, but more than anything I think that 2nd check is needed, no matter how frugally they are living. I place more blame on the media than you. I listen to the Rap and Heavy Metal songs that kids listen to, and the lyrics are terrible. For Christmas I wanted to buy my step-daughter a new game for hew PS2. When I looked at the selection our local store carried, I was shocked to see that 90% of it was extremely violent. I think todays children are desensitized to feelings and emotions (other than their own), as well as to inflicting pain and violence on others.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
6 Jan 10
hi catdla1 & dragon54u! both of you are right & have your points. medias have a lot of influence on kids nowadays, but parents also play an important role on restricting their children to watch only on certain movies.
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
sad to say but sometimes, tv shows or even the use internet has contributed a lot to some childs bad attittudes nowadays. even if the parents teach their kids correct values endlessly, everything will end up nothing because of this unrated shows. sad thing about it is , its the parents who'll always blame on their kids attitude
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• Philippines
6 Jan 10
this proves that those who were born during the rise of internet connections can show a very bad effect on their attitude and upbringing. i mean, I was born longer before i was able to use computer or even got to know cable, but now every thing seems to be different from the other.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 10
hi drakesuyat & LetranKnight25! both of you are right & have your points. besides giving convenience to people, the rise of internet also cause a number of bad effects on children/youth for their inmaturity of using the internet.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
13 Jan 10
That picture says so much doesn’t it? And none of it is good! It is an appalling example of the way kids are brought up these days. I know it makes me sound like an old fuddy duddy but it is shocking and I cannot imagine doing such an act when I was a kid! It shows not just rudeness and lack of respect but a frightening lack of compassion for another who is disadvantaged.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 Jan 10
me too! i don't even dare to do such an act to an animal, not to mention to an elderly woman, furthermore disadvantaged.
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• Philippines
6 Jan 10
hello victory, you can only blame on thing, and that is TV and any other media regarding this behavior, i doubt the kid would do such if she really knew what the sign meant. of course, it wouldn't hurt the old lady if she doesn't know what it means, but for us who knows this well, it's really darn bad impression. am sure she got a good spanking if her parents ever saw this pic
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
yeah she should have got a good spanking from her parents/guardians. if she is not being corrected for this time, i'm afraid that she would be doing something more serious in the future.
@derek_a (10897)
6 Jan 10
Unfortunately, this seems to be a world-wide phenomenon. Kids here in the UK are often making these sort of gestures. We used to live quite near a school and happened to be walking behind a group of kids that I say would be around 10/11 years old. There were both girls and boys speaking very loudly and every other word was a profanity. They hear it on the TV coming from adults mostly. Although bad language is kept to a minimum, after 9pm, you will hear it all. No many kids go to bed that early these days. And I have lost the number of occasions I have been cussed at when I have asked kids to stop playing around with my car when it is parked outside. They know there is nothing you can do and they just speak to you how they like. I got it used to it now, but can't help but consider that what I am hearing is our future. - Derek
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
thanks for sharing from your perspective & experience. it's really a sad thing because it seems like we are the one who would have to get used to the things like this, while the youngsters can do whatever they wished.
@MrKennedy (1993)
6 Jan 10
You cannot deny the fact that the youth of today have a lot less respect for their elders than previous generations. They now think that the elderly are inferior to them, and that they have the automatic right to treat the elderly however they want, and not with the respect that they deserve
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 10
something must be done to save the next generation from getting corrupted by all the bad influences.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
5 Jan 10
Whenever I see that rare occasion, it still makes my eyebrows raise, but Im really not that surprised. That's because when I was about 10, the house next to ours was an apartment complex so there were a lot of families and kids there. I would hear the youngest child in the complex cussing at the top of his lungs in the street. Some older kids were teasing him and took his slippers, so in frustration, he just screamed blasphemies at the top of his lungs for all the neighborhood to hear. He was just 4 years old at that time. There's also this one incident that a friend's niece dirty fingered a passerby on a whim. I was surprised by that because the little girl is only 3 years old. I saw the finger, covered it, and told her to stop. I was going to scold her but I have no right because she was not my relative. I just told my friend about it (who didnt see the incident) and she gave a comment that gave me the impression, that was not the first time the little girl did that. Again Im not really surprised because the environment that these kids grew up or are growing up in is dysfunctional. I mean I would often hear our then neighbors cussing haphazardly. The friend's family are also "potty mouths" that the kids are growing to get accustomed to that kind of language thinking it was alright. I do sometimes keep my friend in check when she's cussing outrageously but that's all that I can do. It would be up to her on how she will take my advice. Society is gradually deteriorating. Human life is a cycle after all. Sooner or later there will be the Dark Ages again. Maybe not exactly how it was implemented but the concept of it is the same. It's the tipping point. Like a movie quote said, it's at the tipping point that people do change.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 10
that means you have been used to this type of things. you have so many similar experiences about it. now i wonder how that photographer managed to snap that photo. it might be more than just coincidence? have you enlarged the image?
