January 5, 2010 7:44am CST
Do you sometimes feel empty? Like when the person who gave you a reason to be happy is suddenly gone and all you feel is a dull, empty ache? I hate this feeling. I have many reasons to be happy and to be thankful for. But right now I feel empty inside. Emotional investment drained me.
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5 Jan 10
I've been through that kind of situation before with my current boyfriend. We've been together for more than 6 years now (and still counting) but we've been through a lot of trials in the past too. We started a relationship which made me think that will never last. It was just a joke but then everything turned to be real. I believe that I was the one who first fell in love with him. That time, he still had a lot of girlfriends. It was okay with me at first but then I realized one day, it was no longer good. It hurt me already. Our relationship was on and off before. There was one time wherein I heard from my friend that he saw my boyfriend dating another girl. It was really very painful for me. He even left me many times and I was so alone and empty those times. I felt like I was already numb because of the extreme pain I felt. I could even hardly breathe. I actually fought for my love because I strongly believe that he's meant to be mine. That was really the thought that remained on my mind. I never gave up until the day he realized that I am the one for him too. Well I just shared my personal experience to you so that you won't lose hope. If you love someone, then fight for that love. You'll know when to give up and when to continue fighting. The emptiness and the pain you are feeling right now will only help you become stronger.
15 Jan 10
Hi pentagan. I appreciated the story that you shared. In life, we really can't help but invest in relationships, with our family and friends. We can't be indifferent after all. I am still in pain but trying to move on with my life. Thanks for the encouraging words.
5 Jan 10
Yap sometimes we have to feel this situation to grow and we dont know the reason for such a feeling without experiencing it.At least for once in our lives we have tried all these different feelings and moods of joy, sadness, lonliness and pain that will surely lead us to become better and stronger. Life is not always in our favor but we should find out the real destiny behind every tears and smiles as well. Keep believing.
5 Jan 10
Just give it some time and it will heal. And just give this discussion some time here in myLot. I know that the good souls here will have a few inspiring words to help you pick it up. I know this as I also experienced the same feeling a while back, and a few lotters here went out of their way to make me feel better. Shout out to M and J and H from NY.
5 Jan 10
yes emotional investment can actually drain you so much all that is left behind is just emptiness. i had gone through this stage and am just begun recovering.yet that feeling of emptiness still lingers on.when you are so habitual about somebody's presence in your life.sudden break to this do get you in such a state but its not permanent. time definitely heals it up.trust me you are soon going to find happiness within yourself if not in others.
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5 Jan 10
I am feeling a bit on the down side as well. My boyfriend got out of jail yesterday. I had to call the jail 6 times to find out he was released. Not once has he called me to notify my. Now I have to do away with him before I get myself hurt. So Yes my friend I know just how you feel.