Sharing our depression

Depression - A depressed woman
India
January 6, 2010 7:38pm CST
Hello friends Sometimes we are happy and feel on the top of the world. So during that time we sing, dance, hop, jump and do all funny things. During that time, even our worst foe looks like our best friend. But when we are very much depressed, our own shadow looks like a scrap. That time we do not feel like talking to any one, smiling vanishes from our face, food looks like poison. If anyone tries to talk with us or crack jokes,we feel irritated, do not feel like welcoming guests. Just want to stay alone in a corner of a room, with lights switched off, eyes closed and keep recollecting the past memories we have spent with the person who is the reason for the depression. But this will not be the same with all. Kindly share with me your method of enjoying the happiness and over coming the depression
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20 responses
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
7 Jan 10
hi,vathsala,Good morning..here are some tips for both... To relieve from depression--- 1]Set Goals 2]Sleep 3]Exercise 4]Forgiveness 5]Gratitude 6]Sunlight 7]Hydration 8]Friendships 9]Reading 10]Journal http://www.dumblittleman.com/2009/03/10-simple-ways-to-overcome-depression.html To enjoy happiness----- 1. Appreciate Beauty. 2. Connect With Nature. 3. Laugh. 4. Have Simple Pleasures. 5. Connect With People. 6.Learn. 7]Rethink Your Mornings and Evenings. 8. Celebrate Your Successes. http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/enjoy-life-each-day/ Have a nice time,friend
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• India
7 Jan 10
[b]Hi Balu Very Very Good Morning[/b] I think you are a master of all subjects and not only in your plantations business alone because in all your responses, you will give a very detailed info which makes me to develop an instant interest in your responses and makes me to search for your response in each and every of my discussions
@neelimaravi (1793)
• India
7 Jan 10
hi aunty, well, to be frankly, i won't much depressed for any matter, yeah, if we depressed for certain situation, it won't come back in the normal way. so, i never depressed for anything, i just think for that such a time that's all. or i will concentrate on other things, by doing computer work or embroidery work. thankyou, have a good day.
• India
11 Jan 10
Hi Neelima You are so lucky that you won't feel depressed and it is really a God's gift to be like you. As far as I am concerned, I will be depressed for very small things and become moody for the entire day. You are using a good tactics that to recover from your depression you will divert your mind like embroidery and concentrate on some other work which I appreciate a lot
• India
11 Jan 10
Thankyou aunty.. i need all of your blessings for everything. have a good day.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 10
Hi vathsala! When sometimes I feel sad due to unfavourable happenings, I try to divert my attention towards some good things. I try to recollect and recall my blessings and try to think positive. Sitting in a lonely and dark room cannot be the best remedy to overcome my depression, I know it. I indulge in something sooner than later because sitting idle and thinking continously will not help me. What about you?
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 10
I can understand your point, however, would still stay that whenever you are very much sad, please try to divert your attention, too much thinking will make you feel more depressing.
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi deepak You are correct to some extent. By diverting our attention on some other positive things, we can overcome our depression. Still in a corner of my mind, the sadness will be there and it will be haunting my memories and take me into deep sadness. I can not concentrate on any thing. Every thing looks like disinterested and during that time if anybody tries to cheer me up or try to approach me to cajole, will still irritate me and makes my anger worse
@Sreekala (34314)
• India
11 Jan 10
Hi dear, This is life and we may face bad as well as good. I agree with you, when we feel bad we don’t want to face anybody but it is not the right thing to avoid the depression. If we have nice friends we can share our problem so that we may feel better. If I am on the situation I may feel angry on everybody… but I won’t take much time to relive. Ladies have some hormonal problems which may cause depression.
• India
12 Jan 10
Hi sree You are right. If we are in depression, every activity of ours cease to be interested. Only the right friends can be help us out from these situations.
• United States
10 Jan 10
when it comes to depression you have to try to make yourself happy all the time. Depression tries to get down. I no how that feels I go through it but we have to laugh when we don't feel like laughing. You have to try to change your thinking patterns. When you feel like you are starting to be depressed find something to do it will change it.
• India
27 Jan 10
Hi strawberrybaby I totally agree with you that when we are depressed, we must do something to forget it by diverting our mind in some other thoughts
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
7 Oct 10
i feel i get refreshed after having my chocolates. And best remedy is Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle depression.