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
5 Jan 10
I kinda am, but those are rare occasions. I guess that's why my eyebrows still raise at such behavior. I have seen the image and I have commented on it. I think it was just one of those lucky coincidences that the photographer witnessed the event and managed to take a shot.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 10
sorry, i did not notice that you left a comment there 3 hours ago. unfortunately, i could not comment back to you there because it says You must be friends with this person to leave a comment. that's one of the bug that mylot is working into it.
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@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
10 Jan 10
no offense to anybody but i always come up with one thing in mind with everything that's happening in the world today: overpopulation. couples produce more than what they could financially and emotionally support. thus, with everything kids watch nowadays on tv there is no adult present to explain pg shows because both mom and dad are tired from work. teachers in school are burdened with too much work due to a lot of students or a lot of children of their own that drains their energy when they get back home that they lack the presence of mind to even have the insight to go a little bit way beyond their lesson plans and do some of the work parents should do. again, peace .
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 Jan 10
your response is the first to come up with the idea overpopulation which is really reasonably true. this reminds me of my dad. he worked in the same company for more than 40 years. during his service in the company, he never do any overtime, & he always got back on time to be with us. of course he received a very low salary in that company. but since there is only four of us (dad, mom, sister, me), his salary is sufficient for us. we (my sister & i) have been brought up with no lack, & both of us did graduated from university with bachelor's degree many years ago.
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@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
you're very lucky to have a father like that. like mine . but i think your parents are also very lucky for without the kids' presence of mind their sacrifices wouldn't bear any results. you and your sister also played an immense part on their success as parents.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
1 Mar 10
thank you, Ritchelle, for your compliments about my father. sorry for my very late reply.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
6 Jan 10
our society has done this. No respect for anyone,not even an elderly old lady. She learned it from her peers and even maybe from her parents if she has any. I hope we teach our kids differently.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 10
yeah, it is very important for parents to pay more attention on their children especially in today's society.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
15 Jan 10
I know in my case, my three grandsons are internet game and tv game freaks and I cannot afford the games they buy for thier WII, so I was forced to give them gift certificates for Christmas. Broke my heart. But, I ASKED my son(42) if I could send them a National Geographic magazine. My youngest grandson, 6, was so thrilled when he found some sea shells by this lake and his dad(my own son !0 said, so what??? But, he did give me his permission to send the subscription to the boys. It's my hopes to open their eyes to world unknown rather than the stuff they find on the internet and in their non reality WII games. I hope it works but they are all three good boys and I do praise my son for making them courteous but to ignore a little one's need for praise on something as simple as some tiny sea shells hurt me as bad as it did my little granson. I am also hoping to find some books on birds, shells, sea life, etc that he can READ and see the pictures and maybe even some DVDs he can learn from. our world is just too technologically oriented and kids don't have a chance to find the simple things in life are intrigueing and fun at the same time. thanks, quita
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
that's really something great to share with us. i appreciate you are willing to share your own experience as an example for us to understand more about the whole situation of the world today.
• Boston, Massachusetts
5 Jan 10
Hi Victory, That is unacceptable. No way for a kid to do that and even for an adult to be like that it's really BAD. This can be a result of over exposure to media and lesser supervision and guidance from parents. i hope we parents will exert extra effort to guide our kids to become a good person...citizen.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
7 Jan 10
yeah, that's one of the most crucial responsible of the parents = to exert extra effort to guide their kids.
