How nicely can you speak in a group of people around you

India
January 5, 2010 11:46am CST
Some people can talk very interestingly in a group. They can make the people laugh and can simply dominate the group. Though I am poor in public speaking I am very good in talking interestingly with the people around me. One of the reasons for this is I do have some basic knowledge at least in varied subjects and a sense of humor and ability to crack jokes instantly. How about you?
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@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 10
I have perfected my public relationship since I am in constant contact with people in all levels. I can switch my conversation at the twist of the fingers to suit my audience. My line of business needs the power of being versatile in communications which make people comfortable in my presence. I have no problem when I am in public. That is where my greatest asset lies, the ability to strike a good conversation with all levels of society regardless whether she is Her Royal highness or the man on the street.
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• India
5 Jan 10
wow, that is a great ability zandi. I admire and respect you for that. I bet all your friends and relatives love to talk with you.
@vathsala30 (3728)
• India
5 Jan 10
I think I too have got all the above qualities and can join your bandwagon
• India
5 Jan 10
I guessed that already vathsala. Nice to confirm it from you now. your offline friends must be very lucky then.
• India
5 Jan 10
I do not think my offline friends will be that lucky but I think I am very very lucky to have them as my offline friends
• India
5 Jan 10
I am equally lucky to have you as my mylot friend,
@malamar (784)
• Canada
5 Jan 10
I spent almost all of my career in public speaking, leading training seminars, and things like that. I am comfortable in front of a large crowd or a small group of people, but it has weakened my ability to communicate one on one. I can do it a bit better face to face, but this online communication sometimes messes me up big time. That is one of the reasons I enjoy Mylot so much. Different people, nationalities, customs, genders....the list goes on. Have I put my foot in my mouth on occasion? Yep, sure have! But, overall, it is a great experience. There are some on here that I care about, some I stalk (just wanna know more about them), and still others that scare the heck out of me! But each one is a challenge, a new experience, and each one has the ability to teach me something. That's what I'm here for!
• India
9 Jan 10
hi, malamar, nice to note you are having a career in public speaking. That is really interesting. Your discussion is a proof for your job talents.
• Pakistan
5 Jan 10
I am not very much expressive and vocal. It takes people sometime to understand me. I never have good first impression on my interlocutors. But, with the passage of time, when they realise my sincerity and truthfulness, they love more than ever.
• India
9 Jan 10
Yes, khadim some people are like you, not a problem at all as they will understand you after some time.
• China
9 Jan 10
Well, I was once not good at speaking in a group of people. I just felt I could get involved in their conversation and it made me really upset. Later, I began to work as a college teacher. I have to stand in front of the whole class which may include 100 students or more. It's a challege at first. I felt nervous and couldn't express myself very well. But after some time, I learned to speak confidently in the class. Because of this, I also found that I was no longer uncomfortable when speaking in a group of people. I can talk with others openly and freely without worrying about something. It feels good.
@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
7 Jan 10
I suppose some people join something called a Master class to learn how to speak well. or Toastmasters. I think it's important to be able to speak well publicly, and it's definitely a skill when it comes to work. congrats on being an interesting speaker to your friends! I think I am quite an interesting conversationalist as well. But if the subject area is new to me, then I will be less confident about speaking about it work wise.
• United States
6 Jan 10
I can talk well with others but I don't think I could be a public speaker of any kind. I would be way too nervous to stand up in a group of people and start talking about things I am shy at first and seem like a quiet person but once I get to know someone I can really talk a lot. I have a great sense of humor and I try not to take thingd too seriously life is too short! You know what I mean? Well have a good day.
@MimiRemo (420)
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
I'm very articulate in conversations. But at times, I find it difficult to adjust when someone who is not as open-minded is mixed in such a group. I'm used to discussions as I conduct classes sometimes, I publicly read or do Bible readings in regular or wedding masses, and even organize events sometimes. I just don't like doing speeches (not that I am ever invited to do one) because it's too time-consuming to write a perfect speech. It's an advantage if we socialize a lot.
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 10
I am a reasonably good speaker.Though I am a bit reticent,but when I am needed to speak,I manage to make an impression..:)...Public speaking,well,it does get me jittery but I don't get tongue tied or anything and manage to sail through.Thanks to my vocal chords,I have got a commanding voice which helps my cause even more..:)...Other than that,being an Mba student,I am supposed to make a lot of presentations and get into case study discussions so that kind of keeps improving my communication skills.Practice makes a person better if not perfect...LOL...:)
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
6 Jan 10
hi vijayanths, just like you i am also having some knowledge and i am also having fear of public speaking,i can also cut jokes and i will also use sense of humor,but i am strait forward perspon,some times it may lead some bad thinking on me and some times i may loose my image also,so what to do,have a nice day
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
6 Jan 10
haha,...,,interesting topic. I will say i am good at both, but i am better in talking interesting things around group of my friends.The secert is that we are in the same country, so we understand the joke that we are talking about, and we have the same information of jokes.
@voldrox (7202)
• India
6 Jan 10
hi vijay, hmm i am a little conservative or say shy, so i don't speak much in a group but hey i have something interesting and small to say at times, like make some jokes or make the talk a little light, i do get things running in my head and i believe i am a good listener, sometimes it is like others expect and wait for me to say something and when it comes out they are happy and sometimes amused lol.. i don't speak much in a group and yeah certainly not like a leader or something.. it's like i am a fun factor when i am with my friends but yeah i know things and am glad to speak out if some serious talks are going on. . another nice one vijay. . have a nice day.
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
I have a sense of humor too, but not that big. I am not always the star of the party or meeting but I sometimes the source of laughter. Sometimes a friend will started it and then I will do the second. I have so many stories and mostly stories that comes from me are about jokes, personal funny experience and so much more. I do share my fan fiction stories to them. You know I have a talent of story telling. I do my novels when I was in my grade school and highschool. I influenced some of my friends before to show their talent too. Whenever I share stories everyone is interested to listen as they like me to share my stories. I am more imaginative and i add color and life to my stories, i also do the action to make it more real. In my groups of friends I can say I am part of the story teller that give life to every meeting we have.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
6 Jan 10
i think that i am person who could not easy adapt to situation.so i met stranger and dont communicate with them.when we know each other,i like to make a joke with them.i think that i have not ability to dominate the group