• India
8 Oct 10
I too eat lots of chocolates. I do meditation and pranayama and yoga too . it gives me comfort, relaxation and mental peace. As you say, it helps to balance and handle the depression. Thanks for the nice info
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
7 Jan 10
hi vathsala garu, that is common in life and every body have had this type of feelings in their lives several times,for me and you also the same,we are human beings,we cannot keep our feeling in our heart that will comeout from us in the type of anger,hate,ugliness etc etc,only "snithpragnulu" like lor Krishna Bhagavan will not shake with all these,have a nice day day
• India
16 Jan 10
Hi yugasini garu Yes. Like morning and evening, happy and sad, we have depressions too do occur sometimes. To over come it, people will adopt different methods. You are right. We are not any snithpragnulu like krishna but just human beings and we will have to face as and when we get happiness, sadness, and even depressions too. Thanks my friend for responding
@Rycharde (18)
7 Jan 10
Much of the advice here seems to be about trying to forget one's depression - just displacement activities. I actually got myself out of a deep depression some years ago. I did so by doing the opposite of what everyone was advising - I went deeper into the depression so that I could figure out what was causing it. I figured something happened in my mind and the only person who was going to dive in and rummage around was me. It took a lot of study, some meditation and I even learnt hypnosis. It worked. I came out of it with renewed energy. I can't say I have a sunny disposition, but being cynical and being depressed are different. Like I said, it may sound counter-intuitive but getting out sometimes means going deeper and deeper before finding the key. It's in many ways no different to role playing games - except it's for real. Other people? I forgot about them for a couple of years - they were still there when I emerged.
• India
27 Jan 10
Hi Rycharde I too heard about hypnosis. But do it really work? I too love to learn hypnosis but I do not know is there any person who teaches me that art because for each and every small issues I become mood out and I think I need to learn hypnosis. Is that tuitions available on the net? Your thoughts of going deeper and deeper into depression to find the cause and get out of it is really true.
• China
7 Jan 10
hi,vathsala,i had hearded that eating the bananas would make a people feel happy so when i am unhappy i would eat a lot of bananas,but it didn`t work at all,it makes me upset more so i turn to eat a lot of other things,i wouldn`t going to be fatter but being thiner and thiner……but when i am happy i would keep a steable weight,i would share the happiness with my friends by singing ,dancing and so on
• India
9 Jan 10
Hi sweety Bananas has nothing to do with the depression but it gives lots of energy since it is a protein rich fruit. That is why you did not benefit out of bananas when you eat it when you are in depression. You are doing the right thing by sharing your happiness with your friends by singing and dancing
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi, Yes, different people deal with depression differently. To deal with depression one must built a permanent positive mindset which unfortunately can't be built overnight. When I get depressed, for a moment I feel irritated to a great extent. But then I try to battle it with reasons. First of all I think to myself that there is no such thing that has entirely bad aspect. I mean, there must be a good as well as a bad part of everything. The situation that has made me so depressed may also have some good outcome which is not visible right now, but may be in future God has something better in store for me. Then I try to get mentally detached from the whole situation. I try to meditate for a while or read some good, encouraging books. But what helps me most is the very thought that whatever God bestowed upon me is for some good reason and it must be for my own good. The root cause for depression is often sudden breach of trust or expectation. If one can get enough control over one's own mind so as to beat the expectation and desire the depression slowly vanishes away. A strong belief in God has made me so strong that I don't even need to share my depression with somebody. It just vanishes away. To learn more about the meditation and self-detachment process you may consider reading this article I've written recently.http://enlightenedsoul.wordpress.com/ Take care God bless you all
• India
26 Jan 10
Hi getbiswa You are so great and really i appreciate your self control and will power. You are right. If we have control over our mind and body, there will not be any depression and tension. Sometimes I too used to think this way only. if somebody whom I like most, suddenly neglects me or betrays me initially i feel remorse but later on I will come to terms that the person does not deserve my trust at all and so the depression vanishes within no time
@DenverLC (1143)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
Hello there Vathsala, The more we think about our problems and frustrations, it will just keep adding the pain and mysery rooted deep within us. In effect we disregard other people around who love and care about us that much, we refused to move on, we forget to smile and to look at the brighter side of life. Hey Cheer up! In situation like this, we must not look back to cry on our misfortune but rather to learn and move far. Learn to accept and let go, find the best way to keep you busy and going. Pray, play, relax, work and pray.
• India
24 Jan 10
Hi denvert.c I totally agree with you that the more we think about our problems and frustrations, it will just boost them still more. But when we are all alone at home our mind instead of thinking about the good will start think about the persons responsible for our low spirits lol. Thank you for your kind advice my friend. Next time when I go into low mood, definitely I will follow all your tips to keep myself busy
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
Hi, there! We can tell when a person is happy, it easily shows. Whenever I am, I try to spread the happiness around like singing a song that would get stuck in other people's heads, do something nice to others, give them a treat, and I couldn't seem to stop smiling and being cheerful. However, when I am depressed, I listen to music so all I could think of is the melody. It's either I prefer to be left alone, or seek the company of people who are happy at the moment, and the comfort of desserts. It's also good to cry once in a while or put in a journal what I'm feeling, it's a good outlet of purging emotions.