• Boston, Massachusetts
7 Jan 10
yes...as parents there are lots of things that we need to learn to grow with our kids. we need to cope with the demands of the time so we will not left behind and be able to guide our children rightly. i hope parents will exert extra effort to fully be there for their kids.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
12 Jan 10
yes that's so true. it's really not easy to raise up a child, as you said, parents need to cope with the demands of the time. the ways how chidren were being raised in the 90s are not working now.
• United States
6 Jan 10
Nicholas Cage made a movie called "Lord Of War" which shows some of what you are talking about and also the last Rambo movie showed the children soldiers. Our news programs on television and cable often show this type of thing but because it happens in other countries then it is sometimes looked over by more local news or some of it could even be audited by the government. What a lot of people fail to realize is that other countries are at war and have been at war for years. Children are born into it and raised into adulthood without knowing anything else. A lot of these countries need soldiers so they train special units of children usually around the starting age of twelve or thirteen but sometimes younger. The saying is that "A bullet from a fourteen year old is just as deadly as one from a forty five year old".
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
19 Jan 10
that's true, cableman67. are you once a soldier too? by the way, from your photos, you don't look like 42, you look younger at least 10 years there.
• United States
19 Jan 10
Thank you for the wonderful comment. I am actually 43 now. I was born in 1967, on September 8. I have always been a outdoor person and hard worker so I have kept trim if not a little skinny. And no I have not had the pleasure of being in one of the armed services. I had an eye injury when I was 18 and it stopped me from being able to enlist. I just try to keep up with the truth and not the propaganda that we are sometimes fed.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
aww... that means you have always wanted to be in the army but was just unfortunate. you look very fit & if not because of your eye injury, you must now be one of the high rank in the army.
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
6 Jan 10
Well, everything is possible now.. It's not as surprising, due to the internet, and peer pressure.. haha =D Kids nowadays are growing up fast, and before one knows it, they have already been influenced with all the bad stuffs.. haha =D BUt yet at their young tender age, we cant tell them to choose their friends properly, as it will mean losing their frenz in school.. Will they want that?? I dun think so.. So instead of becoming a loner, they will wanna hang out with them more, as it's fun!! haha =D We cant stop them from making frenz, but we can only tell them what's right and wrong..
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 10
i prefer to be a loner & i dislike hanging out. i'm a weirdo + otaku...
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
18 Jan 10
Maybe u should hang out with the gal showing middle finger, and she will show u what life is all about.. lol =D
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
19 Jan 10
i still prefer to be a loner...
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@walijo2008 (4646)
• United States
5 Jan 10
I shudder to think about the future of our world when you think about the kids today and how they're attitudes are, and the things they do, they're so disrespectful of everything and everybody. There's no telling where the girl learned that, just look at the stuff they show on tv these days.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
12 Jan 10
since television got all the blames, so parents nowadays must be wise in choosing which types of movies/shows to be watched by their kids. what do you think?
• United States
12 Jan 10
Yes, I think that parents should be wise in what they let their kids watch. Have you seen some of the video games that kids are playing these days, they seem so violent, some people think they're harmless, but I don't think so. I know myself I wouldn't play them.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 10
that's true. there are quite a number of violent video/computer games nowadays. that's bad because it corrupts the innocent mind of a little kid.
• United States
5 Jan 10
Dare I say it? it is us Yanks who have taught her this. with all the t.v. she now gets to see , she picked this up. it is a pity because of all the peoples on this planet I assumed that Asians were the most respectful when it came to their elders. On average they aren't shipped to nursing homes. They are Part of the family. This is sad. I'm so sorry. The world is getting smaller but sometimes this isn't a good thing.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 10
you are right, sarahruthbeth22. she must had learnt from the media especially from the television shows. as you have mentioned, asians were the most respectful when it came to their elders, but this image is showing an asian kid. it's really sad because it means that even the most respectful region is turning away & getting worse.
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• China
6 Jan 10
I do not think this image was equal to all gloomy things ,after all it is a kid ,everybody knows that the kids like to imitate all kinds of things they are intersted in ,but perhaps they do not know which one is fully good or bad ,So I think the kids need the adults' leading and education .not only in Asian region but also in European region .So just relax .
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
7 Jan 10
yeah, every kid in any regions need adults' supervision & correction because they do not know what they are imitating.
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@Hvaniday1 (550)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 10
LOL...No one teaching her that way but by learning herself. The world had changed and never like before, kids learn things very fast through their observation.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
so you have to be careful with your behaviour so that kids around you will not learn any bad examples from you.
• Malaysia
23 Jan 10
Are you trying to say "monkey see monkey do"?
• United States
9 Jan 10
Disrespect from bratty kids to their elders is as old as human society, hence the biblical "spare the rod, spoil the child". * What is new is how much is seen. Images and news stories of disrespectful, bratty, and spoiled kids can be all over this big blue marble faster than that biblical phrase can be uttered thanks to the world wide web. * In the past, your disrespectful, urinating-in-public bratty yob of the UK would not be read about by folks in the USA in the Daily Mail. The tweenie Gangster wannabe would not be posting nasty YouTube videos rapping four letter words while grabbing his privates. Both of these ahems would be strictly local headaches. * The world wide web is a giant eye to the world, for both good, aka adorable cute kittens, and for bad, fowl mouthed celeb wannabes.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
i don't know why, but i like your english very much!
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• United States
23 Jan 10
Thank you!
@mzz663 (2773)
• United States
7 Jan 10
After taking a good look at the pic, I'm not sure that I would be so judgmental about the girl.A picture says a thousand words, it's true and some people see one or two hundred out of the thousand. If you look, the other girl has her hand wrapped around the girls shoulder and it's one of those things you do with someone when they're upset and you're telling them to "come one, forget about it" I would like to know before I made any kind of comment what exactly was going on. The old woman looks like she is talking and we don't really know what she is saying, the little girls mouth doesn't look like she is speaking at all. How do we know that the old lady isn't saying something mean or nasty to her, like maybe she's telling her how selfish she is or she could give her lunch money. It could possibly be the same thing that a bully does to collect lunch money.I don't think the little girl is flipping the old lady off just because she is sitting there, begging.
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@mzz663 (2773)
• United States
7 Jan 10
And I am wondering why an adult would beg off of a child in the first place. What kind of job or money would the kid have to offer?
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
that's logically true, mzz663! you have all the points there. we really don't know what's the story behind the photo. what you have mentioned are also possible.
• China
7 Jan 10
i believe most of us must will feel angry. the kid has such a bad manner, first it's his parents fault, i think. maybe she learned from her parents, or some of her friends...
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 10
you are right she must have learned from people around her or other than that must be from the media like television, internet, etc.
• China
21 Jan 10
so when we have children, we grow-upers should act well to give good examples.
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@jdyrj777 (6543)
• United States
6 Jan 10
Oh no! I guess this is happening around the globe. Im in USA i see things like that here too. One day while on a shuttle bus downtown, a couple in their 80's gets on and nobody gets up to offer a seat. Finally some young tourist from a asian country give up their seat for them. I felt bad that somebody from my own country could not give up a seat to very elderly people. But i have noticed that these courtesy are usually done by youths from other countries and not the US. I thought it was only happening here. I have pondered so much as to why this is happening and i can only guess its in a bad upbringing. They were not taught correctly. I dont know.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
19 Jan 10
thanks for sharing this experience of yours. usually tourist has a good behaviour & i have seen tourists from the western countries (including the us) behaving the way you mentioned about the asian. so regarding the young asian tourist, i wonder whether they would do the same in their home country?
@jdyrj777 (6543)
• United States
19 Jan 10
I would hope they all behave as well in thier own country as they do abroad. Im glad my counties youth behaved well while abroad also. Maybe its just in the way some are raised.
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@hagirl (1296)
• United States
6 Jan 10
I will hate to say it though Kids learn by what they see... this may be at home or school.... if it is condoned at one of these two places and acted upon if it happens there than this is what you got.....
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
you are right, hagirl. kids learn from what they see/hear. i have seen a lot of similar cases whereby the parents were talking to someone (with the kids around), later the kids tend to repeat the sentence spoken by the parents.
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I think instead of s*x education in our schools that need to start teaching etiquette, politeness, respect and how to earn it..... then you see what kind of children come out of our schools..... I guarantee if the school teaches this the parents will see it at home..... And Sorry to say but maybe some of these kids will be able to teach their parents a thing or two
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