• India
11 Jan 10
Hi mimiremo You are right. When one is in a happy mood it can be expressed in so many ways. But when we are not in good moods, we just do not feel like laughing, cheerful and will remain lonely. But we have to face both good and bad in life and try to be cheerful always and try to overcome our grief by some means. Thank you for responding my friend
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
Well that happens to me too.I think for a start we should admit to ourself that we are depressed.Thats the only time we know really the root of our problem,then we can deal with the problem. Instead of not knowing what's happening to us.This happens to most people with the attitude that they don't want to dwell on negative things.But that's just fooling yourself sometimes ,and just avoiding the reality. Ok after i know why im like this and like that,thats the time i count my blessings. And start thinking positive.I dont feel better at once but it helps me get on my feet sooner. And we are lucky nowadays, coz we have computers.We can go to our network sites and try to get amused by the activity going on there.Or maybe we can watch some youtube videos that will help us divert our attention to the negative thoughts thats trying to make us pull us down. This is my way of dealing with depression. Hope ur having a great week.
• India
26 Jan 10
Hi lipstick your ideas are practical. Actually when I am in low mood, I definitely know the cause and the origin of my mood. some times in a fit of anger I say something and that leads to the unpleasant conditions and hence becomes the cause of my bad mood. So if that is the case, next time I will try to check my words or if the cause is something else or some other persons harsh words or behaviour, I will try to correct them or let them know that It hurts me and try to make them understand their mistake and see that next time they do not repeat that mistake again.
7 Jan 10
I think the root cause of depression is when you start to look down yourself and think you lack so many things in life and then started comparing yourself with other people... I guess the best remedy for depression is feel good about yourself even if you are feeling so down... there are so many ways to cheer ourselves or maybe start helping other people and maybe you will realize how lucky you are in some ways.
• India
16 Jan 10
Hi kerstinerose Your suggestion is well taken. You are correct to some extent, i think. But for all the depressions, i do not think this is the reason. As you say, the best remedy you have suggested is the real remedy. It is useful too my dear friend.
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
whenever im feeling depressed, i always look for ways where i can laugh. and i thank mr.bean so much coz he's videos are always available on the net. i always believe that by laughing alone, you can bring out all those negative things inside you and the next thing i knew is im already working on solving the problem. thats the simplest but i think the most effective way of releasing depression. happy mylotting vathsala30
• India
7 Jan 10
Hello dear friend drakesuyat Mr Bean is really a comedy show and even i have seen it several times. My children simply enjoy that show. We can relieve our depression to some extent through laughing and watching some positive programmes in the TV. Still we can not completely over come from our problem. It takes its own time to heal the wound
• India
7 Jan 10
hi vathsala , i too feel like the same. when i am happy i used to like all the things and activities that are around me. but when iam upset it somehow takes some time for me to overcome from it. i like to be alone when i am upset. nowadays i am getting more angry when things go out of my hands
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi priya Yes. When one is happy the entire world looks like a bed of roses but if the same person goes into depression his own shadow will haunt him and every thing cease to be interested. If I am happy, I will celebrate my happiness with my entire folk and if I am depressed, I will be bearing that feeling all alone and it takes a long time for me to over come and nothing or nobody can make me comfortable or cheer up during that time lest they will make me more irritated
• China
7 Jan 10
Hi! please don't make fun of me if i say it to my decompression method--just eat snack food,i am a girl,i think that is why a lot of fat women,aha...... (because smoking and drink are the most of the decompression method of male),especially sweets,can make people happy,said to have scientific basis ps:money is the cource of much of the presure
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi my friend I will not make fun of you as I am also a woman and do the same as you do. Just keep on emptying snacks, cookies, chips and just putting on and on and on over weight. ha ha ha
@vedhak (32)
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi vathsala, good morning. I do not feel eating, talking or doing anything when depressed. I will write if want to do something and couldn't on paper. whatever is there in mind i ll put on paper. it releavs me alot. and when feel happy, I love to talk with my best pals. and share everything with them. thanks for reading my feelings..:)
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi vedha You are right. What ever feelings we have, it is better to share with our near and dear ones and get solace, makes us feel light in these situations. Still If I feel down, I want to be alone for some time in a calm place just closing my eyes and lying in my bed with the thoughts of the old memories and it takes some days for me to overcome this situation
@ewinner (86)
• India
7 Jan 10
Yeah depression makes us pale and irritating,we dont feel like talking to anyone and makes us to worry a lot.Hence the best method of eradicating depression is go for a long walk,share our feelings with true friend,listen to music etc...
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi dear ewinner You are very true. When one is in depression, he should simply think about positive things and it is better to take a long walk which diverts our mind and gives some relief. I some times share my problems with my sister, who comforts me by giving a piece of advice.I will listen to my favourite music too which soothens the wounded heart
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
10 Oct 10
Well, sometimes its unavoidable that we feel depressed for the day..but for the health its not a good side, i believe in Meditation which will balance our mind and helps to be normal at situations.